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How can I be friends with my ex?

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Last Updated: 12/08/2020 at 6:53pm
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Anonymous
November 8th, 2014 12:54am
You give yourself time to get over the break up and then you hang out with them casually. You can be great friends because of the past romantic relationship but you can just be casual friends.
RYBH
October 26th, 2014 10:42pm
Having a good friendship with you ex after a break up is what most of us would like. It doesn't always end up that way though. I recommend asking your ex if they would like to be friends or not.
Rivielle
November 8th, 2014 4:19am
Of course. I know a lot who are friends with their ex because this just show a great relationship between you two and that you have already moved on or you still want to be together. But yeah, being friends with your ex is perfectly normal
Anonymous
November 2nd, 2014 6:16am
It depends how you broke up. If it was saddening or even depressing then it may be hard to befriend him/her.
Brittneym101
November 10th, 2014 4:08am
Treat him like any one of your other friends. In a way treat him like a boyfriend or girlfriend just without the benefits.
Anonymous
November 10th, 2014 10:05pm
The first step in forming a good relationship with your ex is to make sure you know precisely what the boundaries are. Secondly, your ex also needs to know what boundaries you have set and expect. Lastly, your ex should do the same with and for you.
Sputnik
November 12th, 2014 6:42pm
You can be friends with your ex. But only when you and him/her had moved on to another relationship. And your partners no about your past relationship you both had between yourselves.
Uniqueg
October 23rd, 2014 8:57pm
It depends on if you guys still have feelings for each other, that might make things difficult. But if you guys really want to be friends it's going to take time!
OliviaPope
September 28th, 2014 12:55pm
It's hard in the beginning, but I think space at first, then slowly reconnecting as friends is the best way to go about it, as it's not easy to make the transition from lovers to friends.
Behappylovie101
November 14th, 2014 1:17am
Ask him/her to talk in private and tell him how you feel. Maybe they're feeling the same way with you :)
Anonymous
November 19th, 2014 1:28am
You can try to start talking to them more often and not mention the past. Have a good outlook on it.