How come I always feel I am being bullied, even though I may not be?
Last Updated: 06/05/2018 at 2:04pm
Johanna Liasides, MSc
I work with youth and young adults to help them improve depressive symptoms and self-esteem as well as effectively address family, relationship and peer conflicts.
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Maybe you feel powerless and even though people may not be completely putting you down, when others are given attention and such it may make you feel bad. Does this sound right?
It's the fear of being bullied that makes you feel that way. Once you learn to realize that you aren't being bullied, you will be able to relax and live a normal social life.
This is a complicated response. There are a number of reasons you may feel this way. One reason is that you are bullied and you don't believe that you are. This happened to me personally when I went through middle school and it was a major problem because I never realized it until it caused damage. Another possibility could be some sort of anxiety. A friend of mine felt bullied even though she wasn't because she took the things people said differently than they were meant due to her extreme anxiety. If you want to work through these feelings better, a school guidance counselor (if you have one) may be a great help for that as they work with students all the time.
Sometimes we feel targeted and/or on the offensive because of past experiences. Remembering that not everyone is out to hurt your feelings may be helpful. Fully assess a situation before jumping to conclusions.
It's okay, you may feel like people are judging you at times, but it doesn't matter if they are judging you. if they think poorly of you, you shouldn't have to worry, because the only thing that matters, id the way that you see yourself.
It may be because you aren't receiving the support you need. Sometimes even tho we aren't bullied, because people around us do not provide us with the feedback we need in order to feel encouraged and supported, we may tend to focus on the negative only. Be sure to surround yourself with those people who are able to make you feel heard and appreciated
If you feel you are being bullied or harmed in any way whether it's verbally, physically or cyber bullying let your voice be heard. Even if you may not be, it is better to stand up for what you feel. Tell or talk to someone you trust. And remember, you are never alone
You sound like you'e suffering from anxiety. Are you in a safe environment? Have you tried talking to someone you trust in your personal life about this? Trying to identify things that make you feel threatened and talking about it to people you trust can help you feel less anxious. aside form that, you can also refer to the anxiety guides available here at 7 cups.
Sometimes in life we often feel tied down when all we want is to be freed. The responsibility of life such as financial, parental, even professional can make us feel as if we have no choices of our own. That society is telling us when, where, and what to do as well as how to do it. I think that all of this can be overwhelming at times and make us feel trapped.
You may feel like your being judged or targeted in social situations, check your friends and surround yourself with support because the more people you have around you who love and support you the easier it is to feel that love.
Maybe you have seen someone else getting bullied and you might think what if I was in there situation and I was the one getting bullied would I want help?
Try defining what "bullying" means to you, and then decide if what had happened to you is a form of bullying.
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