Why can't I deal with everyday situations calmly?
Last Updated: 09/01/2020 at 11:25am
Lisa Meighan, BSc Psychology (Honours)
Hello, I am Lisa and I work in a person-centred approach mixed with cognitive behavioural therapy. I believe we all have the potential to be the best we can be.
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Because sometimes emotions get piled up without you noticing it. I always compare it to a bucket: you don't notice the individual drops that gradually fill the bucket, only when it's about to overflow / has overflown. When that happens, each new drop that would usually just cause a ripple on the surface now spills water. So it's not that you're a weak person who cannot deal with an "everyday situation", it's rather a matter of the everyday situations being just one drop too much in a far too full bucket.
It may be anxiety. A lot of people tend to overthink things that are most likely not going to happen. Try taking deep breathes; in through your nose and out your mouth when going about your day.
Anxiety is a normal thing to deal with, but being constantly overwhelmed could be a sign you're spreading yourself too thin. It's good to have a support system to lean on to when you feel like you have little control.
If you're having trouble managing your emotions, such that it is noticeably and severely impacting your life, you should consider speaking with a psychiatrist regarding your symptoms. For some people, this is simply how you were born, but you can learn to control your emotions better with time, practice, and maybe even a little professional help too. Don't be afraid to reach out for help if you need it.
Some situations are a lot more difficult than they seem and some days are better than others. The thing is to just realize that you are trying your best. Take deep breathes and don't push yourself too hard.
Maybe you're pushing yourself too hard or expecting too much from yourself. You don't always need to be calm, but you should give yourself some space to recharge.
Deal with everyday situations is really tough. Sometimes we may fail or loose our calmness. But the key point is try hard and adapt.
Sometimes we can get caught up in our emotions and become reactive to a situation. Next time a situation arises, take a step back, breathe deeply, and really think about the next step to take before acting on your impulses.
You cant deal with everyday situations calmly. You should seek advice from peers or learning lessons from daily occurence to cope the situations in future
Take a deep but think about what's going on and what could you do to change the situation and if there's nothing that you can do leave it up to the universe
Sometimes certain situations come all at once and in your face or certain persons are uncooperative with me that day, that I just lose my calm and put on my animalistic mode. It's a human trait. A part of me, but I certainly recommend against it.
You may have anxiety. Anxiety can be in many different forms such as social anxiety around people or work anxiety around school work or career work
Depends on what you feel but mostly breathing calmly few times can make you deal with everydays situation surprisingly better.
You may need to take a step back from time to time and figure out what about the situation is bothering you. Try to think about what’s going on before reacting. If it doesn’t seem to help there are other causes of frustration such as lack of sleep or incorrect eating patterns (fatigue) if so you can look up ways to get back into healthy eating habits and sleep patterns and if that doesn’t work you should consult an expert in mental health care and possibly one in physical health care as well.
It can be because you are too stressed. You maybe need some relaxation from all the stresses you have got. Maybe stresses pile up in yourself slowly that you don't even notice them and so, you don't even notice that something is causing you nervousness and it can be why you can't deal with everyday situations calmly. You can maybe consider some relaxation exercises and self care. If you notice, that a self care activity causes you more stress than soothing and it isn't absolutelly needed and can be substituted with something else, let's substitute it with something else. For example, if you travelled and came home more stressed than you went to travelling, it can mean that travelling isn't soothing and relaxing to you but source of stress. Try to find something what is source of relaxation for you, not source of stress and try to do it as often as you can. If something what you need to do is source of stress for you (sleeping for example) try to find out what is stressing you (maybe bedroom is too hot?) and work on that it is as calming as possible to you.
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