What's the point of happiness if I don't want it?

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Candid0211
July 13th, 2016 6:33pm
If you don't want it then in all likelihood it's not happiness. Atleast your happiness. Don't let others define your happiness. Do it yourself.
Greatlistener87
July 8th, 2016 2:27am
If you feel comfortable just the way you are then you don't need to strive for it. Most people look for happiness above all things to be at peace but if you are not those type of people then thats okay, just be who u wanna be .
PedroMAlves1992
November 16th, 2017 7:54pm
I truly do not believe you don't want happinnss! But I do believe you are maybe afraid of the suffering you think you will get if you try to pursue happiness. Give it a go, open yourself a bit more, happiness is a fantastic thing to have and share, so are love and affection,
Anonymous
July 6th, 2016 6:49am
Well, you could have an unusual form of depression if you don’t even WANT to be happy. Don’t you want to be quite happy? Happiness brings you joy, a meaning to life. Being sad deprives. Nobody can force you to be happy, but don't' you think that's happier?
serenePassion40
September 2nd, 2018 4:51pm
The most fascinating thing about happiness is that it will somehow reach you, even if you don't want it. Things around you, be it small or big, has the possibility of bringing a smile in your face. There can never be a person in this world who says that he doesn't want happiness. Even looking at the sun rising in the sky, or a bud blossoming may create a sense of satisfaction in you. This satisfaction is nothing but HAPPINESS. The point is nobody should go in search of happiness, when looking deep down inside yourself, you may find unconditioned happiness. But like all things in this world, happiness is not permanent. When one form of happiness departs, we have to patiently wait for another form of happiness, which may be bigger than the previous one. So, Fill your life with positivity and happiness.
SMStar
July 13th, 2016 2:52pm
Meaning is defined in the moment. The purpose of life is about seeking purpose for every moment in your life. It’s not about defining the minutia, but more like the highlights. This goes along the lines of “there’s a reason for everything” thinking. If you have the belief that there’s a reason for everything that happens, then you will discover purpose in your life. If you believe there’s a reason for your pain and sadness, and those reasons will reveal themselves in the future, then you raise your tolerance level of what’s happening now. If you feel worthless or upset now, and there’s a reason you’re feeling it now, you will discover that reason later – and it will help you become more clear on the things that happened in your life in the past.
mintybunny
July 28th, 2016 10:19am
Sometimes people don't want things that they need. Like do I want to eat super healthy organic food all the time? No, but it is good for you. Do sometimes I have it anyway. But just like with a new diet, you should try to steadily allow happiness in your life. You don't have to do a 180 over night.
Someone357
July 30th, 2016 8:30pm
This is an interesting question. Happiness is something everyone wishes to have. You have to analyse the sotuation and see what keeps you from wanting to be happy. Is it because you think you don't deserve it, or maybe you want to punish yourself. There are endless possibilities. I think the problem is not the happiness itself, but the things associated with it.
anamikajain
September 8th, 2016 8:55pm
Well, happiness will come to you even if you dont want it. sometimes it wouldn't come to you when you want it. Point of happiness, is to be happy when you get it and acknowledge what comes though..!
Anonymous
January 27th, 2018 1:22pm
Why don't you want it? You are a beautiful, good person and you deserve to be happy, even though in dark times it might not feel like it to you. People love and care for you. Happiness is different for everyone. For some, it's being close to family, others it's found in nature. Think about Why you don't want to be happy, what are you trying to punish yourself for? Nobody deserves to have an unhappy life xx
Anonymous
April 11th, 2018 3:45pm
Depends on what you define as happiness. Is it laughs with family, funtimes, friends? Well, whatever it is, I believe it may just be easier to lie in bed and dream on. Maybe some people are so used to living a life where you're numb and simply don't care for happiness. Then causing you not to want it. Not sure.
