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How to make your parents listen to you?

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Last Updated: 05/11/2020 at 7:10pm
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Anonymous
March 2nd, 2016 4:56pm
shouting will make the case worst its better to text them individually and say that you need to talk to then you are their daughter/son its their duty to listen to you
maria09
February 27th, 2016 10:06pm
In order to make your parents listen to you, you first need to make sure you have their attention. Try not to disturb them when they are busy, if possible, find a time they can focus only on you. Show them that them listening to you means a lot to you and you really need them at that moment. If you think your parents might think what you're going to tell them won't be worth their time, instead of asking them to listen, tell them you need to talk to them and, as I already said, that it means a lot to you.
Anonymous
February 26th, 2016 3:50pm
Ask them if you can get a min of their time and speak to them in a polite way where they understand you and listen to what you have to say
Anonymous
February 25th, 2016 5:07pm
First I would hear them out and listen to what they have to say about the issue we are discussing, then add my own input
FriendlyPerson84
March 3rd, 2016 11:58pm
If your having a hard time trying to talk in an argument than what I would do is just ask if you can have five minutes of uninterrupted talk time than the can have five minutes and after that it might be easier share you feelings. However if you just want to talk and its not really a fight than I would just try to get some alone time with the person or people you want to talk with and just be clear that you need to talk about something that is important to you.
Anonymous
February 24th, 2016 7:32pm
Be respectful and present your ideas or views in a clear way. State how your decisions will lead to a better result.
Anonymous
January 30th, 2016 3:54am
tell them how you feel, express your emotions to them. talking through your problems with them will be very helpful
SmilingInTheShadows
January 29th, 2016 11:27am
How to make your parents listen to you would be to talk to them honestly. Tell them how your feeling and show them. Respect is given when it is shown.
ella3421
January 28th, 2016 4:15pm
Sometimes, parents forget that they need to listen to their children just as much as the children need to listen to them, but you can do a few things to try and make them realize this. The first thing you should do is try to catch your parents in a good mood, they're more likely to understand you if you catch them at a time when they aren't thinking about things that are stressing them out or making them mad. Second, you should get both of them in the same room, they should both be present for the entire talk so you don't have to repeat yourself and get frustrated. Third, stay calm and be mature. Even though you're their child, you shouldn't act too childish or they won't feel the need to pay a lot of attention. Make it known that this is an adult conversation. Also, if they're busy, don't throw a fit or insist the conversation to happen right away, they'll just put it off longer. Fourth, state your problem or what you need to talk about in a way that makes it sound interesting and like something they should hear out. Be prepared to answer all of the questions they have and always start with the positives. All of these steps should help you at least start a good, adult conversation with your parents without yelling or ignoring or whatever the problem may be that you can't get them to listen, but even if it doesn't work the very first time, try again another day. Give them time to think. Put in a few extra steps that you know your parents will notice you need them.
Anonymous
January 22nd, 2016 6:53pm
I would say try to get their attention, but I don't want you to seem desperate. Ask your parents if you guys could talk privately. Like a meeting. Do it on a day when you're not busy. When the "meeting" starts, talk to her about how you've been feeling lately.
Anonymous
January 20th, 2016 11:25am
some parent are kind and some are not really that nice to you,i suggest you have to wait the right time to talk to her,i reccomend you to be nice first and ask little question for example,"mom/dad,can we go to theather someday" if they responding nicely to you and you feel satisfied with their answer frequently,i think its the perfect time to tell what do you really want them to listen,i do not reccomend to say right of the bat
Anonymous
January 16th, 2016 9:41am
You need to think about the outcome of speaking to your parents. Will your parents punish you? Will they support you? If they would punish you, you have to think 'is it better to be heard and punished' ( i think yes). If you have decided that it is best to tell them, then you could text them, make a video or just talk to them straight out
Anonymous
March 23rd, 2016 7:07pm
Sit them down and tell them what's bothering. Make sure they look at you. Ask them questions to see if they are listening.
Anonymous
March 5th, 2016 9:58am
When speaking to your parents, if you want them to take you seriously, let them know that you are serious. This can be done by your posture, tone of voice, or by simply telling them you need to have a serious conversation with them.
FroggySarafina
March 6th, 2016 1:21am
Sit down with them and have a mature conversation without getting angry as best you can. State your idea and reason logically.
LoverOfHappiness
March 6th, 2016 2:52am
Parents always stress about that they want to see maturity out of their kids. That would be a wise choice. To come it as a fellow adult with out using blaming words. You can talk your side of your opinions as much as you want, but in they end you cannot force someone to do something. But you can be proud of yourself for speaking your mind in a respectful manner.
25Ashley
March 6th, 2016 6:17pm
Getting a parent to listen or to be open-minded about what you’re experiencing, can be really hard. Unfortunately we can never force someone to accept the things we say, however we can always leave them with the knowledge of how we feel. From personal experience, writing an open letter can be very helpful. A letter takes a lot of the pressure/fear of conflict away from a situation. Writing an open letter also gives you time to focus on how you feel, which is really important; a letter also gives you a chance to articulate the information in a manageable way. Leaving the reader with a letter, gets all the information you want to be herd out. Hope this helps, Ash
YouDeserveToBeOkay189
January 16th, 2016 3:48am
Earn their trust and show them that you are your own person, with feelings and ideas and that you have important things to say. Also remember to respect them since they are the ones who helped you become the great person you are today 😊
Anonymous
March 6th, 2016 8:18pm
making your parents listen can be very easy by having good way of speech and respect respect your parent they Are your friends And support And they would listen
darlinglove99
March 6th, 2016 11:41pm
First of all, you have to approach them in a calm way. Do not yell, and talk in a normal tone of voice. Try to catch them in a good moment, when they have time and are not in a bad mood. And if you want them to listen, you have to listen to them too. That way you can understand each other better.
LaurenJ1995
March 10th, 2016 10:37pm
Do not shout at them or say hurtful things to them. Sit them down and talk calmly and responsibly.
Anonymous
March 12th, 2016 2:03am
You have to be calm and respectful, and it doesn't hurt if you've been really good for a while before trying to talk to them.
LucyCat20
March 12th, 2016 6:45am
sit them both down with no distractions and make sure you give them time to listen and take turns
Anonymous
March 13th, 2016 8:41pm
Be reasonable and listen to them, its a two way street. Shouting often leads to no progress so having a calm discussion is far better.
Anonymous
March 18th, 2016 3:05am
Treat them with respect and obey their boundaries but at the same time respect yourself. Try to understand your parents but make sure they understand you too!
JK8287
March 18th, 2016 8:52am
Sometimes people just won't listen to you, no matter how skillful you are -- they just aren't ready. It's possible that they know better than you what's best for you also.
Anonymous
March 20th, 2016 8:46am
Build your trust in them. Tell them how you feel, try to make them empathize with you. Do not come off as disrespectful.
illbreakfree
March 23rd, 2016 8:43am
Parents can sometimes be a little bit different to communicate with especially because of the age gap and they seem to be so old fashioned... however we have to remember that our parents are the people who genuinely care about us so much and unconditionally. Honest communication is very important and in order for better communication, both yourself and your parents must treat each other as adults and accept each others differences and embrace similarities. Acceptance is key.