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What to do when people make you feel wrong?

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Last Updated: 07/20/2021 at 2:05am
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Anonymous
May 29th, 2018 6:51pm
Keep in mind that you may still be right. Rely on the facts of the matter instead of listening to others opinions. I feel like that all the time with my friends, and sometimes they'll be wrong. It all depends on if I already know for a fact what the answer is, or if Google can correct them. In this situation, I'd try to make myself feel confident and brush it off. Don't let this wear you down or define who you are as a person. If it's a personal matter, talk to them or someone else about this and try to get facts straight. There's always a chance you could be right.
peacebunnee
July 20th, 2021 2:05am
Know who you are and what you value in life. Not everyone values the same things and personalities can conflict as well. Not sure what kind of wrong they make you feel, but I was made to feel wrong a lot because of my quiet, introverted qualities growing up. It wasn’t until recently, when I studied a bit about my personality and my natural way of functioning, did I realize I wasn’t wrong all the time, I just function from a different place and sometimes have different values than those telling me I’m wrong, like family. Anyway, I was able to tell this to some friends and coworkers and they were actually very understanding. Know yourself. Communicate calmly, and don’t be afraid to defend yourself. Hope that’s helpful!
RiseUp2020
May 15th, 2018 4:02pm
When people make me feel wrong, the first thing I always do is take a deep breath. It seems to work wonders for me. All of that rage and righteous indignation gets put in its place after a good long breath. Sometimes I take 2, maybe even 3 before responding to the situation from a place of clarity.
Anonymous
March 24th, 2020 10:43pm
I think it is helpful to look at it in context. If it is something like an opinion then it could help to look at why they are saying what they are saying. Not so much what they said. For example, if you ask a friend to go skiing with you and they say "No skiing is a terrible idea that's so stupid", instead of focussing on what they said which could be interpreted as skiing being a terrible idea and awful thing to do, you could also look into understanding why that person might have said that. Maybe the person doesn't just doesn't want to go or they personally don't enjoy it etc. Whatever the reason may be, just know that sometimes people don't always communicate clearly so when someone says something that makes you feel wrong try to understand their side and know that it might have nothing to do with you.