Boy friend says I could have anyone I want then stops talking to me. Did I do something wrong?

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Last Updated: 05/18/2019 at 9:26am
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Anonymous
May 15th, 2019 12:17am
It sounds like your boyfriend may be feeling insecure and upset, it might be best to sit down and have a serious conversation about whether or not he feels secure in your relationship. It's completely possible that you may not have done anything wrong and he may just be having a bad day, but the only way to know is to have a conversation with him and try to work out how you're both feeling. I know it can be scary and you may be feeling hurt that he isn't talking to you right now, but maybe he just needs time to work out his own emotions.
ColorfulMeaning
May 15th, 2019 9:42am
Maybe you did nothing wrong. Or perhaps you did. But nothing make sense what he have said. The reason he said, I guess he don't want to continue relationship with you anymore. It could be his personal issue. Like he have lost interest on you, foud someone new, wants to be single, relationships bothering him. If you did really something wrong and he wanted to continue the relationship probably he would discuss with you. You might be asked what have you done wrong by him. As he haven't said anything else or conatct you it means he do not want to continue relationship with you. So I guess you didn't done anything wrong.
Audacity11
May 15th, 2019 7:07pm
You didn’t do anything wrong, I can get the same way with my girlfriend sometime and I feel really horrible about it but from a personal experience from how it is with me it’s from jealousy of some sort, or anxiety and overthinking as he doesn’t feel like he really deserves you and thinks you’ll find someone better you should just keep on giving him reassurance that he isn’t gonna lose you and that you aren’t gonna go for anyone else. People like him just take a lot of patience and time for them to accept the fact that they aren’t gonna lose you
fairyava
May 15th, 2019 11:09pm
Unfortunately, some people feel that their S/O is "out of their league" due to self-esteem issues, and things like that. It sounds like this may have been what happened. Have you tried contacting him about this? Did you guys have a fight recently before this happened? Do you know about his mental health history? These are all things to take into account when working with this type of topic. Other's insecurities do not reflect you as a person, I hope you can recover from this and possibly get ahold on him. Feel free to connect to a listener as well if you ever need someone to talk to!
Anonymous
May 16th, 2019 5:05am
How is anyone supposed to answer this question? You have not given us any backstory or something we can use and see what lead to your boyfriend saying this. Next time please give us more details. There is no way on earth someone can answer this. I don’t believe your boyfriend would just say “I could have anyone I want” without a cause, something must have happened. Since you have not provided the crucial details, no one would be able to answer this question 100%
gigantCloud92
May 18th, 2019 9:26am
Hello. Maybe he is feeling jealous or upset about something that happened earlier. Or perhaps he feels that he isn't enough for you. In any case, It would be helpful if you provide details about the events preceding this, because it is almost impossible to get an idea. It might be your mistake, or he might be just over-thinking. Nevertheless, i would suggest that you talk it out with him, so that both of you are on the same page. Understanding is a vital part of any relationship, and it is best to talk to him first. Hope it helped. :)