Cheated on bf w someone I care about. How do I change, and How do I prevent my self esteem issues from causing this betrayal again?

Hey, first of all try not to blame yourself. this things happen and we not always in control as we want to think. your also a victim in a way of this bug in your brain that made you do it. i think that it could be good idea to try and look at your life in more general sense, your relationships with your bf, your work/school, relationships with other and motivation. sometimes cheating is very similar to addiction , it's filling some void we have in our lives. it's distracting us. you very right by asking how you could prevant it again, cause it could happen again even if you don't want. so as i said. try to look on your whole life and figure out if something is missing. and meanwhile try not to get in a situation you could cheat on. if you can try not to be alone with other guys. build a routine and lifestyle that won't have a place for cheating to occur. wish you the best

Hey, it's a great start that you've reached out here. One suggestion is to try the listeners support right here at 7cups. You mentioned self esteem. What a good idea to build up yours, and well done for recognizing how important it is to love and value yourself. You are special. There are some great community threads and kind folks who would be willing to encourage you in that area. Could you try find one that suits you? If not, let me know and i'll help you look :)