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Why can't I be like all the other girls my age?

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Last Updated: 02/04/2020 at 3:18pm
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November 3rd, 2015 10:22pm
The desire to belong is very innate in humans, we pretty much have to respect it and deal with it. however, we can't let it control our lives or makes us feel like we are less than someone else. Why do you feel like you are not like the other girls your age? What are some aspects that you would want to change? Would they make you a better person, will they help you define who you are? these are some questions you need to ask yourself. Sometimes it's ok to want to be more like others, but sometimes it's not.
May 3rd, 2015 5:35am
Why would you want to be like the other girl's your age? You were born to be who you are. I don't feel there is anything special or attractive in being just like everyone else. Specially since the majority of people don't seem to understand the important things in life. Best to be yourself, your probably ahead of the bunch.
February 22nd, 2015 6:53pm
Why do you need to be like other girls your age in order to be happy? We were all born different for a reason. Doing what you love and loving what you do will cause you internal happiness and that's what matters. Happy girls are the prettiest, as Audrey Hepburn would say.
April 4th, 2015 1:29am
Well, there may be many factors that prevents you from being like all othere girls. Among that a major factor may be that you have a low self esteem and you feel that you are going to be bullied or laughed at if you do certain things like other girls do. It is going to be alright if you're able to remove this feeling from your mind. You should be least bothered about what others are going to think about you. Live the way you like to.
August 3rd, 2015 8:48am
Why would you want to be like all the other girls your age? What does that even mean? To me it is important to be your own unique individual. Everyone develops differently and everyone comes from a different background. No one should be a carbon copy of another person, that would make the world a boring place.
February 22nd, 2015 8:12pm
everyone is different and those girls are probably thinking the same thing. We are are biggest hater when we should be our biggest fan.
November 7th, 2017 12:35am
The question shouldn't be, why can't you be like them, but why you would want to be like them. In the world, we live in today people of younger ages are not so innocent and there are a lot of bad things that we all do. Being yourself is the only way that you will end up being happy in a world of people that are not.
February 19th, 2018 10:24pm
Because you are you. Unique, wonderful, and lovable. Always remember that being different does not mean it is a bad thing.
April 22nd, 2015 7:40pm
Because you are you, dont try to be someone else. You were born to stand out, so shine bright! Never ever settle to be less than what you truly are!
June 5th, 2015 4:48pm
Because you are different and unique. All the girl try to act like one type but if you are different, you stand out in a good way. Never try to act like others.
June 25th, 2018 11:33pm
Not everyone is the same and when you are different its a great thing! You are one in a million and thats perfectly fine!
April 10th, 2015 5:32pm
You don't have to be, being different is NOT a bad thing but a good one. You are you and thats all you need to be
June 17th, 2015 5:09pm
Because they are not you...tou are unique to you and anybody on this planet...the way you are is what makes you unique dont be afraid if you feel you are wierd cause you ars not the only one...everyone is weird but all of them hide so its okay...
September 8th, 2015 10:32pm
You don't have to be! In fact you should appreciate your differences. It can be hard if other traits are always praised, but if you change what you value you value yourself.
November 3rd, 2015 7:48pm
You can b anything you want... except the looks... they might b more beautiful but it's your inner soul which matter most...
November 9th, 2015 7:46pm
you want to be just like the other girls at your age you want to set yourself free of everything you just want to live your life
December 21st, 2015 11:56am
You are unique one of a kind special edition wonderful person. Why try to be like someone else. Search as far and wide as you like you will never find another you.
January 11th, 2016 10:27am
Because everyone is unique in their own way. No one can be like anyone else. We are all made to be someone else. someone new so just be yourself :)
February 15th, 2016 10:15am
Whether you're acting older, or younger, both are good. If you're mature and looking to act your age, try pick up interests someone around your age would like. Try surround yourself with the people you want to be like. Eventually you'll adapt. You'll be surprised on what you pick up in a matter of days
March 7th, 2016 6:28am
You will never be the best copycat in the world, but you will be the best version of YOU. You don't have to be like them, in fact, you should try and not be like them. What makes you think that you have to be like them? Who made you believe that? You have to be the lion among the sheep. Good luck. You are beautiful the way you are.
May 17th, 2016 2:38pm
Everyone is different, and that's totally right! If everyone was the same, it would be pretty boring. So be proud of who you are and love yourself!
June 14th, 2016 12:22pm
You can't try and be like anybody else. If you try to be like anybody else you're just a knock-off of orignal art. Be yourself, if girls your age don't like you. When in doubt always say " So what?"
July 18th, 2016 2:33pm
Because im unique and i have my own style perspective and my own will. I just wanna me my self and no one could be a perfect model for who i really am for i am a limited edition person
July 18th, 2016 4:59pm
You are your own person, you can't compare yourself with others because you've got different backgrounds, personalities, friends etc. Everyone is fighting their own battle, people have similar battles but no two battles are absolutely the same.
September 12th, 2016 2:37pm
Why be like everyone else? Be yourself. In the long run you will be happier with yourself because you don't have to put on an act. If you have to lie to keep people around, they probably aren't worth your time.
June 6th, 2017 10:03pm
Our modern society has, for years now, been shaping the 'acceptable' behaviours or peer groups. These often form stereotypes and many are ridiculed for not falling into the same category as the majority. Embrace it. Not all of us have to be the same; otherwise where would we get the Stephen Hawkins and the Viola Davis' of our generation. Find your purpose and let no one else tell you you're wrong for not being like everyone else. You don't need to be.
June 26th, 2017 9:29pm
You are you. You are unique. You are a rare specimen. You aren't a carbon-copy. You are amazing just the way you are.
November 13th, 2017 8:18am
As a guy I also experienced this feeling. However, over time I started to appreciate the differences between me and others and slowly you will realize that everyone is very different from each other even if it seems like people “fit in” more.
February 4th, 2020 3:18pm
Every girl thinks she's somewhat different from every other girl. This thought alone can be soothing enough to change perspective. There are people struggling to fit in: some of them do it successfully, some of them try hard but end up quite lonely. The idea of teenage happiness is to have a nice group of friends and be popular, but the main value everyone looks for is to be accepted and welcomed. If you feel different, well, that means you have a personality. Maybe you're even more caring and more independent than the other girls. Cultivate your differences and be happy!