Is venting a good way to move on? how long should it take to move on?

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maddie10
February 23rd, 2015 1:10am
Venting can be a great way to move on. Moving on takes different lengths for everyone. For some it takes a few days, others years.
thewiseowl
March 1st, 2015 10:00pm
Venting is a good way to release your emotions but it's not a good way to move on. You see, moving on take a long time. It depends on the experience you want to move on from though. For example, you want to move on from a certain person that hurt you much but you can't because you still remember the great times you share together. If you experience that, Make sure to forgive the person but never forget because if you do you'll also forget the great times you had experienced.
shiningDay13
March 18th, 2015 8:27pm
It's always great to vent, but try not to vent too much to one particular friend, as it might wear them down. Everyone moves on at their own speed, so it could take days or it could take months.
WarmEnergy07
May 31st, 2015 2:31pm
I know when one of my important relationships ended I vented for a very long time about it. I don't think there is a set amount of time that is healthy to vent I think it just takes everyone different amounts of time for their wounds to heal and for them to move on from an ended relationship.
AutumnSunset23
June 18th, 2015 9:05am
Venting is good at first when you are first dealing the wounds of something or someone that hurt you. Talking to your therapist about the situation is a good idea. He/she can help you come up with a plan to process what happened in a healthy way, so eventually you can accept it and move forwards in live. There is no set sit for long how something should take to move on from, whether it be a break-up, death, job loss, a fight, etc. Everyone is emotionally different. But it is important at a certain point, as I said, to talk to a therapist, and work on moving on.
Nisha101
March 13th, 2015 5:31am
Yes venting is always a good way to move on. There is no time limit to moving on , you move on when you feel ready .
Anonymous
April 15th, 2015 8:13pm
You can not put a time stamp on moving on. Every one does it at their own pace. Venting is good to get rid of build up emotions/feelings like anger for instance. And sometimes venting can help you see things differently because when talking/venting it gets out of your head into the open where you can see it from different angles. Venting can help you relieve tension, pressure and sometimes help you move on with a particular issue, but not always, It might also help you cope in certain situations. It might work for some and might not work for others. We are all different which means different things work for different people. But i do believe venting is a good thing and worth trying.
Anonymous
April 23rd, 2015 12:22am
Each one of us is different. What works for me, may not work for you. Therapeutic release happens in different ways for everyone.And so does getting over a relationship. There is no time frame, just like when you lose a family member, no one can tell you how long you should, or how you should grieve. Some people never get over a loss.
JOSHlovesyou
April 25th, 2015 6:13am
Venting is a great way to move on. i used 7 cups as my outlet to vent and i felt better almost immediately. it depends on how close you were to that person as to how long it should take. i think maybe between 2-4 months is enough time for most
Laddakin
May 3rd, 2015 3:20pm
Yes and no. it is very important to express our emotions in a calm, healthy way rather than letting them simmer and explode later on. So venting has potential for lessening uncontrolled outbursts later. However, venting also has the potential to reinforce negative thoughts or beliefs if we give it that power. It's all in what you do with it. In short - Yes, vent! Make sure you have a solid grasp on objective thoughts, even if you aren't thinking them, and know that your situation is not hopeless.
calmsunshine89
July 28th, 2015 7:09pm
Venting is a good way to get out emotion and to help yourself solve problems. Sometimes talking it out is the best way to solve a problem.
Brittneym101
August 11th, 2015 6:45pm
Venting is a good way to try to move on. When it comes to getting over someone there is no set date/time. Like I've mention in a couple of other Q&A's it can take weeks, months, days and even years just to get over someone and you may never get over them. Every individual has a mind/heart of their own and your feelings for the other individual may have to go away on it's own. Nobody, but you can say when it's time to move on and only you will know how long it will take you. It just depends on how you really felt about this person and how the relationship was.
mscoxie
August 31st, 2015 5:08pm
Venting your problems to someone you trust and who cares about you, is always helpful. There isn't a set time frame for people to move on; everyone gets through things at their own pace.
Anonymous
September 7th, 2015 7:10pm
Personally, I think that venting is a good way to move on, but it can also cause many hard feelings between a couple. If venting to your friends/ family, you are expressing how you feel and letting all emotions out. However this could start to make you resent your ex partner, if you're constantly venting about things that have upset you that they did. Overall I would say that venting is a good way to move on, because you're getting everything off your chest and the person you're venting to is able to show you support. In my opinion, I would say that it takes atleast 4 months to even start to get over someone, that's if you even do. Sometimes you never get over somebody, if the relationship was very real and an emotional connection was made, sometimes you just learn to live without them in your life, and learn how to be happy without them.
