How can I stop over-thinking the way I act around myself or other people?
Last Updated: 11/12/2019 at 1:06am
Monique Thompson, LPC, LPC-S
Licensed Professional Counselor
I am in my 21st year as a psychotherapist. I have worked with over 3, 000 people over the course of my career.
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When you notice yourself over thinking, remember that everyone else is doing the same. Everyone over thinks they way they act, especially around other people.
This one is difficult because I don't thinking anyone ever really stops over-thinking things completely. However, I discovered that by thinking of my myself in terms of their life was useful. You see, to most people, you are only a part of their life, sometimes a small part. I know that may not be the most comforting thought, but it can help you realize that if you do mess up or say something "dumb", chances are they'll forget it pretty soon or won't dwell on it. You'd be surprise at how forgiving people can be sometimes.
Live in the moment while you can. As cliche as this is, life is going to pass you by and you'll miss everything.
Just take deep breaths. You are the only one who knows who you really are, so let that person free:)
By understanding what it is you're worried about. Is it what they think? Fear of embarrassment? I spent a lot of time with this same problem and to some degree, I still have to be wary of it. It gets better with understanding where the anxiousness is hiding.
When you realize you have been overthinking, it helps to talk to someone (for example, a close friend) who could offer you more rational ways of thinking about or approaching the situation. That, or you can take a second to yourself and take on a more rational perspective rather than reading too far between the lines. Ask yourself: is the situation as bad as you make it out to be? Does that person REALLY dislike you simply because they are more quiet than usual?
I don’t believe stopping is the right answer, but accepting you are a certain way and you are different is a good place to start. Realise that you are different to everyone else, and that is a good thing.
The moment you get a feeling that you may have entered overthinking stop it right there.. Only way to get rid of overthinking is telling yourself to stop unnecessary thinking. Whenever I start overthinking I share it with someone very close to me like mother or best friend, when they say that I am overthinking I realize my mistake..
“Bend towards the light” like flowers, plants, and trees. Remember that you are a part of nature so that you are reminded to exercise your birthright to be more natural. To be more natural, just like plants grow towards the source of light, so can we move towards those things that fill us with positive. Do what resonates with your soul and is in alignment with what feels true for you. There’s little debate in nature about whether it should let leaves fall in their season, how far branches should extend, how deeply roots should ground. It trusts its own process as you can trust yours. No over-thinking necessary.
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