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Why do I feel worse after crying?

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Last Updated: 07/28/2021 at 3:43pm
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I have been through a lot in life too, which helps me to be able to empathize with situations, thoughts and feelings that we have. Sometimes, it's not easy just being human.

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September 8th, 2016 8:35pm
Because there's nothing worse than crying alone, it feels like even if it hurts so much, no one cared because no one was there.
July 1st, 2020 9:19am
Usually when people cry, it either helps them to feel better or sometimes even worse. That is mainly because you feel vulnerable after having your guard up for too long. Conventional wisdom usually appears to attribute women to cry more, whilst the functioning and anatomy of tear ducts helps distinguish such facts from myths. A research study, held by Jonathan RottenBerg, the lead author of the study, where an article was published in the Journal of Research. There were 3000 participants where one-tenth of them had felt worse after crying. It was also found that it depends on who is crying to find the results. If it is just a bad situation, stress yet get good emotional support, they tend to feel better while those who have anxiety or mood disorders, feeling lonely and lost, tend to feel other otherwise. Crying is a mechanism that usually helps to calm the body down from its negative state of high blood pressure and high breathing patterns. It is to help the body and mind to tune into better moods. However, be careful and make sure not to get dehydrated. Emotional tears help cope with stress and otherwise prevent bigger complications like heart problems.
July 7th, 2017 1:30pm
You feel worse after crying maybe because you feel weak. Many a times, we think of tears as a symbol of weakness, when in reality, they aren't. You don't cry because you're weak, but because you've been strong for too long.
June 7th, 2017 5:42am
Sometimes putting yourself back together after falling apart can feel very difficult. You might feel feel physically ill--headache, tired, etc. You might feel emotional still or embarrassed. What ever it is, be gentle with yourself. Feelings are incredibly hard to control, Try to focus instead on positive thoughts, or even better positive actions. These things all have an influence on each other. If you feel terrible after crying do something like wash your face to start fresh. Take a walk if you can, physical movement helps move our minds along as well. Do something on your to do list. Most of all, treat yourself the way you would a dear friend who is going through a hard time.
October 5th, 2016 7:31am
You may feel worse after crying as your body has spent energy on tears as well as the other physical factors associated with crying. You may also feel worse after crying as your emotional state is tired and your mood was worsened.
August 28th, 2016 2:17pm
Because crying doesn't fix the problem so you basically wasted time that you could have been using to find a solution. Sure it's ok to let it all out from time to time but crying all day doesn't change a thing.
July 27th, 2016 7:35am
if you feel worse, crying may not be right reaction to your is not thing you need the can think over how else could you give react your issue.your reactions might being conflict with your thoughts.when you find your right reaction, ıt is makes you feel better
September 7th, 2016 6:44pm
While crying is a fantastic emotional outlet, it also leaves you dehydrated! Your sinuses get clogged, your eyes get irritated, and you're probably very emotionally drained, which can drain you physically, as well! How you feel physically can easily affect your emotional state, so it's easy to feel worse when you're bogged down like that. Always make sure to get a glass of water after crying, and if you're up to it, walk around a little, even if it's just walking in a circle in one room.
August 26th, 2016 10:23am
Its the guilt that you feel due to our upbringing, that we are doing something wrong. Remember, showing your emotion is not wrong. It is necessary. A good cry will in many ways relieve and make you feel better.
August 18th, 2016 9:59pm
Because I think I am weak because I cried, because I remembered things I didn't want to remember, because I show others weakness and I am embarrassed.
August 12th, 2018 11:56am
Crying can really take it out of you physically - it dehydrates us, it can cause headaches, it can even cause nausea if crying too hard. However it is a really good an important emotional release, so after crying make sure to take care of yourself. Drink a big glass of water, eat something small, take a painkiller if you have a headache, and get some rest.
July 22nd, 2016 9:54am
It may be coming from the aftermath of crying, sometimes after you let out your emotions physically such as crying, you can feel very tired or uncaring due to your energy being drained. With that being said, because of your lack of energy, it can cause your emotion to still bounce and be unsettling.
April 14th, 2019 9:38am
People don't like being vulnerable. I think it's because when you cry in front of someone or even alone, you cry about something that matters to you. We don't see other people crying, so we think it's a sign of weakness. We don't want people to pity us or look at us as we're weak. Crying about something also means that it matters, and things that matter hurt us. Personally I cry all the time, and more often than not I do feel bad about it. Sometimes I think I'm making a big deal out of something trivial. I don't like crying in front of others because it makes me realize how helpless I show myself.
