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What are some tips to help talk to an adult about my bully?

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Last Updated: 07/14/2020 at 9:11pm
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January 16th, 2015 3:26am
I am so happy to see that you want to reach out to an adult about your bully. That is really strong of you. I can understand your feeling of being at a loss of what to say. First, you should choose an adult that you trust; they should be someone who will care for you and listen to what you have to say. When you talk to them, just be as honest as you can be. If you don't tell them everything that happened/is happening, it will be harder for them to help you. Be straight forward & open with them. It might be scary to reach out at first, but afterwards it will feel really nice that you talked to someone and the problem can start to be fixed.
March 28th, 2017 6:17pm
Sometimes it can feel a bit uncomfortable or difficult to broach the subject of a bully to you parents or teacher. just remember that is perfectly fine for you to find another adult that you are more comfortable speaking with about the matter. Even if they aren't a part of your day-to-day school life in the same way that your parents or teachers are. Trusted adult friends that you work with, or interact with through things like gaming, sports and other shared hobbies are also great options as they will likely be interested in helping you find ways to overcome your challenges with a bully.
January 25th, 2015 3:19pm
Be straight-forward. Make sure you go to an adult you trust and let them know exactly what is going on.
May 18th, 2015 2:46pm
Ask the adult if you can talk with them when they are next free. Then go to them, and let them know that someone is not being nice to you, and that you do not like it. It is so important to let someone know
May 30th, 2015 9:06pm
If you don't feel comfortable going to an adult in person, you can write them a letter with what you want to say on it and give it to them. This way they still know about the bully, but you don't have to worry about talking to the adult.
August 28th, 2015 4:17am
well simply have them understand the position that you are in this always helps you. you feel safe when it comes to telling someone, wait until that adult has the time then you ask to talk to them. tip 1: ask them about if they know how to stop bullying tip2: ask them to please give you some points on bullying.
November 2nd, 2015 9:20pm
Write down the instances of what happened and when. Go to someone impartial you trust, aunt, uncle or close family friend and be open about what's happening.
December 29th, 2015 2:12am
Go to that adult and tell him/her everything that you have been struggling with and remember to express your emotions and ask them for help
February 1st, 2016 11:54pm
Find someone who you know and can communicate with well and someone who can sympathise your situation
July 26th, 2016 8:26pm
Well, I always wrote down what I was going to say, and try to give them to that person. I am pretty good with writing, and I can't talk hardly at all without freezing up, or bursting into tears, and I'm almost 21! (There's some contributing factors for why that is, but I'm not going to write them out.) Anyways, write it out, so you know what you're going to say, because being bullied is hard to talk about.
February 13th, 2017 2:48am
I got bullied as a kid and I did find it hard, but I talked to my fiends mum. I suggest to talk to someone you know well.
June 6th, 2017 8:30pm
Reach out to someone you know and trust. This could be a parent, family member, school counsellor, teacher, and so forth. You want to make sure you ease into the conversation and ask them first and foremost if they are willing to listen to a problem that you are dealing with. By doing so, you can make sure you are going to someone who genuinely cares about you and will make sure to keep the information you share with them confidential. If you don't feel comfortable enough speaking to someone just yet, 7Cups has some great trained listeners, as well as therapists, that will listen to you and assist you through the issue until you are ready to reach out to someone for help.
January 30th, 2018 5:59pm
You sit them down and you ask them to listen to them first and you slowly expain them that youre getting bullied. Its best to take your time and be slow with it so they can understand. And get a adult that you trust, they will understand the best.
September 4th, 2018 2:51am
Be honest with them and talk to someone that you can trust. Or you can talk to someone in a position of authority like a teacher, principal or guidance counselor. You can also think of the general things you want to say and make notes for yourself so that when talking if you lose your train of thought you can get yourself back on track. Don't worry about feeling embarrassed or anything like that, there is nothing wrong with getting help for yourself when you need it.
July 14th, 2020 9:11pm
Approach the right person and one you feel comfortable talking about the problem with. This could be a teacher, a parent, an older sibling or another family member. You don't need to tell them explicitly what's happening. You can hint at it more indirectly (i.e. you're not happy at school or you feel like you aren't treated very well). They will understand and react in a supportive way. Don't be afraid about any negative consequences. If your bully goes to the same school as you and you would like your school to know, they will have very clear procedures for helping you address the matter in a way that puts your emotional wellbeing first.