How to deal with the loss of my dearest dad?
Last Updated: 06/27/2017 at 3:02am
Michael Hofrath, Ph.D. Candidate
The only way to the other side of pain is to walk through it rather than around it. Life is a continual journey. Sometimes we get stuck. I will help you get unstuck!
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In my experience the grieving process is a very personal and depends on the person experiencing the loss of a loved one. With that said, their are many stages to the grieving process that are, in my understanding, fairly well accepted by most of the mental health care professionals that work with people who are in their grieving process. So you might want to look at this information online, or at a library, to have a better understanding of that. With this said, how you deal with the process will therefore be very personal to you, in my opinion. Some people want to reach out to others to grieve, cry, share memories with others...some people prefer to grieve, cry in private...however, I would ask that you please consider not isolating yourself during this, expecially in the first 6 months or so, in my personal experience. And of course you may have days or hours that you want more contact with other people that are supportive of you, and other days or hours when you might want more privacy. Please know that it is never, in my opinion, a sign of weakness to reach out to others and ask for the support you deserve during this process, and please I would encourage you to be mindful to take good care of yourself, and treat yourself with great care and gentleness. IN my personal experience the grieving process really never ends, it will continue as you grow and learn, and time passes. However, in my experience, the pain and shock will lessen as time goes by, and personally I have found that memories that see to make me sad and cause me pain I ma now able to reelect upon with joy and acceptance. I am so sorry for your loss, and you can reach out to resources that you feel are best for you, or any combination of those resources that you are comfortable with, such as a mental health care professional, supportive friends and family, 7 Cups of Tea, a Doctor you work well with, and more. Take care.
I start by saying it is hard to fill such a great loss. I cried as much as i needed, didn't run away from the pain, while surrounded by people i love. Feeling the unity of my family, the grief we all shared, made as hold to one another, and find shelter when we felt the sky falling upon us. Another thing that helped me so much, was believing that his spirit will never leave us, and that we can still love him despite his physical disappearance. Slowly the pain starts to fade away, in time.
Losing a parent is never easy and the pain never truly goes away. However, time can make the pain hurt a lot less. In the meantime, staying close with other family and friends...staying busy...these things will help ease the pain to where it's no longer unbearable. You can do this. :)
I understand this loss will be very hard for you, try to keep yourself surrounded with the people in life you love, friends or family. Expressing your feelings to loved ones, or anyone can be difficult but you almost always feel better after doing so. Remember the good times with your father.
Its hard to lose someone so close to you, like your dad. The best thing to do is to remember all of the great times you had with him. Write down all your memories with him or make a scrapbook of your life with your dad. Keep those memories alive!
It is important to remember the life lessons he taught you and to know that he and his legacy will live on in you. I lost my dad in 2006 and it is still difficult. Each year I place an in memoriam ad on the date of his death as well as place flowers on his grave. I also try to think of ways he might handle situations or any advice he might provide.
I know it is hard right now. You dad has taught you everything you need to know, except from dealing with this. Yes, it's going to be tough. But you need to remember you dad loves you and he wants you to be happy. He doesn't want you to stay sad.
The important thing is to realize that your dad will have wanted you to be happy and move on. His memories will always be with you and he will always be remembered no matter what. So moving on does not mean forgetting him.
Loss is a extremely powerful emotion that needs patience, time and understanding to process. There is no set way to deal with loss, you need to find the things that make this process a little less painful and do them.
I'm really sorry to hear that, I really do :( But you gotta know that he is in a better place now and he wants you to be happy. Try going out more or do your favorite activites:) if you feel the need to talk to someone, you always can :)
talk to people...talk to your friends, talk to other family members, be happy with them, be happy that they are alive...acknowledge the fact that everyone will have to leave this world oneday and just move on,:)
Sorry for your loss, grief can be a difficult thing to go through. Do you have anyone you feel comfortable with to talk to? There also may be some support groups in your area where there are others who are grieving as well. Most importantly, remember that it takes time and you can take all the time you need.
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