Why do I get jealous when I see my best friend do well? I'm supposed to be happy for her right? Then why?
Last Updated: 11/23/2021 at 5:14pm
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Jealousy is a natural part of human nature, regrettably. It might not be a good thing, but it motivates us to be better than we are. Use your jealousy as motivation, turn your weakness to your weapon.
Sometimes we see others and what they possess and know that we can do better. But instead of us trying harder to obtain our own goals we take the easy route and wish we had what others have.
Make fun of those who made fun of you by showing them that you are smarter than them Silence all of your bullies by making them feel inferior to you Make all of those who rejected you seem stupid by becoming more successful than them. Make that person who dumped you know that he did the worst mistake ever when he hears your news.
The want for success is natural. When you see somebody who is doing well, you're likely to act in one of three ways. Happy for their success, envious of their success, or indifferent to their success. It can hurt to see somebody who is close to you do better than you because you are so close. I've sometimes felt jealous because I always wanted to be equal with my friend. That could be your answe. Idk without the backstory
It's a natural human emotion that can be hard to control, and of course you'll feel happy for her! But know your accomplishments aren't unnoticed!
It's your ego. It's a sublte thing. The only way out of it is the hard way, you have to force yourself to feel happy for her, its hard and unnatural, but it feels better than being jealous if you can do it.
Jealousy is a human emotion that we all naturally feel. Emotions are a part of what makes us human. Being upset, feeling jealous, feeling angry, all of those feelings are a natural part of being a human and doesn't make them a good or bad person. We cannot help our emotions, only how we act in response. It is our actions and words to others that do make up a person, not the emotions we feel.
Yes you should be happy for her and always remember no ones life is perfect. Everyone will have their own problems just because u can't see the problems does not mean it is not there. You might want what she has therefore you are jealous. But rather then being jealous why not work towards getting it for yourself.
Jealousy is a common emotion that every one experiences. It is also common for people to become jealous of their loved ones for doing well. As long as you don't take your jealousy out on them, you are fine.
Getting jealous is normal. The real challenge is how you handle it. You could see it as a motivation to get out of the house and do great things too or you could do nothing about it. Accept the challenge.
Sadly, it's natural for people to become jealous when others are doing well- especially if they're exerting a lot of effort themselves. Just remember that your best friend has exerted effort of her own to get where she is now, and instead of staying jealous, celebrate that her efforts have produced rewards, and know that your achievements will be bearing fruits of their own.
Sometimes we aren't proud of our emotions. Sometimes our first thought or words can make us feel that pang of guilt: "Why did I think/say that?" It's certainly human nature to want to succeed. Unfortunately, when we feel poorly about ourselves or things just don't seem to be going our way, it can leave a bad taste in our mouths to see others succeeding, regardless of how we feel for them. Ever fail a test while your friend got an "A"? Would you rather your friend have failed with you? Of course not! But wouldn't it have made you feel a bit better about your own grade if your friend had failed too? This is just part of human nature. Just do your best to push past these emotions and certainly avoid expressing them to your friend specifically. Remind yourself that you love and care about them and you should be/are happy for them that they're doing well.
It's completely normal to be jealous. Compare it to when people order nicer food that what you already have. Just enjoy what you already have and don't compare yourself to others- ever. Even if you get jealous, always have your expectations up high. If they can do it, that means you can do it too! Better- even!
Don't get annoyed at yourself for how you are feeling. We have to accept our negative feelings to learn from them and reflect on ourselves to understand ourselves better. Perhaps you are just not satisfied with your own lifestyle at the moment and that is perfectly fine! Maybe you need to consider what you could change in your own life to bring you happiness so you can appreciate her success too. We all have different lifestyles and sometimes we have to learn to focus on our own paths instead of comparing ourselves with others as we are our own unique individuals and experience different emotions - I'm sure you have many great enviable qualities of your own! I hope I helped and good luck!
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