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Why am I in this relationship if I feel alone?

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Last Updated: 01/12/2016 at 5:49am
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January 17th, 2015 12:54pm
Relationships are not a cure for loneliness. This is one of the big deceptions. Expect to feel lonely from time to time... Even when you are surrounded by others.... Even when you are in a relationship... Even when you love others and they love you. Loneliness is a natural and normal part of the human experience. It may not always feel like it, but loneliness is a great teacher. Spending some introspective time with yourself and your thoughts can give you great insights about life and who you really are. Loneliness reminds of what we truly desire, and creates longings that drive us out of our comfort zone into new experiences. The answer is not always to run and hide from loneliness or to rush to fill it with brain-numbing activities and distractions or a new relationship. Face your feelings of loneliness. Ask 'what is my loneliness trying to teach me?' Ask 'what do I bring to this relationship'? and 'What does this relationship bring to me?'. If the bad outweighs the good, it may be time to cut ties and set him or her loose, but know that no relationship will ever take away your loneliness entirely. No single person will ever completely meet all your needs. But, if you find a good person, you can support each other, learn from each other, and enjoy the ride together. Good luck :)
June 7th, 2015 10:44am
The reason is typically that you want to feel like your not alone, so you deparately hold on to the relationship.
January 12th, 2016 5:49am
Communication is a key component in any relationship. What do you think would happen if you let your partner know that you all feeling down? Often times we adopt this "well, they should know by now" attitude with our partner. They know you all too well, and they should know when something is wrong and what they should do to help. Well this may be true, but it's important to get back to basics and say "hey, i've been feeling sad or alone lately and here's why.." Can you identify what it is that makes you feel this way? How about what they, or you, can do to solve it? They can meet you in the middle and figure out a solution. Hey, that's what relationships are for. hugs xx
April 29th, 2015 7:24am
It's possible you think the relationship is the only thing you have left. Sometimes people stay in relationships that aren't good for them because they don't realise how much else they have.
May 17th, 2015 4:12pm
Because you feel dependent on the significant other. Perhaps you feel whole with this person. But if you feel alone, communication is essential.
May 22nd, 2015 7:09pm
Only you can answer that question. Do you feel dependent upon the person you're with? If so, why? Do you have a way to get out of the relationship? You have to make changes if you want things to change.
September 1st, 2015 12:36pm
I have usually seen this happen when the person in interested in something other than the person itself like not wanting to be single or other obligations outside the relationship.
November 17th, 2015 6:18am
sometimes you can feel alone even when you are around 100 people, you have to ask yourself do you love him/her? are you happy?
December 22nd, 2015 9:23pm
Because you might love the person, who knows? Maybe you should connect more with your partner. :))))