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What is the best way to stop cutting myself?

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Last Updated: 01/25/2021 at 3:05am
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February 23rd, 2015 5:15pm
There are lots of things that help. You can draw or paint, listen to music or one of the more hepful ways is to hold an ice cube in your hand until it meltss
April 16th, 2018 2:27am
Since I'm a bit of an artist, I like to draw or paint on my body. I usually get sucked up into the art and forget about my cravings. The best part is when you get into the shower and you can see the color wash off your body and go down the drain. It's like a relief to see it gone.
July 2nd, 2018 10:01pm
You could try freezing your razor, and hopefully by the time you have finished un-freezing your razor your wanting to self-harm will be over.
February 25th, 2015 3:19pm
Start by being aware of which situations are likely to trigger your urge to cut. Make a commitment that this time you will not follow the urge, but will do something else instead.
March 13th, 2015 10:01am
The best way to stop cutting is to replace it with something healthy, like crafting ,reading , writing, cooking or drawing. Just try something to keep / distract you from cutting. It may be hard at first but in the long run it is worth it and you are worth it.
April 8th, 2015 6:40pm
The best way to stop cutting yourself is to find another outlet for the pain you hold inside. Try working out, or listening to music. I personally enjoy writing. Writing your thoughts down on paper, instead of on your skin, can be a good way to release all your pain and make it more manageable.
April 25th, 2015 1:12pm
If you have been cutting and you want to stop, you gotta try resisting the urges to cut, try distractions and alternatives: Then start by being aware of which situations are likely to trigger your urge to cut. - Make a commitment that this time you will not follow the urge, but will do something else instead. Then make a plan for what you will do instead of cutting when you feel this urge. Things to distract you: call a friend/trusted adult and talk about something completely different take a shower (make sure you don't have razors in the shower) go for a walk or run, take a bike ride, dance like crazy, or get some other form of exercise play with a pet watch TV (change the channel if the show gets upsetting or features cutting) drink a glass of water write your thoughts and feelings down into a diary scribble on a paper scream or shout into a pillow
August 18th, 2015 6:58am
Try getting professional help or try the Butterfly Project, which you can look up on Google or something.
August 25th, 2015 2:25pm
Setting a goal is always helpful, and with goal comes reward. For example say you are clean for a week, now you go celebrate by going out with your friends or by eating some cake!
November 10th, 2015 9:44pm
Instead of cutting yourself take a marker or a sharpie and draw a line. each line represent how much stronger you are getting!
February 16th, 2016 2:33am
A way that I stopped cutting was when I would feel the urge I would squeeze an ice cube. It helped me a lot, but everyone is different.
March 20th, 2017 10:30pm
Try to surround yourself with people who love you and will support you on your journey. Remember that relapse doesn't erase your success. Try to gather coping mechanisms and figure out which ones work with you. Remember that you can always talk to a listener if need be. It's going to be a long and tough path, but you can definitely make progress. Good luck!
May 22nd, 2017 3:25am
Squeeze an ice cube in your fist and doodle wherever you want to cut, make sure to use non-toxic markers though.
November 20th, 2017 2:18pm
Find something else to keep you busy, like punching your pillow, listening to music, or take a walk.
April 24th, 2018 12:09pm
I personally do it, and the best way I stopped cutting is when I started to draw or put ice over my wrist instead. Yes, it is still painful but I think it is much better.
January 28th, 2020 4:41pm
Find better alternatives to it. There's a lot of things you can do besides harming yourself because that is never the answer to everything. It will only make matters worse and stress you out more than you probably already are. Whatever you do do not give in. I myself have a problem with it too. I used to daily but my counselor told me to just scribble all over myself. He told me to pick up a marker or pen instead of a razor. Draw pretty designs or complete non sense draw how you feel you can draw literally anything you want or feel like. It's your body. Draw wherever you usually cut (unless you did recently and have an open wound. In that case avoid that area at all cost till it heals over. And make sure you clean it properly) Draw on your scars to cover them or if you want to make them stand out. Just please pick up a pen and not a razor.
July 28th, 2020 8:39am
Rubbing ice and/or drawing a butterfly would help, you can try them if you want, for me they worked pretty good, I really recommend them, I'd try the butterfly first but if you know it won't work go straight to the rubbing an ice cube where you use to cut idea, might be helpful, another tip I can give is to heat or make cold the marker or pen you are using to draw the butterfly, this will make you feel something, that's like the ice thing but not that strong, if it just doesn't work, the ice is your best friend
January 25th, 2021 3:05am
I have had an experience with a wonderful person who did for a while cut them self during difficult emotional times. I am sure that that the reasons for cutting will differ from person to person, so this is just one experience I am sharing about. This person has a very caring nature. When the person experienced normal but intense emotions of anger and sadness due to an extreme situation that they were put through they would cut to avoid wanting to harm others or shut down emotionally. I think that it can become easier for people to either retaliate or become calloused than to take the path of self harm. This person did not want to become retaliatory to people that the person cared very much about or to become a "hard" person, so for an emotional outlet they cut themselves. Steps that I saw help the person during the time I have known them have been number one to put distance between them self and persons that were harming them. It is possible to still show love to other people and also remove one's self from a harmful or abusive situation. The person surrounding them self with more positive and supportive friends and family enabled the person to develop a replenished sense of being cared for. Eventually they felt well enough to stop cutting. Another positive step is to take serious action to remove the temptation of cutting implements, places, or situations. Even after the person stopped cutting, they maintained this disciplined to remove temptations. Friends and family can help with this. It is also important to be self-compassionate. Knowing and keeping on hand the contact information for Crisis Intervention and Prevention hot lines can help. Reaching out for support online such as this website 7 cups is another great ideas. Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) is another tool that can be used to develop increased skills and coping mechanisms that do not involve self harm. The best advice I can give based on my friend's experience is it can take time, a large amount of self compassion, and taking any possible opportunity to move to a safer space or engaging in more positive relationships. The key is to know that your feelings are valid. Then to know that there are people who care, and you have important self worth. Every person has a basic right to be treated respectfully and not be harmed or mistreated. Moreover, if you are hurting yourself because of a desire not to hurt someone else, or staying in a situation out of love, it is possible to better care for yourself and still love others. In some cases, taking the time to restore health, happiness, and sustainability to yourself may be the most loving thing you can do for yourself and others. There is hope and you are worth it. Thank you for coming to this site and I wish anyone in this situation love, compassion and kind care. I hope what I wrote here might help someone, many blessings to you all! 7 Cups has further resources to help with self harm at this link