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Why doesn't taking care of myself come naturally to me?

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Last Updated: 11/22/2020 at 9:44pm
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Shruti Naik, MS in Counselling and Psychotherapy


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August 22nd, 2020 9:36pm
Self-care. They make it sound so easy. Like all there is to it is just skincare and drinking water. In my experience it's not easy. Because there are so many things to consider! How am I feeling? Am I tired? Am I hungry? Does eating this will make me feel good or bad? Now or in the long run? Taking care of myself requires skills that need to be learnt and mastered and applied so many times before they become automated. It's not just a set of standard things that are always the same in every situation. No, you have to consider so many things. Sometimes the best thing for you is one thing, and the next day doing the same thing might be bad for you. And we are not perfect. We are human beings. So we will make mistakes. A lot of them. Making mistakes feels bad but it's normal, so we have to forgive ourselves. But that's not that easy either. All of this requires a lot of effort and dedication, I think. But even if it doesn't come naturally, and if it doesn't feel that great and empowering, it's still worth it.
September 24th, 2020 11:57am
Self-care, just like anything else, is a learned habit. It shouldn’t come naturally at first. In my experience, taking some time out of your day to practice self care (like doing something you enjoy, helps you relax) is a healthy, formed habit to care of our mental, emotional, and physical health. It should be something that refuels you, instead of takes from you. In time, practicing self care can improve your relationship with others, help you feel more energized, and less anxious. How to start? • stick to the basics. Over time you will find your own rhythm and routine. You will be able to implement more and identify more particular forms of self-care that work for you. • Self-care needs to be something you actively plan, rather than something that just happens. It is an active choice and you must treat it as such. By marking part of your day to practice self care, you are holding yourself accountable to do it. With these tips, I hope you can begin to understand that self care takes practice, and lots of it! Don’t worry if you try something and it doesn’t work for you, you can always seek out other ways to take care of yourself and find out what works for you.
October 28th, 2020 10:35pm
Sometimes we think more about others than ourselves. Sometimes to help others we have to make sure we are able to help ourselves. What helped me was realizing that by taking care of myself I would be better equipped to help others!! For instance I cannot financially help someone unless I am financially stable. Its like reaching out to someone in the water and being properly anchored to rescue them. There are many analogies that could be used. The most common one that I think can apply right now is the one about cups. Until your cup is full you can not pour into another person cup. Thank you all sincerely Josh
November 11th, 2020 5:57pm
Taking care of yourself is a part of your own personal relationship with yourself. The more you develop that relationship, the more you will have the need to take care of yourself. Also, there could be some self-sabotaging patterns in your mind if you have some un-processed emotions or trauma. Dealing with those is also a way to improve the whole picture of your relationship with yourself. Everyday try to make yourself do one caring thing for yourself. Try to remind yourself and you might, if persistent enough, create a good habit and it will be at least a little more natural.