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How long will it take me to get over my previous partner/friend?

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Last Updated: 09/14/2020 at 3:54pm
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May 11th, 2020 11:28pm
It really depends on the emotional connection you had with the person and on the terms the relationship between you ended. Sometimes if you are left on bad terms it can take a while but I promise you will eventually get over them, you just need the right support network, talking with people will speed up the process and being honest and accepting your emotions although difficult will make a world of difference! You need to try and just rebuild your life without them in it and the sooner you are capable of doing that, the easier and quicker it will be to get over.
March 16th, 2015 7:04am
Well there isn't an exact answer but maybe talking about your feelings will help you get through this rough time
April 21st, 2015 4:04pm
It varies from person to person; some take just a few weeks, some can take years even! I find that keeping busy and being with others helps speed up the process a lot. I wish you luck :)
April 22nd, 2015 12:47am
There is no set time in which you can get over someone that has to happen on it's own and that may take months, weeks, days and even years. It just depends on how much you really loved and cared about this person.
April 30th, 2015 3:26am
That is all up to you. Many people are different, I can give you advice but it could turn out to be unhelpful, in the end of the day you are the one that makes the choice.
May 3rd, 2015 11:27am
Sometimes someone special in our life ends up leaving it for one reason or another. In my own experience, I have found this to be saddening, and cause feelings of loneliness. For a few months, I even felt hopeless that someone (or something) else special would come into my life to fill that hole in my heart. I had tried taking up new hobbies, working harder, but none of it helped me. One day, I stumbled upon this website, and however cheesy it may sound, I feel in love with it. Simply having someone to talk to really helped me get my life back on track, and feel understood. Later, I became a listener, and being able to help others through their problems made me feel even better. In the end, you just have to find whatever it is that makes you happy.
May 22nd, 2015 5:13pm
Only you can determine how long it will take for you to get over your previous partner/friend. Everyone is different and handles things differently. You have to find the best way that works for you in moving on from someone/something.
July 6th, 2015 9:36pm
It depends on your feelings. Mostly, the first step to forget someone is to forgive and move on. If it somehow ended because of something wrong that you did, then you need to apologize for it and make them understand that you really are sorry. If it ended because of what your partner/friend did, then you need to forgive them and understand that holding grudges will only make it worse. Once you forgive you will move on with your life, find your peace of mind, and hopefully start to build new feelings whether through a friendship or a relationship!
July 20th, 2015 7:31pm
It depends, no matter how long it will take, but give ourselves a timeframe for moving on. That would be more effective.
July 28th, 2015 4:36am
That is up to you and your heart. There is no set date that say you need to be over him/her by now. However long it takes for you!
December 15th, 2015 10:47pm
I would say it depends how much you loved them, say if it was a lot then I would personally say it is a lot harder to get over cause of what you felt towards them.
December 21st, 2015 11:30pm
That is up to you and your heart. There is no set date that say you need to be over him/her by now. However long it takes for you!
January 18th, 2016 9:10am
Exactly the amount of time you'd take to realise that you're more important than anyone else. Love yourself first!
February 1st, 2016 6:20am
It just depends on how attached you were. The best thing to do to help get over them is to find something that can take your mind off of them, but don't do anything harmful to yourself or others.
April 11th, 2016 4:31am
It'll take however long you make it take. If you need to heal, then that'll take time. But if you continue to linger over the thought of no longer being with them, then that'll take longer. Push the thoughts out your head as much as you can. Each day it'll get better. Keep that up and eventually ,you'll find yourself thinking of other things.
May 3rd, 2016 9:02pm
Getting over people can be difficult. If I loved a person, it takes me months, sometimes years to move on.
June 6th, 2016 11:07pm
It depends on the what the relationship was like, the breakup, and how you feel about it. It can take a week, weeks, months, or years. Everyone is different.
June 13th, 2016 11:27pm
Honestly, it depends on who they where, what you and them did, and how long it lasted. Finding other people is a very tricky thing to do, but it begins by saying hello and going a little more out of your comfort zone. For example, the boy with the shirt that has a reference you understand? Tell him and compliment that epic shirt! Don't be afraid of all people because of on person.
June 20th, 2016 7:07am
Everyone is different and no one answer can sum up the time span. It all depends on you, whenever you heal and figure out how to move on from the person.
June 21st, 2016 10:50pm
Everyone is different when it involves getting over someone. Some take weeks, other months, and other years. The important thing to know is that you will get over them, and you will be happy soon. Just give it time :)
June 28th, 2016 3:20am
Depending on how long your relationship was with him/her and how reliable you were on him/her.
October 3rd, 2016 7:41am
As long as you decide on that. We always try to live in past and find difficult to come over of it. The minute you start thinking that you want to get over by your Partner/Friend start working towards it. it will not take much time.
January 30th, 2018 7:52pm
Unfortunately, it's different for everyone. It really depends on the person. For some, it can take a couple of weeks. For others, it can take years. And it's natural to feel impatient with this sort of process. But it will eventually happen.
May 8th, 2018 10:02pm
It depends on how long and how intense the relationship was really. So if you had a longer and deeper relationship with somebody the healing process might take a while...
August 13th, 2018 6:05am
it can take a long time, but eventually you will get over them, even if it takes years. Try to distract yourself from them, get rid of belongings of theirs or things that remind you of them. Also do remember that your allowed to feel sad, to miss them, even tho you two broke up. Everyone gets over a breakup at a different speed, so dont beat yourself up for the speed that your getting over it.
November 18th, 2019 9:52am
I don’t think we can estimate an exact time to get over, it truly varies from person to situations. But I believe that one factor that will help us overcome is the deep decision in our life to overcome, everything begins with our deep determination. Other factors like distance, being in the same group etc also play a role. So distance is good, not being part of a common group etc also helps. The other thing that helps is to have other meaningful relationships and a purpose in life- that could be a job, an interest , a cause etc.
March 31st, 2020 12:13am
I learned that that my perspective was made up of my set of circumstances and my experience. That will vary with each of us, and you know yourself best. Healthy minded approach worked best for me. In time, I learned that my previous friendship was great preparation for the next. I became more discerning and chose more wisely moving forward. I was more studious of character in the early stages of the relationship which made me more decisive as to whether or not I should proceed with the friendship. Time being precious, I learned to seek out those with character,
September 14th, 2020 3:54pm
This is a question that is almost impossible to answer with an accurate number. Everyone is different. Coping mechanism for breaking up with your significant other will vary based on your experiences and the way you grow up and learn throughout life. It really depend on how you see things and how you cope with them. If you are able to keep your mind busy and maintain a routine where you are not thinking about this person or relationship, you eventually will overcome the nature of being used to someone. Now, this does not account for the amount of love you may have for someone. Stopping the feelings for love for someone is a different concept, and may naturally happen at a different rate.