How do I know it is not just my fault? If I were more normal, maybe the bullies would leave me alone.
Last Updated: 02/22/2021 at 2:48am
Lisa Meighan, BSc Psychology (Honours)
Hello, I am Lisa and I work in a person-centred approach mixed with cognitive behavioural therapy. I believe we all have the potential to be the best we can be.
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It's hard to believe, but it's not your fault. If they didn't pick on you, they'd pick on someone else. The fault lies with them and their issues, not you.
No, bullies are bullied based on their own insecurities. There is nothing wrong with you for being bullied.
Bullies will always find a reason to bring you down, and make you feel bad about yourself. You did nothing wrong, the bully has something wrong with them self.
No, it is not your fault. Bullies are usually the ones searching for attention and hurt others because they themselves are hurt... it is their way of dealing with hurt/fear/depression etc... it is not the right way to deal with it though, so they need to be reported so they could be helped.
There is no such thing as normal. Its not your fault, you didn't to anything wrong, show them that they don't bother you.
It's the bullies who aren't normal, not you! Being bullied is never anyone's fault. You have to stand up for yourself and not worry about what others think about you!
Honestly, it's not your fault. There is also no definition of normal, everyones normal is different.
If you are being bullied it is NEVER your fault! Don't ever think that! Close minded people think anyone who isn't like them are "weird". Don't change you are one of a kind:)
what is 'normal'? there is no such thing as being normal we are all unique and you should be able to be yourself :)
Unfortunately, bullies often project their own failings on to other people because they seriously lack self esteem. It is important to keep this in mind, as it helps to understand why they behave that way. It is also important to remember that normal is a subjective term, that is relatively meaningless. After all, what is normal? In your experience - you are normal. In my experience, I am normal. Self worth cannot be determined by the opinions of others, as we have no control over the actions of others - but - we can control how we respond to their actions. You can choose to let their behaviour impact you - or you can choose to respond to it in a way that best works for you.
Bullies bully 'normal' people too. It has nothing to do with who you are and everything to do with their need for control and attention.
We all are normal. It is not your fault that people laugh at you for not being like them. They are childish and bad people.
Bullying is never your fualt. They puck on you becuase of their own messed up head and you dont ever have to apologise to be who you are. Who are they to decide what is normal in the first place
You know it is not your fault if you aren't doing anything wrong. Some people are just cruel and prey on others only because they're lacking something within themselves. You have to stay strong, keep your head up and don't let them steal your joy. You don't need to be anything but yourself. Love yourself. Remember that it is only temporary and don't be afraid to talk to someone about how you are feeling.
You are normal maybe there is something going on at the bullies home? They probably dont feel right in themselves and take it out on you
First of all, im sorry that you got bullied. Nobody should be made fun of or abused. A good friend help you to become better. Bullier doesnt have that intention at all. They bullied you not to help you improve but to make you feel bad about yourself. Of course, everybody has weaknesses, but your weaknesses are not your faults. Its just a part of you that should be accepted by yourself and your friends. Bullies use your weaknesses against you and made you feel bad about yourself. Thats definitely unkind and rude behaviors. Its like you made fun of a fish because it cannot walk on two legs. You are special in your own way and no one has the right to make you feel bad for who you are.
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