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Is forgiving another person just forgetting or letting go of anger?

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Last Updated: 10/01/2019 at 10:19am
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Erato
February 1st, 2018 1:39pm
Forgiving is not forgetting. It's freeing yourself from the anger that's enveloping your heart and not being cooped up in a cage with the things that have caused you pain.
Exhorter4u
November 20th, 2017 11:24pm
When you forgive you do not have to forget. You do let go of the anger and hurt created because of the problem. If you do not, it will eat away at you like a cancer. I forgave the man who raped and killed my elderly mother. I have not forgot about what happened.
confidentBeach53
December 4th, 2017 3:18pm
In my eyes, forgiving another person is letting go of anger for them. You may still feel anger but you do not hold whatever it is that they did or said against them anymore. You forgive them and move on.
koks13
December 12th, 2017 2:40pm
Forgiveness does not mean forgetting the situation, it means you let go of the pain and anger to move to a better place
TheBabyLion
March 13th, 2018 10:03am
If I may insert a little bit of my story here, I was bullied throughout my school life, and even though quite a few years passed I still carried a huge load of anger towards the people who did that to me. Only lately I realized how intense my anger is and how it affects my own wellbeing; after one of the emotional outbursts (which happened after remembering events in the past) I felt exhausted, drained, lost, helpless. This event led me to wonder whether or not we forgive because "it's a nice and wise thing to do", or because it simply unburdens a person who forgives! There's nothing wrong with anger - it's a reaction to something that is being perceived as a painful, harsh injustice. But a couple of questions that are worth of consideration, in my opinion, are - Is your willingness to feel better stronger than your willingness to stay in the state of anger? How exactly would you rather feel at this moment?
SupportiveSockMonkey
April 7th, 2018 11:41am
Forgiveness is letting yourself accept that it happened and allow the other person to know that. You may still not be happy or trust them, but this allows you to try and rebuild a friendship - or move on slightly knowing that you wont allow them to make that mistake again. Forgetting doesn't happen in the process of forgiveness, it allows the other person to learn from their mistake.
Anonymous
October 1st, 2019 10:19am
No definitely not. I think forgiving another person is very important during the process of getting better. Forgiving that person means you’ve let go of all ill feelings towards that person and situation. Too many times we let what that person did or said get to us and effect us in a bad way. Once we forgive that person we let it stop bringing us down. You don’t just forgot what that person did or said, but you let it stop having a hold on you. Forgiving someone who hurt you is not being weak, it’s being strong and brave.