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How do i start talking to a guy I like?

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Last Updated: 08/28/2018 at 2:17pm
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Anonymous
January 21st, 2016 2:02am
Just one day go up to him and start talking. Its never as bad as people think. Just start off as saying hi and continue from there
Anonymous
February 28th, 2016 1:32pm
Honest communication is important. We fear talking to people we admire because we fear rejection in some form. We tend to change who we are to conform to who we think they will like. We create pretense because we are afraid that we cannot be ourselves and tolerated simultaneously, but those don't like who we are, aren't worth being in our lives anyway. Same with the guy. Go up to him, and ask him out. Be honest, be fearless. Then see how things go along without expectations.
Anonymous
February 6th, 2016 3:34am
Just be you. Talk to him like you would a friend. Then when you feel the time is right tell him how you feel
ADVANCEDsearch
January 29th, 2016 2:30pm
hah easy! you start off with a joke. every one loves a joker. :D then you can complement him, from the point you should find urself into some sort of conversation keep the conversdation going bybeing intrested, smile and laugh :d give great eye contact
MochiKin
February 17th, 2016 10:06pm
It can get difficult to approach someone out of the blue, and it might be too ridiculous to force a conversation. In my experience, I always smile stupidly in front of a guy I like. In time I learned that it's not such a bad thing! I can smile at him and try to ask simple questions like, "How are you doing today." Sometimes, dropping a quick compliment also breaks the ice, "You look awesome today." Sometimes, it also helps to be a little perceptive (and if you like the guy, chances are you're *slightly* stalking him, too!). "The weather has been off lately... You sound a little sick today. Are you alright?" Easy questions usually do the trick.
glisteningLynx61
March 9th, 2016 4:47am
Just feel confident enough in yourself ! I'm full of flaws and so are others but flaws aren't bad! They are what make us who we are . Even if it means simple things ! Embrace them and embrace yourself! Confidence is radiant and it shows to other people naturally even if you don't notice it . Have confident body language as well , take it easy though . Start simple !
alxmia
March 6th, 2016 2:47pm
Small talk! Be chilled, talk to him like he is a friend, you want to get to know him but do not interrogate him. Also you will be able to tell if hes interested back if he carries on conversation or makes an effort.
Anonymous
January 17th, 2016 8:59am
Take deep breaths and just be yourself. Try to relax and think positive thoughts. Remember he is a person just like you.
sparkz1997
July 19th, 2016 2:59pm
I am a male, yes. I do also fall in love and often ask how to start talking to that cute girl. First things first... We don't bite! I mean, I know we all have that false bravado but the easiest way to start talking is find something you have in common (in my experience) and find a moment where you can strike up conversation. Believe me, its the first opening sentence thats the hardest, and it will set up the rest of the conversation!
Anonymous
January 17th, 2016 6:44pm
Just go up to him and say hi. I know this could be hard , but it works. To continue the conversation you could talk about things you have in common.
Anonymous
March 10th, 2016 12:11am
Tackle him down; bait him with some french fries... Actually I have aksed the guy I liked - about his T-shirt (with a band logo on it). My advise: Ask about anything, make them actually "see" you.
erenflowers
April 16th, 2016 4:06am
As far as I know, the best way is humor. Depending on the known personality traits, of course. Most people enjoy a good laugh, though, and if you're the one making the first efforts, it'll only be a matter of time before reciprocation. Then it's all about friendship. But remember to be real; you want him to like you for you, not for a fake persona you've cast.
Viana
April 10th, 2016 12:19pm
The best place to introduce yourself is a neutral setting like your workplace. The environment wouldn't stress you out as much. You may start with an introduction and small talk. Find some common ground. It's always good to establish a small friendly bond before letting it take a more serious route.
geeb0t
March 23rd, 2016 3:06pm
Ask him a question. What is his favourite film? favourite book? favourite TV show? Does he play sports? Is he a dog or cat person? Just ask him an engaging question that can't have just a yes or no answer.
TheyCallMeMark
April 1st, 2016 5:23pm
Be sincere and honest about yourself. Be you is the most important thing. Talk about something that you both like..if you don't know a topic then talk about general stuff.
Profiter001
March 20th, 2016 6:11pm
Start with small talk. Like asking for a pencil at school or help on homework or accidentally dropping something by him as you walk by so it forces him to pick it up, give it to you and talk to you.
