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Why do breakups become like a life or death situation sometimes?

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Last Updated: 12/01/2020 at 12:52pm
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March 9th, 2015 1:08am
In a break up we usually lose someone we care deeply about and someone who's been our friend for a very long time. We naturally grow attached to them and over time change our routines to match theirs. A break up means another change, but sometimes a very sudden and unexpected one, which makes us feel that our world as we know it has come to an end.
June 29th, 2015 9:32pm
Because it feels like you're losing the most important thing in your life. When I went through my last breakup, I didn't know what to do because she was so important to me that I literally felt as though I could not continue without her. Obviously I'm still here and did not die, but the emotions become very real and painful very quickly.
April 12th, 2015 9:55am
It is because losing a relationship makes you feel like you are grieving and that a part of you has died or is missing.
June 18th, 2015 3:41pm
Sometimes people think the only way to end the pain of a breakup is o end their life. However, there are other ways to get over a break up.
March 8th, 2015 3:35am
I had gone through the same and its because the person you love become your life but you never know about the life or the situation. So after a breakup the only thing you can think is your EX, nothing else.. and its like that you cannot live without that person we start thinking that death is the only solution. But its not...because even after death we cannot get that person back in our life or we are not sure that how that person will react...?
April 4th, 2015 8:15pm
Because sometimes you are afraid of the future. Sometimes, breaking up you feel like you can't go on.
June 22nd, 2015 12:44pm
Because when they love the person so much... It's hard to forget that person in your life who cared and loved you for who you are.
June 29th, 2015 1:35am
Breakups are hard to get through, when you fall in love that person is your entire world, there someone your never forget. Just remember all the good times you had together.
June 29th, 2015 10:22am
It's when you give all of you to the relationship that makes you think you're whole world revolve around it. That's why when you experience a breakup, your created world collapses with it. You ask your self if you want to live, and build a new world again or not, just end it and be succumbed by emotions.
October 26th, 2015 4:38pm
not all relationships are healthy. when we leave an unhealthy relationship they feel a lot worse then they should. just remember to smile and keep your head up
November 16th, 2015 12:47am
Breakups can be difficult to overcome, but in time our hearts will mend and the pain will not be so difficult to overcome.
November 16th, 2015 10:26am
I believe that breakups can become life or death situations sometimes, because you become so emotionally invested in one person, they are your best friend, lover, and a huge part of your life, then everything is taken away from you. Many people cannot form friendships after they have broken things off, and this is crushing to lose a person who is so close to them.
December 7th, 2015 9:50am
I think that is because you love someone so much that when they leave they take a part of you with them. And when you love someone so much it is really hard to let them go.
December 7th, 2015 6:54pm
Ever since we were born,the first thing we learned is that our survival(whole life) depends on our parents-their love and care. That was our first connection with another being when we all became emotionally dependent because that's how we learned to live. Now we have to learn how to live unattached and independent and that's why those feelings of being abandoned and unsafe emerge.
February 22nd, 2016 4:11pm
Breakups become like a life or death situation because we invest so much of our time and effort in them.
March 8th, 2016 1:52pm
When these happen, we are bound to feel nervous and sad, because we are giving up on something we have once cherished alot. From my personal experience though, the process is tough, but thereafter we grow and learn to handle relationships better because we learn from our failures in the previous relationship. It's tough to break up, but we will make it through! (:
March 21st, 2016 1:54am
People who fall in love tend to end up depending on that person and making them their everything and when that happens, because the person has made that person all that matters, when they are gone it feels like they have lost everything. It's important to know how to love someone and still be independent!
March 29th, 2016 5:46pm
people are hungry for love and when they find someone from whom their hunger is get satisfied of course no one likes to be empty stomach
April 4th, 2016 1:58am
Being so connected to someone feels like the life support plug has been pulled on you, you find yourself not sure what to do, or when to do it as you don't have your loved one to bounce ideas off.
May 30th, 2016 10:55pm
I think because we become so attached emotional as well as physically to someone we become dependent on this person. When we break up we forget who we once were before we met them. So we lose ourselves and don't know how to deal with life without them. They were normally there to get you through something but instead its them your the reason your feeling like this. The one person you thought would be there is gone and its hard to accept life on your own. Sadly just takes time to realize that we can still have a life without them and to become the person you once were. After a period of time though it does become easier and you find yourself a stronger person then you once were.
August 15th, 2016 4:26am
You feel as if that person has not only entered your heart and become part of your life but become a part of your heart
August 7th, 2017 7:57am
This is because it seems hard to let go of something or someone you think can never live without. However, things will get better, and remember that all wounds take time to heal. Never give up and keep looking forward to tomorrow, one day at a time.
June 4th, 2018 6:53pm
Our bodies are very connected to out brains and vise versa. When you are stressed by something emotional you may feel "broken hearted". Your brain releases stress hormones and your heart beats fast, your head hurts, your breathing changes, and your mind races. Its the fight or flight only instead of a bear, you are losing someone you care about, like a death almost. It can be very devastating and its very normal to feel so deeply.
December 31st, 2019 7:05pm
Break ups are so difficult and feel like a life and death situation because of how much emotion we invest into another person. This is the person we see a future with, the person we possibly want to start a family, the person we turn to in the good and the bad times, the person who is there through it all, and when they're gone it leaves a gaping hole. I also sometimes think, when we don't know our self-worth, we look for it in relationships with significant others so when they are taken away from us, we don't know how to deal with the emotions, which can make it feel like the world has imploded and our heart is absolutely broken. There is light at the end of the tunnel if you keep pushing through. Slowly, your world will start to rebuild and you'll go hours and days without thinking about them. That will turn into weeks, months and eventually years. You'll look back and think, I got through it!
June 29th, 2020 11:53pm
Because you let someone into your life and got to know them, and now they're no longer apart of your life. It feels like an impossible situation, and as cliche as it sounds, time is truly the factor that heals all You learn to wake up and look in the mirror and smile back at yourself without the thought of the person you once loved, because you love yourself. And that's enough. Don't be afraid to let go. The fear of moving on will always be there, but change is, I suppose, the one CONSTANT thing in people's lives. The way we react to the said change is what we can control.
December 1st, 2020 12:52pm
When we put too much effort in a relationship we would want things to work, and if it doesn't we get disappointed. Its a human nature to expect things. When we don't get what we expect we start asking ourselves what went wrong. Sometimes we get too much dependent on person that surviving without them seems impossible. It is said that when breakups happens it is best to move on rather than crying over. But is moving on so easy? No it is not. The mistake we make is in the name of moving on we try to forget the person, we try erasing the memories. But what we need to know is memories cant be erased, the more you try to forget things the more they would haunt you. So we should keep the memories with us, cherish them because that has happened. We have to accept things, accept that whatever happened was suppose to happen and have faith that whatever will happen, would happen for everyone's good