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How do I know it is not just my fault? If I were more normal, maybe the bullies would leave me alone.

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Last Updated: 02/22/2021 at 2:48am
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Lisa Meighan, BSc Psychology (Honours)


Hello, I am Lisa and I work in a person-centred approach mixed with cognitive behavioural therapy. I believe we all have the potential to be the best we can be.

Top Rated Answers
August 27th, 2015 9:16am
It's hard to believe, but it's not your fault. If they didn't pick on you, they'd pick on someone else. The fault lies with them and their issues, not you.
March 8th, 2015 8:07pm
No, bullies are bullied based on their own insecurities. There is nothing wrong with you for being bullied.
March 10th, 2015 12:26am
Bullies will always find a reason to bring you down, and make you feel bad about yourself. You did nothing wrong, the bully has something wrong with them self.
May 3rd, 2015 3:12am
No, it is not your fault. Bullies are usually the ones searching for attention and hurt others because they themselves are hurt... it is their way of dealing with hurt/fear/depression etc... it is not the right way to deal with it though, so they need to be reported so they could be helped.
May 27th, 2015 6:30am
There is no such thing as normal. Its not your fault, you didn't to anything wrong, show them that they don't bother you.
June 3rd, 2015 9:28pm
It's the bullies who aren't normal, not you! Being bullied is never anyone's fault. You have to stand up for yourself and not worry about what others think about you!
August 18th, 2015 8:55am
Honestly, it's not your fault. There is also no definition of normal, everyones normal is different.
November 9th, 2015 2:44am
If you are being bullied it is NEVER your fault! Don't ever think that! Close minded people think anyone who isn't like them are "weird". Don't change you are one of a kind:)
November 9th, 2015 5:22pm
what is 'normal'? there is no such thing as being normal we are all unique and you should be able to be yourself :)
November 23rd, 2015 8:50am
Unfortunately, bullies often project their own failings on to other people because they seriously lack self esteem. It is important to keep this in mind, as it helps to understand why they behave that way. It is also important to remember that normal is a subjective term, that is relatively meaningless. After all, what is normal? In your experience - you are normal. In my experience, I am normal. Self worth cannot be determined by the opinions of others, as we have no control over the actions of others - but - we can control how we respond to their actions. You can choose to let their behaviour impact you - or you can choose to respond to it in a way that best works for you.
February 22nd, 2016 4:23am
Bullies bully 'normal' people too. It has nothing to do with who you are and everything to do with their need for control and attention.
March 21st, 2016 12:45am
We all are normal. It is not your fault that people laugh at you for not being like them. They are childish and bad people.
April 18th, 2017 8:45pm
Bullying is never your fualt. They puck on you becuase of their own messed up head and you dont ever have to apologise to be who you are. Who are they to decide what is normal in the first place
December 19th, 2017 4:03am
You know it is not your fault if you aren't doing anything wrong. Some people are just cruel and prey on others only because they're lacking something within themselves. You have to stay strong, keep your head up and don't let them steal your joy. You don't need to be anything but yourself. Love yourself. Remember that it is only temporary and don't be afraid to talk to someone about how you are feeling.
June 26th, 2018 7:03am
You are normal maybe there is something going on at the bullies home? They probably dont feel right in themselves and take it out on you
February 22nd, 2021 2:48am
First of all, im sorry that you got bullied. Nobody should be made fun of or abused. A good friend help you to become better. Bullier doesnt have that intention at all. They bullied you not to help you improve but to make you feel bad about yourself. Of course, everybody has weaknesses, but your weaknesses are not your faults. Its just a part of you that should be accepted by yourself and your friends. Bullies use your weaknesses against you and made you feel bad about yourself. Thats definitely unkind and rude behaviors. Its like you made fun of a fish because it cannot walk on two legs. You are special in your own way and no one has the right to make you feel bad for who you are.