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How do I tell my parents that I want to marry someone of a different religion that I met online?

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Last Updated: 11/05/2018 at 2:37pm
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peterc
May 22nd, 2017 5:18pm
Wow, that's tough! Sometimes it can help to start by setting the stage first to prepare them. Something like, "mom, dad - I have something to share that may be hard to hear. I hope you can support me in my choice" and then go from there. But it would be smart to prepare yourself as well, maybe even roleplay with a friend if that fits with your style. Because your parents may never come to agree with your choice, and it's helpful to be prepared for that too.
colourfulwriter54
November 21st, 2017 12:11pm
Some religions don't tolerate such request. So instead of creating an additional family, the current one will be torn apart. However, a peaceful respectful conversation may help
gentleSun78
April 16th, 2018 8:59am
It might be very difficult as there are 2 things to consider: 1) different religion - it all depends on how your parents look on the person of the religion, from which is your person you wish to marry. If they accept this religion, you can be very straightforward, in other cases it is better first to present your partner to them first (that they meet him or her) and then tell them that he or she is from different religion. Because difference of religion matters in religious marriage it would be wise to discuss it with your parents before marriage (after you present your partner to them) if they insist on religious marriage. 2) Meeting someone via internet means another separate obstacle, as older people (our parents) might be very reluctant to accept meeting and forming relationships this way. It is best not to tell your parents that you met him or her in this manner unless they know him or her very well already. Furthermore, it would be wise to tell them it after marriage or keep it in secret.
ilikebeingcozy
August 7th, 2018 2:29am
What’s more important is, do you love him? Does he love you? Has you met him in real life? Does he treat you right like how you deserve to be? If he is truly the love of your life then I think your parents will understand it completely. We all have our own faith and religion, it can be worked out!!
WiseTreeSpirit
November 5th, 2018 2:37pm
Be open and honest. Start first with how you feel about the individual, not their faith. Then talk about how their spirituality and religion shapes their life and values. Talk about how the two of you have already discussed the differences between theirs and your own and how it will work. Explain the challenges you will face, if any, and what you plan to do in order to address that. Ask your parents how they feel, truly listen. Address their concerns. Be honest. Reinforce your love and acceptance of your partner and your parents both, and remind them that your relationships are non-competitive.