Why can't stop thought cycle of negative feelings, like fear, anger, anxiety?
Last Updated: 05/01/2018 at 12:46am
Tara Davis, Doctorate in Counselling Psychology
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I feel that we ca not stop negative thoughts and such feelings as these are part of us.In fact the world is made up of both positive and negative thoughts .These are integral of the world.And presence of both these is essential as these feeling fear or anxious in certain situations is normal an human nature in fact.But the problem arises when we are overtaken by these feelings and this happens because of the lack of self belief ,determination.We do not understand that we are the sole controller of our live and we give up.What is required that the very believe that we are strong enough to face these emotions ,need to be instilled in our hearts.
First I want to look briefly at why they arise, before elaborating, as per my understanding, why they're not so easy to relieve. Ascendancy: There are personal and social influences. Personally, due to experiencing related life situations as negative, I may be triggered at present to "relive" that pain, so to speak. Socially, I may have been brought up with incompatible values, or ideas of decorum. Persistance: Let's continue looking at these feelings in terms of local and extended influences, but now instead of the cause of the feelings, let's see how our personal and social influences can be leveraged to help us out. At my level, I can acknowledge that I have some basic needs. The categories I use to describe these needs are: physical, intellectual, emotional, social and numinous. If we can get at our needs through a little introspection, that will be one condition to help meet them. Above and beyond what we can do ourselves in terms of resolving these inner conflicts, is having a least one relationship based on mutual care and trust (social). Having a well-wishing friend lends a sense of value to my life. The nagging inner voice of dissatisfaction will not be able to convince us that we suck as easily with such social reinforcement, as it could when we were feeling all alone. Moreover, the social element can compensate for tunnel vision (in this case it's a dark tunnel, indeed). I only see a thin slice of the reality of my life-situation. A friend's perspective can bring new lights of forgiveness, rejuvination or whatever we may presently need, but which we don't realize we need.
Our ability to think positively is the result of habit, and conditioning. Negative feelings are the exact same way, and can be changed through awareness. Meditation and physical exercise of almost any sort, help us to become aware of what triggers those feelings; and exercise produces the release of chemicals in our mind that relieve stress, anxiety, etc... Do not judge yourself or the emotion, there are no bad emotions only poor reactions as a result of them. For example: anger is an appropriate emotion to being mistreated or abused. When we repress it, it becomes depression. Feelings we repress are stored in our body, so tapping into them can at first feel uncomfortable, but staying with it, staying present, we can learn to identify not only the feeling but the cause behind them. They can also reside in parts of our psyche like our inner child, male/female self, and subconscious. Recommended reading: Feelings Buried Alive Never Die. The author includes visualization and muscle testing techniques to uproot what we don't want and insert what we do want.
I don't know thats hard to answer. Perhaps you should speak to your family about your feelings and see if you can resolve it.
How does one define "cold"? It's the absence of heat. How does one define "darkness"? It's the absence of light. Ho does one define negative feelings? They are the absence of positive feelings. The moment there's heat, there's no coldness. The moment there's light, there's no darkness. The moment one starts to think positively, all negative feelings fade away instantaneously.
It's all part of having a mental health issue. Unfortunately most of the time you can't stop it. You can try to distract yourself, get used to it or consider medication to soften the blow.
If you say you can't stop the cycle then you can't stop the cycle. Give yourself more credit! Tell yourself you can break the cycle and you will be able to.
This comes from the mechanical part of our mind. It's purpose is to have repetitive thoughts, but it doesn't segregate the positive feelings from the negative feelings. Fortunately everyone a certain amount of control over it and can certainly replace negative thoughts and feelings with positive ones.
Likely it is because you think you cannot. When we feel negative feelings, they feed into each othter, and we start to believe them, like "I can't stop this cycle anyway." Then we wonder why. In truth, it is possible for you to stop this cycle of thoughts, and you are hoping it is because you asked this question - that's great! That's the first step: acknowledge there is a problem. Second: love yourself, be patient as you seek the answers. You will get there one day.
These may be symptoms of depression. Try and figure out where these feelings are coming from so you can address them.
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