Skip to main content Skip to bottom nav

Why do they put so much pressure on me even though I do my best?

18 Answers
Last Updated: 04/02/2018 at 9:11am
1 Tip to Feel Better
United States
Moderated by

Jennifer Geib, LCSWR

Clinical Social Work/Therapist

1:1 chats (up to 5 days/week). - My therapy is non-judgmental and focuses on emotions and motivation to accomplish your goals or overcome your struggles.

Top Rated Answers
April 30th, 2015 3:59am
It is their way of showing you how much they care. Parents and loved ones that are older than us often show their love in ways in which we young people cannot understand.
February 15th, 2015 1:31am
The best thing to do is to give yourself time to relax. You are already doing the best you can, you can't do more than that. Keep you head high and pressure yourself only in a positive way
April 25th, 2016 5:54pm
Maybe you're think they put so much pressure on you. One feeling anyone who does their best has is this because they think they have to maintain their position. Don't be so uptight with yourself and if you think they're being uptight with you then don't let them affect you. Set yourself free, have fun
October 17th, 2016 5:41am
Although the common answer would be that they are "simply worried about you," and they "only want what's best," it's important to recognize that they also might have their reasons other than that. The pressure to do well, may be their attempt to motivate you to do your best. However, because they are not you, they may not realize the added stress that they have put onto you. It's important to communicate with the other party, and to hopefully come to a conclusion which satisfies both parties.
January 29th, 2015 11:59am
Maybe they are putting so much pressure on you because they don't realize it? Perhaps try talking to them about how much pressure they're putting on you.
January 31st, 2015 1:28pm
Maybe the communication is poor between you and the one who puts pressure on you. You must share them what you feel so that they would know how you are taking the challenges that come into your life.
April 10th, 2015 5:25pm
People don't understand that their expectations are sometimes realistic and their wants aren't always what the reality of someone's life will be. Continue to do your best because in the end, that is what truly counts.
November 7th, 2015 1:05pm
Oh man, I've been there and it was terrible. When I couldn't bear it any more, I just told my parents up-front that I was doing my best and I didn't need any pressure/motivation/whatever from them. I've learnt to take it easy and take difficulties in my stride. Hope this helps.
January 31st, 2017 12:59pm
Whether its parents or at a workplace, people will push you to your limits because they believe you have so much more potential than you give yourself credit for. Your parents (or boss) just want you to succeed in life, and though it's great they care about you like that, they shouldn't make you feel too stressed out. Because if you get too stressed out, you lose the will to try. Here's a quote from one of my favorite parenting author: "So often, children are punished for being human. Children are not allowed to have grumpy moods, bad days, disrespectful tones, or bad attitudes, yet we adults have them all the time! We think if we don't nip it in the bud, it will escalate and we will lose control. Let go of that unfounded fear and give your child permission to be human. We all have days like that. None of us are perfect, and we must stop holding our children to a higher standard of perfection than we can attain ourselves. All of the punishments you could throw at them will not stamp out their humanity..." What this means is, though they want your best intentions, they shouldn't hold you to a higher level than they can attain. They just do it out of love; tough, stressful, love.
July 11th, 2017 7:59am
Only you know how much you put into something. Although you are putting in your best, others may not see if that way. If you know you are putting in your best and doing everything you can, that is what really matters at the end of the day.
April 2nd, 2018 9:11am
It might be because they want you to be better than those of other people they know who are already doing good. Sometimes, other people can't just be contented with whatever they have.
April 8th, 2015 3:53pm
don't take it too seriously, keep in mind that they want you to excel, to push yourself and its these kind of pressures that you might be thankful for later on. They just want the best for you.
April 10th, 2015 6:18pm
Maybe they can't understand that you already tried to give your best. Try to explain this with many arguments.
November 30th, 2015 4:52pm
We pressure you because we know you can do better!! We never mean to make you feel sad just as your parents we are aware of your maximum capability. And we want you to do well
February 29th, 2016 5:56pm
Because they know how much you are a wonderful person and you can do more, just show them that you are moving a little bit at a time and you will never give up. Finally show them that you'll find your own path of excellence.
March 28th, 2016 11:13am
they want the best out of you don't worry I'm sure they are happy with what ever you get, don't feel upset
July 26th, 2016 1:28pm
Some people believe that when someone is working hard, and feels external pressure to work harder, that the person feels motivated to achieve even more. Maybe they feel you're capable of even greater things?
January 17th, 2017 10:06pm
The pressure you feel may be due to your own perception on the situation. When under stress we tend to imagine scenarios must worst . So those who are putting , what you see as , pressure on you are probably doing it as the care about your well-being and about your future. I understand it is hard to be under pressure at times , especially if it is by those who surround you most. If i were you i would just think the reason for these putting so much pressure on you is because they care , and if you feel as if you are doing your best . You will care a lot more so the pressure is not only from surrounding parties but also from yourself.