Why can't I find another way to deal with my problems?
Last Updated: 12/19/2016 at 3:44am
Johanna Liasides, MSc
I work with youth and young adults to help them improve depressive symptoms and self-esteem as well as effectively address family, relationship and peer conflicts.
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Sometimes, we find comfort the things we habitually do. Maybe being unable to find a way to deal with your problems is because you don't give it the chance to. If we try new things with a negative way of thinking, nothing really happens. Maybe being a little more positive can help :)
Maybe by talking about them you are able to bring them to the surface. Maybe you are scared to face them yourself. You might be scared people you know will judge you. So you find someone that wont judge you. And will listen and help.
Try finding different perspectives, talk to different people they will give you differing opinions. In the long run it will do you good. You will learn things about yourself, listen to those people. Even if you don't take their advice just acknowledge what they are saying. It will help you tremendously.
One of the main reasons that we fall into bad habits or unhealthy behaviors to deal with issues is because often times those habits or behaviors provide immediate release. They make you feel better the moment you do them. You also are so used to doing them that you don't feel like looking for another solution because as unhealthy as they may be, they work for you. But them working isn't the same as them being good for you, or helpful in the longrun
You probably didn't find the best way to deal with it. You have to find your own way to deal with your problems,the one that is the most comftorbale for you :)
It's hard to come up with multiple solutions to a problem. Try talking to other people and finding out what their ways of dealing with their problems are.
Because your not open to the idea of finding a new way. It's plane and simple. When you are open, you will find new ways, until then, no luck.
It is always hard to find other ways to deal with your problems but there is always a way like counselling.
maybe you just haven't found something that fits you yet! Try things like drawing, music, sports, knitting, or any other activity to help you feel more positive!
Because most people don't know how to deal with their problems and that's why they tend to turn to others because they feel that they aren't capable of handling it themselves
That's just the way of your visualising the problem. The first step to solve the problem is the way you interpret your problem.The major and concrete step that matters the most is your strategy for solving that problem. In my opinion you must first visualize the problem and then proceed further and i'm sure you'll find the best one . All the best :)
To be honest, there are some problems that online strangers, family, or friends cannot help you with. There are their for support, but they do not actually deal with your problems. You have to deal with your problems. You know yourself, better than anyone. If you can't find another way to deal with your problems that means you are lacking the motivation or you need professional help from a doctor.
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