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July 21st, 2016 2:21am
Because you have let out everything that you really felt and poured it out. Feeling all that emotions while crying is not easy. But to get yourself back up after letting it all out thats the hardest part.
May 30th, 2018 12:46am
that may be an apathetic feeling... i get it all the time after i cry. but i like it because i know ill get back to normal soon... keep in mind that these feelings are never permanent. you will be laughing and enjoying things again.
October 30th, 2020 10:22am
There are many reasons for that. May be you think crying is something only weak people do? May be you think crying isn't very 'macho' or something to be proud of? May be you see it as a sign of weakness- breaking down in the middle of the night? However, I believe, crying is something that makes us human. It is a sign of you being strong for a long period of time. It is a sign of you fighting and finally realising the battle wasn't worth it. It is a sign of you being a warrior, fighter who realised he/she was fighting the wrong battle. It is a sign of you trying to pick yourself up again. Trying to create a monument from all those crumbs. Or it simply is a sign of you holding up for so long, you planning to win the other half of the battle. You have been holding things up, carrying so much of weight for such a long period of time, it's time you let certain things go. It's time you cry and let those things flow away with your tears. It's time you cry and acknowledge how beautiful the emotion is.
August 12th, 2016 5:50am
After the emotional whirlwind you just went through, you now get to reflect on what happened, thus comes the regret and self-loathing
August 10th, 2016 2:45pm
Because you feel like life is so difficult but. Think about how you have so much to be thankful for. So many people are fighting harder waes
August 20th, 2016 12:56am
Normally people feel relief after crying, at least that is my personal experience. However when dealing with situations were one feels helpless, perhaps the realization of not having control of the reality affecting us can make it seem worse. I know when my father past away nothing could make me feel better. It took some time. Time is a healer and we need to be patient with ourselves and honor the process. Can you tell me more about why you feel this way?
October 6th, 2016 1:44am
Your body used up a lot of energy when crying, and so it can really be a draining experience. Take some time to let yourself rest and heal.
December 9th, 2016 10:13am
I'm not sure. Maybe you feel guilty for the reason you are crying such as you feel you are making a mountain over a mole hill or if it is someone you face losing, you feel bad that you may be making them feel worse than they already are or sometimes grief comes in plateaus, one bout of tears may be salve for just a portion but there is so much on your plate at the time that your soul can only handle it in portions.
November 23rd, 2017 12:43am
Because you entertain your sadness. We think we get relieved when crying but to some people it makes them realize their sadness more.
September 20th, 2018 11:01pm
Many of us have learned to criticize ourselves very harshly for crying. So that when we are crying, we not only feel terrible, but we might not even be aware of the terrible thoughts that we are having. These kinds of thoughts can take a toll on us, too~! While we are not noticing, we are 'beating ourselves up', in our thoughts, and it's no wonder that we feel bad later! I sometimes just let water run out of my eyes, without thoughts to accompany them. I never feel worse after that, but only better. Tears are natural release mechanisms and are not meant to make us feel worse.
September 21st, 2016 9:45pm
I suppose the feeling of letting something get to you can feel defeating, however, it's a natural response for a reason! Don't beat yourself up about it.
September 28th, 2016 4:03am
I feel that I should've done something to make myself better other that sitting and sulking. But sometimes I feel better after crying
March 5th, 2017 2:37pm
It's completely normal to feel this way. Feeling worse could be due to crying in the first place. Crying can be messy, and is one of the rawest of emotions. It may also be that crying was not enough to fully release your emotions.
July 16th, 2017 12:28pm
For some, crying can be a way of purging all of the negativity a sadness out. Once one has the physical embodiment in the tears, it's easy to feel that the emotion has drained from your eyes in the water. But sometimes crying doesn't help, and if you have been trying to hold your feelings inside, climactic crying can bring all of those negative emotions to the forefront of your thoughts.
May 26th, 2018 8:15pm
Perhaps you feel worse after crying because you look in the mirror and notice your eyes are red rimmed and swollen and that makes you start crying again! Perhaps it's like stirring up a witches cauldron, all the sad things to cry about have been re-enlivened.
June 16th, 2018 2:22am
It could be that when you're crying, you're letting yourself feel all those emotions like sadness, pain and anger, and it hits you all at once. But the important thing is that you let it all out responsibly and not keep those emotions bottled up until they make you do something you might regret.
June 17th, 2018 4:48pm
It probably depends of who you are. You could possibly feel guilty for being sad, whether it be because you don't think you have a right to be sad in comparison to the struggles of others, or you're realizing how much pain you are/have been holding in. Most people that I've met feel better after crying as it releases stored emotions. I think there's some kind of esteem issue/inferiority complex going on if you feel worse after crying.