freshpanda
August 16th, 2019 6:35pm
If you don't want it, then you don't want it. Unfortunately we can not choose what aspects exist in our world and life, as happiness is one aspect that just exists. It doesn't mean you necessarily would need to have it, but you can't remove such an aspect out of our world. You do you and we do us:)
Anonymous
July 6th, 2016 8:49pm
depends on your definition of happiness? life is what you make it of it all I guess if you want to be happy that is totally up to you by choice
Anonymous
July 17th, 2016 11:32am
That is the point of happiness, to make us want to be happy everyday of our lives. And keep on going and having reasons to go on. When we are happy, there is no way that we will want to stop moving and believing that everything will fall into place one day. :)
YuukiKuran1996
July 21st, 2016 12:40pm
You have to experience it in order to decide :) The point is that happiness and its pursue is part not only of society core values but human nature :) Findind your pupose in life makes you happy and the more happiness you feel the more understanding you can have about wanting it or not :)
darklinglisten
July 23rd, 2016 5:52pm
Happiness is a human understanding that can be understood by the person who has become happy as a positive reaction to the world around them. Sometimes, you might not feel that it was appropriate or substantial in that moment to feel those emotions. Those are just thoughts. The point of living a long and happy life is sometimes neglected by choosing too ignore what is the matter.
here4you201
July 24th, 2016 4:03am
Then you don't have to have happiness. You can have gratitude, joy and so on. We live in a world that everything has to be defined by a word. What exactly is happiness? Define happiness. :)
adoredIcicle46
July 29th, 2016 9:08pm
If you don't want happiness, that's okay! Sometimes people feel down and sometimes depressed and so i get that being happy right then and there isn't wanted. Sometimes you need to be sad at one time to feel better and when you are sad, you might not want happiness but it will come soon.
enkyr
August 7th, 2016 8:30pm
happiness is something that many of us seek. it tends to improve our lives significantly, whenever it occurs. there is no point in trying to make someone happy if they don't want it. but there is a point in helping them along, perhaps trying to show them that it could make them feel well.
cherry09
August 11th, 2016 4:08am
Happiness makes people around you happy. If you don't want to be happy, at least help people around you to be happy
Anonymous
August 11th, 2016 11:03am
Happiness is an elusive emotion for it is quite volatile and dependable on life circumstances. If your happiness is dependent on what is happening in your life or by others around you then it is quite impossible to attain happiness in your life. The more dependable and helpful emotion to aspire to is gratitude and joy. Joy is a settled state of contentment, confidence and hope that is unaffected by anything outside of us. It is an inner strength that allows us to face life challenges in a healthy and more productive way. Therefore, happiness isn't the most effective emotion to strive for, an inner peace and joy is what will allow you to face life challenges and obstacles and remain strong and resilient.
SilentSerenityy
August 11th, 2016 5:04pm
Happiness is not a goal everyone wants to achieve. If you don't want happiness, for whatever reason, that's your prerogative. But you could argue what is the point of another person's goal if you don't want it yourself. The goal is important to them for a reason and I'm sure you have your own goals in which you can see the point of, if that makes sense.
rhaelys
August 11th, 2016 8:23pm
One day you will. One day the cycle of depression feeding on itself will end, and you'll find yourself wishing for happiness again. It starts small - wanting to pet a dog because it makes you smile, writing with a particular pen because the ink flows really smoothly, treating yourself to a donut before work. You'll get there.
Anonymous
August 14th, 2016 8:51am
Happiness is good for your everyday health, both mentally and physically. It helps you push through the most difficult of times.
hopefulRainbows30
August 17th, 2016 7:51am
Happiness is one of the things that make us move forward, that motivates us to continue in our lives. When we are happy in doing something or as a result of doing something, it is usually (but not always the case)-- there are so many definitions out there of happiness as it is really a fluid idea but real happiness is an indicator that what we are doing is good for us. I believe that we are not meant to live unhappy lives. If we are designed to be unhappy, what is the point of our lives then? Happiness leads us to the point of living.
Anonymous
August 19th, 2016 2:00pm
Sometimes, if not most of the times, what we need is greater, better and more appropriate than what we want. And we all need and deserve happiness in our lives.
AlexHart
August 28th, 2016 2:18pm
If you don't want it that is up to you. So there is no point if you don't want it. There is no point trying to convince someone to want happiness if it's not what they actually want. This question is pretty stupid.
RileyGalaxy
September 8th, 2016 7:21am
Then there isn't a point. Sometimes happiness is your own definition of it. Sometimes I'm the happiest alone, with no one around but my own thoughts and some coffee.
Peanut45
September 11th, 2016 8:45am
Because when you are unhappy, it creates negative energy to everyone around you. Life is filled with happiness, some people just have to search to find it.
Fraz
September 14th, 2016 8:08am
It's the same as day after a night. Without the former, you can't tell when the latter has come or gone. Similarly, happiness is crucial for unhappiness. We all need a point of reference. Even if, it's relative.