How do i start talking to a guy I like?

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Anonymous
January 21st, 2016 2:02am
Just one day go up to him and start talking. Its never as bad as people think. Just start off as saying hi and continue from there
Anonymous
January 17th, 2016 8:59am
Take deep breaths and just be yourself. Try to relax and think positive thoughts. Remember he is a person just like you.
Anonymous
January 17th, 2016 6:44pm
Just go up to him and say hi. I know this could be hard , but it works. To continue the conversation you could talk about things you have in common.
ADVANCEDsearch
January 29th, 2016 2:30pm
hah easy! you start off with a joke. every one loves a joker. :D then you can complement him, from the point you should find urself into some sort of conversation keep the conversdation going bybeing intrested, smile and laugh :d give great eye contact
Anonymous
February 6th, 2016 3:34am
Just be you. Talk to him like you would a friend. Then when you feel the time is right tell him how you feel
Anonymous
February 28th, 2016 1:32pm
Honest communication is important. We fear talking to people we admire because we fear rejection in some form. We tend to change who we are to conform to who we think they will like. We create pretense because we are afraid that we cannot be ourselves and tolerated simultaneously, but those don't like who we are, aren't worth being in our lives anyway. Same with the guy. Go up to him, and ask him out. Be honest, be fearless. Then see how things go along without expectations.
alxmia
March 6th, 2016 2:47pm
Small talk! Be chilled, talk to him like he is a friend, you want to get to know him but do not interrogate him. Also you will be able to tell if hes interested back if he carries on conversation or makes an effort.
glisteningLynx61
March 9th, 2016 4:47am
Just feel confident enough in yourself ! I'm full of flaws and so are others but flaws aren't bad! They are what make us who we are . Even if it means simple things ! Embrace them and embrace yourself! Confidence is radiant and it shows to other people naturally even if you don't notice it . Have confident body language as well , take it easy though . Start simple !
sparkz1997
July 19th, 2016 2:59pm
I am a male, yes. I do also fall in love and often ask how to start talking to that cute girl. First things first... We don't bite! I mean, I know we all have that false bravado but the easiest way to start talking is find something you have in common (in my experience) and find a moment where you can strike up conversation. Believe me, its the first opening sentence thats the hardest, and it will set up the rest of the conversation!
Anonymous
January 13th, 2016 11:03pm
Well just start out by introducing yourself and letting him get to know you and see where everything goes after that.
AnnaEMGee
January 14th, 2016 12:57am
Start by saying 'Hi!' Be happy, be yourself! Try a couple none offensive jokes and make him laugh, and ask a few questions and just get to know him before you start flirting!
Weallarebeautiful
January 16th, 2016 1:42am
Try to start a conversation basically a getting to know him conversation. Try to have interest in what he has in so he might end up talking to you.
Anonymous
January 16th, 2016 11:03am
Try to avoid being too pushy. Start with greeting him when you see him. Then you could stop and have a little talk with him like you're acquainted, and later you'll find out if you share interests.
SkyeLilyxox
January 16th, 2016 7:16pm
Just introduce yourself & let him get to know you. Find out if you have anything in common. You'll soon find out if he feels the same. Good luck.
ughhitshaley
January 21st, 2016 8:07am
You get to know the guy by like asking him queastions about the things he likes and what he likes to do and get to know him so that you know how he acts towards sertain situations
tranquilSunshine35
January 22nd, 2016 1:42pm
Try walking up and introducing your self. Ask about his interest. See if you have anything in common..
GentleShadows
January 22nd, 2016 4:46pm
Well... What do they enjoy? If they like something you like, try to strike up a conversation about it! If you know nothing about the things they like, but something they enjoy sounds interesting to you, express interest in it, maybe have them explain it and talk about it.
LubaKosmonaut
January 22nd, 2016 9:55pm
Notice the things about him you like, and see if he likes something you like, maybe a game or a TV show or a band? If you feel you can, approach him and just say hi, maybe add "Hey I noticed you like (insert thing you both like here), what do you think about (insert thought about what you both like here)." If what he likes is not easy enough to notice, don't put too much effort into finding out for yourself--find a good conversation starter and say hi anyway! If it doesn't work out, that's okay.
Anonymous
January 23rd, 2016 10:23am
They are different types of "like" Some are just admiration like you like that person because of his ability or maybe because of his personality then just tell him but if it is love, try to know that person very well and you might confess but you need to consider different circumstances. Just be yourself, if you think this is going to be the best thing to do then go but if there is hesitation try to not think about it. Divert yourself to other things.
crownrosemary
January 24th, 2016 3:00am
If you want to get the guy to notice you then just be yourself and get to know him then get his # or just something to talk to him after school
versatileFreedom27
January 24th, 2016 2:28pm
You can reach him on internet if you are too afraid to talk to him. But if you are not, you can reach him personally, find some commons stuff and base a conversation on them.
LoveIsOurWeapon
January 27th, 2016 4:18pm
You can go up to him and maybe flirt with him, but don't over do it. Possibly ask him for his number.(:
RayeSafeSpace
January 27th, 2016 7:40pm
Talk to him. It's really that simple :) At first you will feel like it's the most difficult thing in the world to do but (some) people are actually really nice when you just go to then and say "Hi". Start simple and try to get to know them but count to three, realise there is nothing to lose in the situation, and just say "Hey" :)
Aflower
January 27th, 2016 9:58pm
It is much easier said than done. But at first try to get his attention with a little smile, and if you see that he reacts and seems interested, than you can try to have a conversation with him. Just be creative and be yourself, that's what matters.
Anonymous
January 29th, 2016 12:25am
Start up a regular conversation. And see where it goes, starting the conversation with a simple hello how was your day ? Ask simple questions, keep the conversation simple and interesting
Anonymous
January 30th, 2016 1:24pm
Just go up to him and start a conversation. Remember to ALWAYS be yourself because you want him to like you for who you are.
Anonymous
February 3rd, 2016 2:37am
It's usually best to just introduce yourself. Showing your acctual self and acting nice towards the person usually does the trick.
sereneCreature61
February 3rd, 2016 8:21pm
I find that we spend too much time in on our head and hoping that there is something we can do or say that will control the outcome of a situation. Unfortunately the only thing you can control is yourself, and there are millions of variables that you are unaware of that can affect his behavior. So, just quit thinking about, it's useless, and say hi :) What happens from there is out of your control, and unfortunately, no amount of worrying, going through hypothetical scenarios will help.
Anonymous
February 4th, 2016 3:40am
Because he still feels something for you even tho you don't know it he might just feel something for you
AliciaJ
February 4th, 2016 4:36am
Approach him by all means, and start talking! You'll probably be super nervous, but as long as he doesn't notice, you're all good. It's unlikely that he would despise you (unless you appear really mean of course) on the first encounter, so don't worry too much about it. Take deep breaths and go up to strike a casual conversation with him. Don't tell him how much you like him in the first conversation -- he'll think it's creepy! If you don't want to make it too awkward, you can try to talk to him in group activities, sit down with him at lunch or even chat for 2 minutes after class. You've got nothing to lose after all. Good luck!