Is it normal to be nervous about getting married?

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Anonymous
January 23rd, 2015 5:55pm
Sure! It's a very important moment in your life! Thus, experiencing anxiety is quite normal! After all, one worries with all the aspects that might go wrong - the dress, the reception, the cerimony, the bride, the groom... So, it's perfectly reasonable to feel like that! Try to do some breathing exercises to help you relax! And... CONGRATULATIONS! :D
Incandecentembrace
February 15th, 2015 3:06pm
Yes, most people get nervous about being married. The financial aspects, the love, if it works or doesnt, the family, friends, who shows up, the anxiety of being in front of every one its a very common thing.
spacecat63
June 1st, 2015 7:35am
Of course! Marriage is a really big decision that will potentially affect the rest of your life. In no way is it something to rush into. If you're unsure about getting married to someone, maybe you should think back it. Try to think of all the pros and cons that marriage will cause and weigh them against each other. If you're not absolutely certain that you want to marry the person you plan to, you shouldn't go through with it until you are. Marriage is not something you can easily undo, so never rush into it.
Anonymous
August 7th, 2017 3:40pm
I believe that everyone feels nervous about getting married. I was a nervous wreck for what seemed like months before my wedding day. I think it's because we love the person so much that we are willing to take that commitment, and we want to make sure that everything is going to be great and true!
JoyfulHeart822
July 7th, 2015 10:08pm
Every big change in your life can cause a little stress. Whether it's a good change or a not so good change. As long as you know deep down that it's what you want, you will be fine. Everyone gets cold feet. :)
LeoNapier
January 25th, 2015 2:23pm
Absolutely normal! Getting married is a major life event and it is bound to induce some anxiety to even the most laid back people.
ItWillBeOkaySarah
August 3rd, 2015 11:42pm
Yes, it's completely normal! Everyone gets it.Just try to understand what you are stressed about and confront it! Good Luck :)
Endoftherainbow21
April 25th, 2015 2:50pm
Sure! It is normal to be nervous about spending your life with someone! Getting married is a wonderful but terrifying time in anyone's life!
gentlespeech
June 4th, 2015 6:22pm
Of course! Marriage is a whole lifestyle change and requires a lot of commitment to both yourself and your soon-to-be spouse. But it's also wonderful. Every relationship has fights and every relationship has love and love is what needs to be supplied more than anything. Congratulations and I wish you luck!
ForeverForgiven
August 24th, 2015 11:01pm
Yes. I was super nervous when I was getting married. You're starting a new chapter in your life. Marriage is a big step, and a whole new level of commitment.
olimaar
October 26th, 2015 3:40pm
Of course. This is a big life decision. But before any rash decisions are made about your opinion on the wedding, close your eyes. Take three deep breaths. Ask yourself "Is this the person I want to walk up to every day of my life?" You should be able to answer that question easily.
Anonymous
January 4th, 2016 1:33am
Yes. Many people get nervous before getting married. You just need to remember why you love him/her and have your maid of honor/best man help you through it.
Enigmatica
September 6th, 2016 11:37am
Very. Marriage is a huge milestone in your life and cold feet or nervousity/anxiety before wedding and when/about getting married is quite normal.
Anonymous
March 12th, 2018 4:33pm
It is normal to be nervous about getting married because it's a new setting and expectation that you may never have been before so you get worried about what will go on or if you may be approachable or not.
Peacefulmeditation
August 31st, 2015 3:43pm
Absolutely, it's a big decision to start a family. Most people feel very nervous as the wedding date approaches.
MegEliza
September 2nd, 2015 6:50pm
Yes! Marriage is a big milestone in life and there are many variables when it comes to the wedding itself (dress, ceremony, transportation, etc.) Try talking to your fiancé about it if you're nervous - it's good to have someone just to talk to, and it's a shared experience between the two of you! Maybe they're nervous too...
Anonymous
February 9th, 2016 2:16pm
Absolutely! It is a new chapter in your life and the idea of how your relationship may change can be daunting
Anonymous
May 30th, 2016 10:40pm
It's completly normal! As long as you know it's nerves of joy and not nerves of doubt Hun! You'll be okay!
Tokster
January 10th, 2017 10:52pm
It is super normal for a man or women to be nervous! its a big step and commitment. Simply think about what make you so happy with this person and the nervousness with subside. If you still feel nervous try talking to your partner and be honest... tell them that you feel nervous and a good answer back is not 'oh you shouldn't be nervous."
Supergirl94
June 12th, 2017 5:13am
YES!!! Trust me I would know ;) I am getting married February 9th 2018, I have had no doubts about our relationship, that he is the one for me or about us getting married. But just because I have no doubts does not mean I am not nervous as hell! It is normal :D Some may think you are insane if you aren't nervous ;) This is a new chapter in your life and a new chapter for your relationship. Your lives will change in many aspects and you will have to adjust to all the changes and get used to being a pair. Yes you were a pair before but as a married couple I hear that is an entirely new thing. Being nervous is good as long as it doesn't lead you down a dark path
ismile
March 1st, 2016 7:06am
without a doubt, it's normal to be nervous about getting married. since marriage marks the beginning of a new phase in life, it creates a lot curiosity and anxiety of what it would be like to live with another person with a different perception. for that matter, anything which is unfamiliar creates a certain nervousness and marriage is no different
Fyn
March 7th, 2016 5:35am
Marriage is a extremely big commitment, even if its something you really want in your life it is still a huge event of a day. Theres so much that happens in one day so ofcourse your going to be a little nervous about it.
Anonymous
March 10th, 2016 5:40pm
Yes in fact, it is quite normal to be nervous about getting married. A common term for this is "pre-wedding-gitters" Many people experience nervousness when considering the new experience of marriage and potentially sharing the rest of your life with your significant other.
LeonMcLion
September 10th, 2016 11:28am
Getting married will change the way you live for the rest of your life, that's why it is pretty normal for an upcoming groom/bride to feel nervous. Even though, let's say you are already married to this person you still don't have any clue whether that person will still hold the vow until your very last breath. Marriage is a very tough decision so make sure you marry the person you really love and really trust.
Em12321
January 17th, 2017 10:49pm
Yes, it's very common. You are getting ready to spend the rest of your life with just one person which can be daunting. Just remember how much you love them and why you want to get married. I wish you the best!
WaWeeGee
July 15th, 2019 10:26pm
Yes! Absolutely it is; the mind explores every doubt and every reason TO go through with it. Talking it out with your fiancee is definitely one way to bring down those "pre-marriage" nerves. Discuss all of the reasons that led you to that moment in time, go through the memories of it all and laugh at them. You have a lot on your plate when it comes to a wedding but all that needs to happen is for you and your partner to say yes/I do/etc, and it will all be said and done with. And in the future you will be laughing about that memory of being nervous.
KevinisListening
June 7th, 2015 5:21pm
Yes it's normal being nervous. It's a giant step that your taking being apart of a new life that you are about to being.
Lumin0us
November 23rd, 2015 2:20am
I have not gotten married but out of all the people I know have and it's perfectly normal to get nervous@
Anonymous
January 9th, 2018 3:05am
A little
Anonymous
March 5th, 2018 7:28pm
Yes of course. You're making a giant commitment to another person and that can be really stressful.