How can you tell if you are a boy or a girl, or something else entirely?
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i am FTM and have known for some time it hit me like a ton of bricks i suddenly realized that i was this beautiful girly girl who everyone loved but i felt empty and different - once i started living for me and being who i was my whole life changed. spend some time with you and dont worry about a label..
It's entirely based on how you feel personally. If you feel like you are a boy, then you are a boy. If you feel like you are a girl, then you are a girl. If you don't feel like either, then start exploring non-binary identities! Your gender and gender expression is entirely up to you and if you don't want to label it, then that's fine also!
It's something only you can tell. What do you imagine yourself as in the future? How do you feel about each gender? To which do you connect the most? Are you comfortable with it? Try using new pronouns, gendered adjectives and names for yourself. See what fits!
I can relate; as a genderfluid person myself, I know that the question of gender is often confusing. Gender is a very internal thing. What gender do you feel most comfortable identifying as?
Sex is determined by biological factors. Boys have a penis and girls have vaginas. Gender is socially constructed. This means that society decides what a man and a woman should do.
Only you can decide and seek out your gender identity. It has nothing to do with how you were born or what pronouns others use to address you, it lies solely with what you connect with yourself. It's important to try new things to get a feel for where you feel comfortable, and if changing your name, pronouns, etc. is one of those new things, don't be afraid to try. If it feels right, it is.
I think expressing yourself without worrying about whether or not you are a girl boy or something else will lead you to an answer.
You can tell if you're a boy, girl, or something else in my opinion is you decide on what makes you happy the most. Yeah, society will try to beat you down but, if you feel confident, happy, and beautiful it shouldn't matter what others think of you. Do what makes you happy and not what others think will make you happy.
Anonymous
July 25th, 2015 4:51pm
Only you are qualified to answer that for yourself! You are the world's leading expert on you, and you have the power to own and define your own identity as and when you choose.
Your own inside voice and your feelings are always the most important things to listen to. Sexuality comes as a natural thing inside ourselves and nobody can tell better than ourselves.
How do we find out? We talk to ourselves, we meditate and ask ourselves how we feel and act.
Our brain and community classifies us into a gender role. Sometimes that may not feel specifically black or white. Girl, boy or someone different. Sexuality is diverse and deeply personal. Understanding your sexuality is about the feelings, thoughts, attractions and preferences you feel towards other people. There are different types of sexuality and it can take time to figure out what fits for you. Sometimes stereotypes may change over time, but eventually you will recognise what feels the most comfortable for you.
Anonymous
July 26th, 2015 3:26pm
There are various ways you can tell if you are a boy or girl. Once you begin to start having feelings that you associate more with the other gender, you should try researching some of the ways to figure out where you fall in the different genders. Once are more or less sure about how you identify, you should confide in someone you are close to. Possibly a close friend/sibling, from then on it becomes easier to deal with the weight of your secret and make it easier to come out to more people.
Only you can decide because you know yourself best. However you feel the most "at home" or the most like... You.. You know you've found it! Ifbyou dont identify with either gender, that is okay too! Dont feel pressured into putting a gender label on yourself!
I think the question is, does it matter? I know we tend to categorize everyone and everything, which is natural, though I honestly believe that as long as you love yourself - it doesn't matter.
When you first figure out your gender, It's usually when you're in your teen years. You feel strange in your body. It doesn't feel right. You want to change yourself.
It can be so hard when struggling to identify outside of the traditional gender binary (male or female). I identify as gender queer, and was thankful to find the concept after years of struggling to fit in and understand why I wasn't like the other girls. There's no simple answer to this question for many struggling with gender identity. Learning about the many other gender identities and questioning my idea of my own gender helped me to better understand where I fall into the spectrum.
Anonymous
July 30th, 2015 9:19pm
The best thing to do is not worry about it and do not let what anyone else says effect you. You are yourself and that is for sure and you are right being however you feel.
What I found about realizing that I was genderfluid, more along the line of trans is that people who are cisgendered rarely wonder if they may be trans.
No one can tell you if you're a boy or a girl or something entirely else. It's all in your mind and your body. If you start to question who you are, don't bash yourself for it, explore it, gender is not determined by your parts, it's determined by your feeling. Only you can be the judge of what you are. And don't let anyone else tell you differently.
If you feel like you're a boy, then you are. Same goes with feeling like a girl. If you feel that you're both or neither, that's perfectly okay too!
Your gender is not important as a label does not define you. Whether you are male, female, genderfluid, trans or other; it does not change the fact that you are a beautiful person capable of some much. A label does not need to define you and it does not make you who you are. Please don't be afraid and do not lose yourself to a label. Be you
I am not transexual, but I am a girl, I was born a girl and still am. I know I am because, well I just do, but I understand that isn't good enough answer or reason for other people. I am a very girly girl, I love dresses, make up, shoes etc. I'm not really anyone to answer this question but I think you know when you know, you should feel comfortable and happy in your own skin, if you don't and that means you need to change a part of yourself, then thats fine. You should defiantly do whatever it takes to make yourself happy (along as its safe and legal, of course). Be what makes you beautiful!
you really just have to explore. Remember that gender is a made up construct, and that wahtever you feel comfortable with is valid
Nobody can tell you that, except you. That's because you'll be able to acknowledge how you feel in your body - do you feel like you're not a girl despite being in that body? Nevertheless, either way, it's only you who can make that decision 😊
There are no rules that tell you what you are, but rather you figure it out yourself. You try out and see what identity makes you feel most comfortable. I believe that is the way to figure it out yourself. It mostly takes some time, but the most important point is that you are happy with your choice in the end.
Anonymous
August 5th, 2015 6:50pm
I'm transgender and I realized this when I would see guys and I felt like were similar and like I wanted to be like them and look like a guy and I just started to piece it together that I'm not like a normal girl or even a girl.
You can feel it from within, and you are comfortable identifying with it by the things you do and style too(activities, clothes you wear, etc)
Anonymous
August 6th, 2015 3:09pm
What helped me discover who I am, is finding people who identify as these genders and being it off of that. This is how I learned everything I know about genders and hope I found out who I really am.
You won't be able to tell if you are a boy or a girl, you will feel it in here
In my experience, gender is just how I express the body I was given. It's really hard to tell. Gender is a journey and our bodies are constantly changing. It's all about you, you don't even have to identify.
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