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What can I do if my partner is too clingy?

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Last Updated: 12/17/2018 at 6:01am
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SilentSerenityy
March 10th, 2017 3:12pm
A clingy partner is a sign of their own insecurity but it can also be a bad sign; a way of controlling you by keeping tabs on you all the time. You will have to communicate with your partner that they're being clingy and that healthy relationships require some space at times, but it doesn't at all mean you don't love them, you simply find it suffocating. If they respect you and the relationship, they will be able to adhere to that for you, but as they have to confront some of their own insecurities, they may feel a little offended and go on the defensive so I would be prepared for that.
suchAngel
April 3rd, 2018 8:33pm
Talking always helps. Try to talk about it. And do things that make him/her feel happy and then explain how you feel about him/her being clingy. I am sure a happy heart understands better. Good luck.
Anonymous
August 1st, 2018 6:49am
Everyone has different ways of showing affection and love. This may just be the way he/she shows affection. Maybe what you see as clingy is there way if letting you know that they love you and love being with you. Uf it bothers you, you most definitely need to talk. Be gentle.
Sunny0216
December 17th, 2018 6:01am
I personally have dealt with this issue and feel as though I’ve found an answer. Of course every relationship is different, so I can’t speak for everyone. First, ask yourself why your partner is too clingy. In my situation, it was because she was afraid to lose me. This is probably the most common reason for your partner to be clingy. If this IS the case, communicate with your partner. reassurance goes a long way. also ask them how they feel about the state of your relationship. The worst thing to do in this situation is push your partner away. The best thing to do is simply communicate. Try your best to understand why they are being clingy and communicate that you need some space. But relationships are a two way street, so make sure that you are also present in your relationship. make sure you’re giving your partner what they need from a relationship as well.
cristiana33
November 20th, 2016 11:19am
Why not start by telling them? Tell them what actions or words you define as too clingy and what he could do instead for you not to feel too pressured. Without communication it is hard for our partners to know what they do wrong and change for the better. Communicate, help them and yourself to build a strong relationship ground.
Anonymous
July 25th, 2017 11:36pm
Communication is key. It's always a good idea to bring up your thoughts/check in on how the other partner feels whenever either partner feels something offsets the overall, mutual happiness of a relationship. There's no surefire way to assume a person is __________ because of behavior such as clingliness; every relationship has different people and needs. Everyone expresses a need or emotion in a unique way; the recipient also understands those needs or emotions in a different way. For the smoothest outcomes, it's best to kindly raise your concerns as a loving partner.
endearingVoice84
October 10th, 2017 9:14pm
The best thing to do when in a relationship is to communicate. Without communication there will be so many problems and you will have trouble being happy. Talk to them about how you feel and that you think they are being to clingy, make sure they know you still care about them but that you feel uncomfortable with some ways they are acting. Maybe give them some ways to improve and ask them if there is any ways you could improve. Just talk about it. If it becomes too much for you though, no one is making you stay with them, if you are not happy, tell them this and kindly end the relationship.
Anonymous
October 24th, 2017 3:05pm
Talk to them about it. Help them figure out how to enjoy a little time on their own. If you really care for them, you should talk to them about it without making them feel like they are invading your space. Sometimes people tend to lose themselves in a relationship. You can help your partner to realise that it is very important for a healthy relationship that both retain their individuality. Your partner might be lonely or troubled or insecure. Help them.