Why do kids call their parents by their first name?
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sometimes its often lack of respect depending on the age or it can just be a family sort of thing
Anonymous
January 28th, 2016 6:17pm
I say that children are used to it because they were either never corrected or they just don't want to listen
Anonymous
June 26th, 2018 10:45pm
Some parents and children prefer calling their parents by their first name, I guess it’s beacuse it makes them feel more grown up.
Children sometimes start to call there parents by there first name mostly in there teenage years. It often happens because the child is upset by something and the parent has something to do with it. Now, if that starts to happen, you need to confront you child and talk about it. But, you have to do it gently.
Anonymous
February 27th, 2017 3:18am
I do it because it is a boundry I put up between us. It helps me to have a relationship with them without the emotional baggage that comes with my family. I think some others might to it because it is funny. I'm sure people have their own reasons!
Some time it is because their parents could be divorces or just find out their parents name even in some cases it could be a step parent
Anonymous
January 28th, 2016 4:06pm
Mayb because they are not used to calling them mom and dad so they say that because they are kids :)
Anonymous
January 22nd, 2016 8:24am
Possibly the parents feel strange using the names "Mom" and "Dad" and see their kids as not just offspring, but good friends.
Well kids in early ages repeat all what they heard so if they hear someone else calling their parents by their names they'll surly call them the same
Some kids think it's cool to call like that. Some think it's friendly, more close.. Some do that because others do
Anonymous
January 13th, 2016 9:08pm
Because some parents raise their children that way. Or because a child got adopted and isn't comfortable with calling them mum & dad (or mum&mum or dad&dad)
I don't know why some kids call their parents by their first names, but sometimes it may be because that is the kind of relationship that they have with their parents and what they are used to. Lots of families have different things that they call their parents.
Based on my experience, when kids call their parents by their first name it may mean that they want to severe the tie that connects them to their parents.
Anonymous
January 17th, 2016 4:17pm
Because of the good bond they have. You call people outside your family by their last name, because it shows a certain amount of respect, but also distance, which shouldn't be in a family relationship
i guess its kind of more impersonal ? like if you dont have a great relationship with your parents then some people call them by their first name
Anonymous
May 6th, 2016 4:41pm
Some parents raise their kids to call them by their first names. To them, it's normal and proper. They just do it because they were taught to
It must be cultural. Not all kids do that. Children learn by imitating what they see and hear from their role models. If they see, that calling their parents by their first names doesn't result to punishment, the more likely they will continue to do that.
Anonymous
May 1st, 2016 4:32pm
It's different in many cases. Sometimes it's the parenting style, the parent may want their child to learn their name first, so, it may work like that. Other times, it may be out of disrespect.
Anonymous
November 30th, 2021 11:07pm
That's a great questions. It could be for different reasons. Maybe they are going through that phase where they feel the need to go or even do the opposite they are being told. There's nothing wrong with calling your parents by their first name. Perhaps, talking to the kids, and asking them why they do it might give you those answers you need. On the other hand, maybe they want to have a more casual relationship with the parents, maybe they want to treat them as they treat a friend, or even a cousin for just to set an example.
Kids feel comfortable enough to be on a first name basis with their parents or view their parents as an individual instead of attached person. Older kids tend to call their parents by first names before younger kids due to the understanding of this concept. This can also be translated into a negative feeling of disrespect because of the lack of acknowledgement that a mother or father has given life to that individual. The interpretation of this is solely based on the discretion and attitude of said parents and their willingness or unwillingness to allow their kids to make this transition.
It's depends on their parents what they want to be called but calling dad or mom is the only the real emotions lies in it .so parents seems to friendly with their childrens so that they feel easy with their parents to share and learn
Anonymous
May 21st, 2016 10:26pm
This could be because they just learnt the name (when kids are young) and think it's funny. But often in plder kids this coiuld be because the kid doesn't feel close enough to his or her parents to call them by mom or dad.
Anonymous
May 18th, 2016 12:45pm
Some kids call their parents by their first name because they might not be lucky enough to have a close relationship to their parents enough to refer to them as 'mom' or 'dad'.
Thats to do with their upbringing. They might have been allowed to do so by their parents. It isnt always disrespectful, it might be used as a jokey thing. But it all comes down to the upbringing of the kid.
Sometimes its what the parents what to be called for what ever reason or because their mad. It could be a number of reasons
Sometimes children are taught at a young age that they can call their parents by any name (i.e. Mom, Dad, or first name.) if that isn't the case sometimes it's a way to show disrespect which generally occurs among teenagers. The last case I can think of is if the parent is a step parent. My friend's mom married a new man and she refers to him by his first name. There are many reasons, but I believe these are the main ones.
Anonymous
May 13th, 2016 6:49am
Not all children call their parents by their first name, but some reasons could be: 1. they see them as their best friend, but there's still that mutual respect 2. their parents don't really want themselves to be called "mum" or "dad"
It's the fact that the know the crave knowing things you don't want them to and they're letting you know that you're not hiding it from them anymore
They might not feel as honored to call them by their first name. Or they just simply not comfortable to say the word mom or dad
It's doesn't seem 'cool' anymore to call parents 'mum' or 'dad' people at school might tease you about it
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