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Is it true that people bully because they are insecure?

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Last Updated: 09/14/2020 at 11:28am
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EminorGee27
August 28th, 2017 1:18am
Sometimes yes, people who bully others are weak too. So they tend to pick up on someone that they find weaker than them because they want to gain some sort of power for all time time they felt powerless about things happening to them. They release self hatred and insecurities to people as form of a coping mechanism to battle their inner insecurities and that is what we called as projection. So remember, if you are being bullied, Its not you being called as that. They are simply releasing their insecurities of themselves to other people.
shutteredsilence
November 3rd, 2015 3:08am
Usually, yes. People bully because they lack the will or ability to form meaningful connections with others. Often they are afraid to be seen as weak or compassionate. The best way to get back at a bully is to ignore them. Their bullying is a cry for attention.
Anonymous
May 13th, 2015 6:48am
People bully because they're miserable. They're angry with themselves and want to take it with us. They don't have a good life so they want to make us feel the same way. It's not fair.
Katastropheez
June 13th, 2016 6:11pm
yes some people bully because they are insecure , and at other times they bully because you have something they envy you about because they lack it, so the hate builds up enough to bully
dkotabarrios
April 2nd, 2015 12:27am
That could be one reason behind why people may bully. There are numerous reasons as to why one may restart to bullying, it could be insecurities or jealousy or bad familial problems.
talktome3355
April 4th, 2015 10:59am
I think this statement holds true as most people bully others as a means of exercising power and control in some aspect of their life, especially if the individual feels they are unable to control other aspects of their life. Bullies are often insecure about getting picked on themselves and they see an opportunity to pick on someone else as a shield they can use to avoid being bullied themselves. Further, they may bully others in order to find a sense of belonging to the social community, to gain a sense of approval from others or to project a powerful image to others. As such, although there are many reasons for why someone may bully others I feel these other reasons do primarily stem from their personal insecurities.
colorfulGrace98
May 14th, 2015 1:09pm
I was once a bully in school due to family issues. I was worried that if I wasn't strong enough, people around me would look down on me. As a bully in school, I got a sense of trill and also expected others to respect me and not look down on me.
beautifulParadise07
May 31st, 2015 10:22am
The reason why other people make fun or bully of other people is because they are having that knid of insecurity. it means that there is this factor that a certain bully lacks in which he finds it to another people. Then, if he can't have that certain thing or trait, they started to feel inferiority. And they dont want to be inferior for their whole lives. They are being threathened bby not having what they want. That's why they bully other peopl or those people who are having their kind of lack.
GhostInTheAttic
May 23rd, 2015 6:51pm
usually yes. some people bully because that's how they see the world around them behave. others because they need to feel superior. yet others because their hoohaas aren't up to the mark. but in general its almost always because they feel the need to make up for something or the other.
Anonymous
August 3rd, 2015 4:10am
Sometimes. Other times it's because they were bullied. Some people are more insecure then others. And they use bulling to hide those insecurities.
Anonymous
November 16th, 2015 11:09pm
Yes, that is very true. It is something that they lack in themselves that they have to take from others.
PumpkinCat
December 22nd, 2015 1:18pm
Yes it is possible that they bully because they are insecure but sometimes they don't like someone and want to make them feel bad so they can feel "better". There are several reasons why people bully each other.
Anonymous
December 26th, 2015 2:55pm
Yes, most or all bullies bully because they are insecure and have a dark past, they think that hurting other people will make them feel bette.
Anonymous
April 11th, 2016 6:24am
I think so. They bully because they need to prove to themselves that they are "not that bad" or at least better than someone else.
HerLoveIsEverything
November 13th, 2017 10:16pm
Yes, in some cases. But that is not always the case, sometimes people bully out of jealousy and their own reason.
fruityWaves52
February 6th, 2018 4:14am
At times. Or perhaps they are jealous. Envy inspires hatred and the worst of emotions inside us, which leads to creating tyrants in the society.
Anonymous
February 15th, 2015 5:58pm
Yes, because most bullies are insecure or their having a hard time so they decide to take out their anger on someone else to make themselves feel better.
cloudscanbefriends
September 5th, 2016 7:22am
More often than not, yes. However, this should not make one feel bad for becoming upset when bullied; abusers should never be victimized.
jess3456s
September 5th, 2016 11:04pm
I think it is true that people bully others because they're insecure, but I also think it's because they're unhappy with themselves and that they think the only way to make themselves feel better is by bringing someone else down.
devinacares
October 4th, 2016 9:11am
Personally I do think that people bully as a kind of projection of their own insecurities or worries onto other people. An example of this is when I was bullied by a female close to me for being "too socially active" and I do feel this was out of jealousy because she was very secluded and insecure about being left alone. We ended up resolving the issue because we spent a lot of time together and even though she still has some insecurities about being alone, she makes an effort not to project this onto other people.
NocturnalSecrets
May 15th, 2018 3:59am
In my personal experience, yes. People who are uncomfortable with themselves have the tendency to take it out on others so that they can make others feel the way they do. It's not right, or fair, but unfortunately that's just how some people are.
Anonymous
July 13th, 2015 4:11pm
Yes. Sometimes people feel insecure and bully others. However, that may not be the reason or only reason of the bullying.
Anonymous
December 19th, 2016 10:15am
Though not every bully is insecure, a lot of the time this is the case. Some bullies are so unhappy and insecure with themselves that they choose to take that negativity out on other people, because it is an easier way to deal with it.
Jennifer164
January 8th, 2018 1:09pm
Yes it is true,we pull others down only when we think or assume that the other person is in a higher place than we are.They bully because they need attention,which is fair enough but the way they are seeking it is not.
Ayeeitsbrii
May 17th, 2016 9:16pm
Some people could say that that's why they bully but in reality I don't think it is because they are insecure but maybe it's because it makes them feel good.
Anonymous
September 5th, 2016 8:27pm
It is true indeed, bullies are often using force and are abusing other people because they are not happy with their lives and they tend to be insecure.
PageOfCups
January 15th, 2018 9:53pm
Bullying in itself can be a display of power and dominance over another person. Ask the question, why would the bully want to show off like this? Having insecurities can be one of the answers, and the bully would like to remind themselves that they are in some kind of control of their surroundings by taking the reigns from another. That being said, many, many studies have been conducted on bullying, and it is a complex topic. I would advise looking up some of the more known psychiatrist having dealt with the topic :)
avamadueno22
January 16th, 2018 8:29pm
Not always. Sometimes, people aren't aware of their actions or words and what they do comes to them without second guessing the outcome. Some people can bully for just crude and ignorant reasons, and sometimes they're completely oblivious to the trigger like things they're saying or doing.
chocolatesugar
March 10th, 2020 1:46pm
well what tends to happen is an individual tries to fit within the crowd and tries to show how strong they are. Usually they themselves may have been thought something to make them act in that way. Sometimes they are insecure because of the fact that what matters to them is others liking them. They don't see what it does to someone else. I agree with the fact that they are insecure because i believe that all they do is to gain attention and love that they may have not got which made them insecure so therefore they vented that out on another and they may do it to get friends and not feel lonely
ListenLitany
September 14th, 2020 11:28am
Being a student and accepting that you may be unaware of some issue or uncertain about a point takes more courage than people credit it. Bullying is an easy escape because then you are speaking or doing things from a position of power which comes from the knowledge of certainty of your actions and others. Such people are not only ignorant but blissfully so and tend to remain like that for a good period of time in their lives. Insecurity is one aspect of their bullying nature. It stems from a whole range of other problems and fears that people rarely think of addressing.