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How do I stop thinking about the names I get called?

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Last Updated: 11/06/2017 at 1:59am
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Top Rated Answers
starryRiver83
February 16th, 2015 10:06pm
Being called names is not a reflection of who you are, but who the people are who call you the names. It would be easy for me to say 'just ignore them' but we know that is easier said than actually done. What you should do is think about the things you are positive about, and maybe try to think rationally about what is being said to you and write it down. Maybe things like 'well such-and-such said this about my nose but others have said they like it and yknow what I do too'. When you find something negative about yourself, is that because you genuinely don't like it or because someone has bullied you into thinking that you should think negatively about that part of yourself? Always keep the positives in mind. You are you and you are normal no matter what anyone else says.
Anonymous
February 23rd, 2016 11:44pm
I focus on the name I want to be call, I allowed myself to feel like I'm important. I pray for them.
YuukiKuran1996
August 23rd, 2016 8:08pm
value the opinion of those who matter to you :) I am sure the people who call you names arent nice and dont care about you .. So why care about them and their opinion :) Dont let them bring you down be strong :)
Hotchocolate7
January 16th, 2015 1:30am
Sometimes, by simply observing thoughts (without judging) and feeling your feelings, you stop obsessing over the thought as the thought loses it's power to control you. The key is to be aware of the thought, that's all. However if you are having trouble sitting still, you can start obsessing over a productive thought instead?
Anonymous
March 18th, 2015 12:51pm
Ask yourself if they are relevant and does the opinion of these people matter. Bullying is very hard and it is certainly not something you can stop thinking about altogether, but there is a way to ensure you get help with this. Have you tried talking to someone about this?
RachaelIsAwesome
April 2nd, 2015 2:31pm
You have to start with yourself. You have to believe those names are not true. Change whatever you have to, to get it through yourself.
Deathsnemesis
May 8th, 2015 2:14pm
What I did when I was called names or insulted was I reversed them and took them as compliments if I was called ugly then I said thanks its better than nothing and bullies got really upset so names don't phase me anymore
MissLilith
June 18th, 2015 9:15am
What people say is more of a reflection on their character than it is on yours. It's hard to remember when they're saying nasty things about you but in the end you have the moral high ground; anyone can fix their looks but it's a lot harder to fix an ugly personality.
Hanna195
July 20th, 2015 11:51pm
Just remember that everyone is human and you are not alone! you just have to keep thinking no you are not what they say. Bullies will call you names to make themselves feel better, to make them look better in front of their friends so they can keep their so called 'friends'. Deep down they are unhappy and most likely very insecure about themselves or even jealous of you! You might find it hard to believe but it is very true, whether they are jealous of the grades you get or the looks or what you own or your good friends or good family situation. You will be surprised how easily people can get jealous. So at the end of the day you are a better person then they will ever be, at least you don't bring people down to make yourself feel better and that is something you should be proud of :) you are beautiful, kind, smart and down to earth so forget the names they call you!
Anonymous
July 21st, 2015 2:13am
tell an adult or a person you trust. it is not good to keep things inside. i hoped this helped you.. :)
Oasislovesyou
September 14th, 2015 4:42am
Do the people who call you names really matter? Think about it. Do they do your homework or get you good grades? Because they call you names doesn't make the people who do love you stop loving you.
olimaar
October 27th, 2015 2:01pm
Remember that when you get called names it's because the bully feels insecure about those traits themselves. Just ask yourself "What makes this true?" There shouldn't be an answer.
EmmaV
November 3rd, 2015 3:18am
by this, I am assuming that you mean people have been calling you names. Firstly, I'm really sorry that this has been happening, nobody deserves to be put down like that. When people call us horrible things, it can be easy to buy into them. Kind of like we're hearing them so much that we start to believe they're true. BUT THEY"RE NOT. Once those beliefs creep in it can be difficult to break. One thing that I've found to be helpful to to challenge those beliefs. Instead of thinking about the names, think about the positive truths in your life. It might help to write them down somewhere where you will see them a lot. What are some good things about you? What do you like about yourself? What are your hopes and dreams? If those become the things you focus on, it should be easier to overcome what people are saying about you. :)
KoolKat007
November 30th, 2015 4:45pm
You should just ignore the people that are calling you the names or tell an adult that you trust.
Anonymous
December 1st, 2015 11:05pm
I honestly don't have the best answer for this question, but I would say take it up with an adult that you trust to help let the pain of the names go, then write in a journal some nice, positive adjectives to describe you or get a friend or loved one to use some positive adjectives to describe you.
Dreamcaster21
December 14th, 2015 12:45am
Take the time to know who you really are, what matters most to you, what type of person you want to be seen as, and what you will be in the future. Take the time to love yourself, to know yourself, and to love all that you do. Know who you want to be in the future, some people may say things or leave because they do not like what you are aiming for, or doing, but know that you will always have some people who do know who you really are, and will be by your side and care for you and let you know that you are great. Know that everyone has something special in them, just like you, you are someone special, all you got to do, is to take the time to see it yourself, by looking in yourself, finding out what matters, who you are, and what you want to be.
RowenaTheListener
February 9th, 2016 11:44am
You are a beautiful individual with a soul that's worth showing. Every time someone tells you otherwise, or calls you mean things; ignore them. Tell yourself "haters gonna hate.". It's easier said than done though. Also, when you're down it's hard to focus on the good things in life. Here's what I do when I'm down: I have a list of all the nice things someone has called me or said to me in my phone. Every time I feel down, I read my list. I encourage you to have a list too. If you don't know what to write on your list; here are some things I think about you. - a beautiful soul - a genuine person - your smile is like sunshine - Your quirks are adorable - You are someone's reason to be happy everyday
Taylor123
February 23rd, 2016 10:41pm
I just remember that the effort they've put into calling me names is so little that it would just involve more effort from me, to even be affected by the names
Anonymous
September 5th, 2016 3:21pm
you can! Get a piece of paper and list out the very good things about you and the opposite of the names you are been called . When you start thinking about the names people call you,bring out piece of paper on which you have written the good things about youself and read out aloud e.g someone must have called you ugly, but on the paper it is written 'I am pretty".. this will help you think less about what people call you. Engage yourself with something doing e.g walking with a friend etc.
ashesunbroken
November 6th, 2017 1:59am
I would suggest trying to look at the names and trying to find evidence against you being called that name. There should be a lot of reasons, because no one deserves to be called horrible names. You have wonderful, amazing things about yourself. Find some positive adjectives to describe yourself.