Anonymous
March 20th, 2016 2:36pm
Be cool and casual, very confident, find out the common interests, get to know each other by asking some general questions but do not have an agenda ready, let the conversation build up spontaneously. Be very confident and secure in your own skin, if you love yourself, other's will love you too. Hope for the best and be prepared for the worst always. If you think that he is not as interested in you, there is always other nice people around and may be someone secretly already likes you.. who knows? :)
Anonymous
March 18th, 2016 5:00am
The easiest way to begin talking to someone is to ask a question. It can be very easy! The thing is you want to ask a question that is related to your environment or situation. For instance if you are at school, you might ask "Are there any good teachers at this school?" or "Are there any subjects are actually fun?" or maybe super simple stuff like "Do you think there is anything good at the cafeteria today?" And assuming you are a girl, you would be surprised to know that MOST guys are very interested in having girls talk to them. You might not think so but guys are hoping that girls will talk to them first normally. You can do it, the guys are usually hoping you might chat them up.
Shelley22
March 16th, 2016 9:21am
Get friendly to him.....Talk to him....Get closer over drinks/concerts/any place of common interest. If you feel that's enough....tell him about your feelings
Anonymous
March 11th, 2016 2:09pm
Hey,i heard you like football,(that helps you show interest in him whilst giving you conversation possibilities
Anonymous
March 11th, 2016 7:54am
Guys always like a girl who makes them feel good about themselves. If you can make a guy feel appreciated when he’s with you, you’ll find it a lot easier to make him like you and want to spend time with you. If you know this guy well already, that’s a great start. For a guy to like you, you need to be the kind of girl he wants as a girlfriend. At times, both of you may just have different compatibilities. But no matter what the odds are, it’s always better to have tried and failed than never having tried at all.
Anonymous
March 4th, 2016 11:53pm
Approach him, and state simply that you've liked him or think he's attractive/funny, etc. it could be a little scary, but you'll feel much better after admitting your feelings!
Milkybambi
March 9th, 2016 6:29pm
It's easy! Just say hey how is your day going? Always be yourself and if that guy doesn't like you, someone else will! Never feel ashamed to put yourself out there. You got this!
Anonymous
March 5th, 2016 4:35am
All you need to do is just send him a friend request in any social media and greet him with a great hello! Start with a normal conversation and see where it takes you to. All the best!
Anonymous
March 6th, 2016 11:28pm
Well, if you want some conversation starters, I'm a big fan of "what's your favorite colour?" Or something similar. If you need to get the courage to do so, pep talks are awesome for that. Looking at yourself in a mirror while doing so also helps. Good luck!
Anonymous
March 6th, 2016 2:18pm
Just a simple hello will do the trick. If you like, get to know the person more, but take it slow. Don't want to rush things.
GentleNinja
March 6th, 2016 12:21pm
Go up to him and say "Hi, my name is _ and you are?". If you already know the guy then try starting a conversation like "Hey, how's it going?". It is best to talk about him and limit talking about yourself. This will take some pressure off yourself to come up with conversation topics. It will also make him more interested in talking to you. Most guys like to talk about themselves. Of course you need to talk about yourself too but put yourself on a back burner. Talk about yourself when you feel it is the right time to mention a small comment about the related topic or if he asks you a question in return. Always show genuine interest in what he has to say and his interests. Be honest and don't pretend to be someone that you are not because that will come back to haunt you if you do. Drop him hints that you want to talk to him more and hang out. You can also just ask him if he wants to hang out some time. It really isn't as scary as our brains tend to make us think it is going to be. The biggest tip I have to offer is to ask him follow up questions to keep the conversation going. For example... Girl: Hey, how's it going? Guy: I'm alright. Girl: Just alright? What makes you just alright? Guy: Well I got a B on my test. So I passed but I didn't get as good of a score as I hoped I would get. Girl: That is still good! Don't let it get you down. Grades must be really important to you, huh? Guy: Yes, I want to be a doctor so I need to get good grades. Girl: That is interesting. I'm sure you'll make a great doctor. I wouldn't make a very good one. Guy: Why? Girl: I'm not good at getting good grades. I don't have a study partner to keep me accountable on my studying. Guy: I could help you out if you want. Girl: That would be great! Here is my phone number _ so we can stay in contact.
Anonymous
March 5th, 2016 5:52pm
Simply go up to him and say hi and strike up a conversation and try to find some interests in common
Anonymous
March 5th, 2016 10:56am
Look at him or smile at him. Go towards him, say hi and talk with him about mainstream things.. if the chemistry is okay, you can ask him if he's still in school or what he is doing in his freetime. Try to start a personal conversation.
BubblyTime13
March 5th, 2016 5:46am
Just have confidence. Everyone faces the same fear at one point in their life. Remember that you only can live once and you might as well make the most of it.