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Why do I feel like I will fail, if I don't know what is going to happen?

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Last Updated: 09/15/2020 at 12:19pm
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Top Rated Answers
FlowerInDisguise19
May 4th, 2015 6:40pm
Because maybe you are thinking about "what will happen" and constantly thinking "what if?" you just gotta try and stay positive and paint yourself a positive picture in your mind that you will succeed! Because feeling like you will fail will only get you down and put you down, so by putting yourself down it wont help, hopefully you can try with all the positivity! :)
emmiekoala
July 7th, 2015 11:43pm
A lot of times we feel really down about ourselves or don't believe we can achieve the things we want. I think this is normal and you should not feel ashamed for thinking this way; although if you start to adopt this way of thinking as a mindset, it can negatively affect what you do. You'll start doing less because you only think that's what you can accomplish. You'll find your confidence shrink more and more. It's important to constantly remind yourself of the things you have achieved and want to do, so you know that you are capable and so that you can keep pushing yourself forward.
URNotAlone95
March 23rd, 2015 2:15pm
Self doubt and insecurities can be very hard on you. Learn to love and believe in yourself, don't put so much stress on the outcome that you deny yourself the journey.
Anonymous
April 27th, 2015 7:00pm
you can try to reward yourself when you do something healthy, but most never forget the fact that everyone is unique.
Anonymous
December 7th, 2015 2:39am
its human nature. Don't worry. If you think positive you will have positive results. I truly believe that
Anonymous
June 11th, 2015 5:27pm
It's because we always imagine the worst case scenario even before we start do it. That's what make we feel like we won't make it.
Greatlistener87
- Expert in Work Stress
November 26th, 2015 7:19am
Sometimes we as humans we are afraid of failure and getting hurt that we build a wall around us by making sure we know whats going to happen before it does.And if we are unsure we tend to hold ourselves back. The good thing is you will remain safe and in the same position all the time and the bad thing is you will miss opportunities and will not move forward in life.
Anonymous
June 13th, 2016 10:37pm
Because the not knowing is causing you to overthink and make you beleive you are not good enough at what you are trying to do.
LittlePaperCranes
November 7th, 2017 8:30am
Everything happens for a reason, it's okay to take a step back and relax. No one is forced to take something when they're not comfortable doing it.
Anaiviv01
February 3rd, 2020 10:30am
Sometimes our mind plays tricks on us. For some reasons it's easier for our cognition to fail after we predicted we'd failed rather than to be optimistic about an outcome just to be let down later. Fear to fail can get in the way and affect what we think or what we can accomplish on a daily basis. Fear to fail is also strongely linked to perfectionism, which could lead to a general anxiety to lose one's control over situations. A good way to think of fail is that usually we can try and try again, having a broader spectrum of data to analyze to perform better in a future.
AmarahSofia
September 15th, 2020 12:19pm
People sometimes feel overwhelm by things. They tend to overthink even if it is not yet happening. Try to be calm and focus, do all the preparations you needed before doing something. As long as you know, you give your 100% best of your best and you are well preapared there is no such thing to be worried of. I guess, its normal for people to worry for the results of something butn like I said. Make sure to prepare, do all things that you can do to study and plan what you are going to do, be patient, be consistent. And if you think you are ready and well prepared it is time for you to do what tou have to do. What matters the most is the preaparations you did before it. Everything will be fine.