Why do we get into a relationship with someone we barely know?

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Last Updated: 05/29/2018 at 10:43am
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Top Rated Answers
FountainOfTruth
February 24th, 2015 9:34pm
You might want to re-evaluate what you label a "relationhip". If you barely know this person, is it really a "relationship"?
Treehouse
February 24th, 2015 9:40pm
I believe we are always in the process of finding out if a determined person is "the right one" and most of the times it's venturing on a relationship where we find so many "unknown" factors that we truly start to understand our partner without so many misconceptions.
UntilThen
August 8th, 2017 1:06pm
Because feelings are exciting! Jumping into a relationship quickly can sometimes be scary and reckless but it doesn't have to end badly. Relationships, no matter how long you've known the person, are all about trying to be happier. If people think maybe they can make each other happy they often try .
Mila76
January 8th, 2018 3:25am
Sometimes we just need that attention we strive for, and for someone to care about us. Humans are already full of emotions and need others to feel protected and loved. It's crazy because some people can date others they barely know just to feel affection.
Anonymous
April 6th, 2015 9:22pm
There are many reasons to go into a relationship with somebody you do not know well. Some people require companionship and support regardless of compatibility, others are codependent, some just do not want to be alone. As humans, we require companionship and it is often easy to relax your standards in order to get it.
swornout
May 5th, 2015 2:26am
We get our hopes up and/or we think the stuff we do know about them will say something about the rest of them.
heavenlySun21
May 14th, 2015 6:11pm
In my experience, my life was not fulfilled. I needed excitement, that rush of "Oh, someone is interested in me" then I started making plans for my life and didn't need a man to make it interesting. I recommend that you ask what you want out of life
DipityEnigma
June 5th, 2015 12:52am
There could be multiple reasons for this but the most common reason is that we crave the love, comfort and the appreciation of others. To feel like we're needed and special. Most of all, to feel like we're not alone.
Br33zyS3tz
August 10th, 2015 4:52pm
There are many things that draw us into relationships, despite if we know the opposite person only a little, or a lot! Forming relationships is essential in pursuing a productive and effective lifestyle; it happens natural, each and every day. Its okay to engage with those that we appreciate, that acknowledge us, that understand and lend a helping hand; its important to be cautious and rational as well; trust is a significant aspect when it comes to relationships; we find things in others that we like, that we admire, that we commend and idol; relationships are born instantaneously sometimes, and flourish into bigger and better moments; be positive and open, accepting and courageous; other have a lot to offer: insight, perspective, and many other truths.
Anonymous
November 17th, 2015 1:10am
You get in them to get to know them better. Cause you never know maybe you'll end up liking them. :)
pleasinglyPoetic
November 23rd, 2015 9:19pm
Relationships are exciting! It's fun to just dive into the life of another person, learning about their unique passions, history, and beliefs. Meeting people can be very stimulating, especially when there's a romantic aspect in mind. While there's a lot to be said about pursuing relationships with people we already have a good handle on, there's an extra layer of excitement with wearing your heart on your sleeve and flying by the seat of your pants.
sakurafox
December 7th, 2015 4:52pm
The excitement! You don't want to be with someone you know almost as well as you know yourself! There's no excitement in that.. No risK!
intelligentJoy18
December 8th, 2015 6:53am
I believe sometimes the unknown is exciting for us because it is unknown, so we decide to dive in head 1st because of the newness and excitement of it.
becksvhr
December 13th, 2015 4:51pm
We all get to this philosophical question at some point (I usually think about this when I just got into an argument with my significant other and wonder why I put myself through this). I guess its like an intensive version of a friendship. You meet, think the other one is quite a cool person and spend more time together. For friends, that's it. You see each other regularly, ask for advice, ideas, do things together. For love interests at some point you take it a step further. I don't think you'd get into a relationship if you didn't feel deeply drawn to him/her, and by that point you know the basics about them, their views on certain topics etc. Later on, when you fight and make up, you see whether those views on life fit yours or not. I believe that you rarely ever know someone as well as you think. 80% of their thoughts are happening without you knowing, and no matter how much you talk about things, there will be new stuff to discover daily. Sometimes those things make you leave (like my ex, being against condoms and months later telling me he considered abortions "murder", no matter what others say), sometimes those things get you closer together (finding out that you both want to volunteer in an elephant sanctuary but feel "guilty" not offering your services to an orphanage first, for example). Its just how life works. For me, relationships (love based and friendship based) always work like that, and it's what makes them interesting :)
Anonymous
April 19th, 2016 3:54am
We get into relationships with people we barely know because of exactly that reason. Since we know nothing about them, we create an idea about them based on what we are looking for. Therefore, they seem so perfect in the beginning. We aren't dating them for who they are but who we make them seem out to be in our head.
Aneesh
July 12th, 2016 4:18am
First of all, we should not get in to a relationship with a person we don't know. If it happens, it should be due to attraction !
NumberEleven
July 25th, 2016 6:17am
It's exciting, especially with a change in scenery (something that you've never done or experienced before), and love is a curious thing to experience.
Anonymous
September 19th, 2016 10:50pm
usually it is because of infatuation and/or the self consciousness of not being in a relationship and finally having the chance to be in one.
heartfulmango33
November 8th, 2016 1:55am
The answer Is dopamine. It's a decision based on initial attraction and since both persons are willing there isn't a barrier to contain one enough to process the rational outcome.
Anonymous
November 7th, 2017 2:19am
Human nature. We're quite trusting compared to other species. Until and unless something traumatic happened and you start having trust issues.
Anonymous
January 1st, 2018 4:15am
I think we find something in common that we liked or we liked the physical appearance and we feel kind of curious about that person and so we start to talking with that person.
luminary
March 12th, 2018 9:10am
This is because human heart is full of emotion, it always search for love and when someone we barely know talk to us politely, show love and affection towards us we easily start trusting and get into a relationship. We hope that the person will Listen to us and will support. This mostly happens when we are rejected or mentally harassed by anyone.
thoughtfulVision78
March 19th, 2018 7:07pm
Sometimes it takes seconds to talk to the heart of someone you don’t know because love is unexpected and sertanly beautiful.
Anonymous
May 29th, 2018 10:43am
Sometimes it happens. Whether it's external factors like other people pressuring you into the relationship or maybe it's because you want to see where your relationship will go. And sometimes you just feel things with certain people even if you dont know them