Tinygreentreefrog1234
September 22nd, 2015 3:33am
Venting is a very good way to relieve excess stress just be sure to keep your situation in perspective. Ask yourself if the situation is worth stressing over. If it is get help from friends, family, coworkers, teachers, chat lines, group chat, listeners, and mental health professionals. Use and do what you need to feel like your self and live a better life. It takes a while to get over things. Don't put pressure on yourself. Take your time and go at your own pace.
Anonymous
November 30th, 2015 10:47am
Venting is good as it sorts your thoughts. It will bring you perspective hearing your thoughts out loud. Furthermore, the time it takes is different for every situation, I've seen people taking mnths for a relationship that lasted just one month itself. If you are heavily invested emotionally it will just take a long time. Try finding things to keep you distracted, things that will make you happy and remember why things didn't work, all the time. Don't blame yourself, remind yourself that things just aren't meant to be and that you deserve someone with who it all will be right.
shiningCherry13
December 14th, 2015 9:56am
Venting is definitely a very good way to move on, since losing the extra baggage definitely helps. Time taken to move on differs from person to person. Venting decreases this duration considerably :)
tammy0hopeisreal
December 19th, 2015 5:55pm
I think that sometimes it is hard to understand our own emotions, and having someone we trust to talk to helps us figure out how we feel. Also, moving on can be very hard because of the positive feelings you might still feel towards your ex. Having a second perspective can help us separate the good parts of the past relationship from the bad parts. I can't say how long it will take for you to move on. I know that it can be really frustrating and that you wish you could just put this aside, but take your time and try to remind yourself why the relationship ended.
sweetCupcake26
February 2nd, 2016 8:52pm
After sadness , get mad , angry , depressed , cry and eat a lot then deny and lie to yourself , only then you will make peace with accepting the matter to finally jump to something better
MatthewMurdock
January 9th, 2017 4:07am
Venting is a great way to let all your feelings out and definetly helps when moving on. The amount of time it takes to move on differs, it can take from weeks, to months, even a year maybe. Usually for most people it doesn't take longer than a few months.
Amelia2506
April 4th, 2017 3:43am
If you are wanting to vent, make sure it is to someone who wont gossip to others! Venting can be a great way to get things off of your chest however it is risky that the person may tell others about what you have said. Everyone moves on in different amounts of time, different events may vary in time aswell
Anonymous
September 12th, 2017 9:29am
Like many things, there is such a thing as too much venting. There's nothing inherently wrong with it, but if you find that what you're venting is all you ever think about, you may actually be ruminating, which isn't very healthy. If you feel that you are speaking too obsessively about a situation, then sometimes you should try distracting yourself from it instead. it's difficult, but make a conscious effort to derail upsetting thoughts to something else.
competentBlueberry60
September 29th, 2017 9:50am
Every individual processes emotions at a different pace, so how long it would take to move on depends on how much effort you are willing in to speaking your mind, getting perspectives of different people and processing everything you have inside. And yes I'd say venting is the best way to move on, just make sure you are venting it all out and then dealing with your emotions. Anger covers pain, venting removes anger but the underlying emotion beneath your anger needs to be processed and healed !
Anonymous
February 6th, 2018 7:50pm
Venting is a good way to move on, so long as it’s healthy. Moving on takes a different amount of time for everyone so don’t feel you have to move on quickly or years after what’s occurred.
Anonymous
March 27th, 2018 3:35pm
Is venting good? Of course, if someone is really listening to you. Moving on could take forever. It depends on you, the situation and so on.
peacefulthoughts71
April 2nd, 2018 8:04pm
I believe that venting is a great strategy to get out all of my negative feelings. After I vent, I try to make a plan to move forward. I do not believe that there is a time limit on anything.
aFreeSmile
April 10th, 2018 6:03am
I think that vent is an excellent step to moving on, but thats not all. You need to accept aswell. There is not set time on how long it should taje you to move in. Go at your own pace❤
SupportiveSockMonkey
April 24th, 2018 5:38pm
It can help to move on, there are many different stages to moving on but the time scale differs from person to person. This is because some people move through certain stages faster than others. This will also depend on what the person is going through and will change between circumstances. However these stages can be adapted. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/tech-support/201409/5-strategies-help-you-move
okaymiserable
October 29th, 2018 1:46am
People usually vent or talk to friends and others in order to move on because it allows them to "relive" a moment in the past relationship. Moving on is different for everyone so venting may or may not work for everyone and sometimes too much can annoy others. One suggestion is to keep a journal and pour out your thoughts and feelings. Venting too much can keep you in the past. Focus on the present and the now. Make plans, go out, and keep your mind off of it. The time it takes to move on is different for everyone.