Why does breaking up hurt so much?

Because you became fond of that person. And it's ok to feel close to someone! Although breakups then are hard. Sorry you're having a bad time. You'll get through this!

Typically in longer term relationships we develop what are called "soul ties" this can be either because of the closeness we have developed throughout this relationship or due to the relationship being of a sexual nature, we have bound ourselves to that person. Imagine this if you tied a rope around your waist and the person you were dating and the two of you tried to walk in opposite directions, it wouldn't work because you are still bound to each other. In relationships we give a part of ourselves to that person whether big or small. In a breakup we have to find a way to unbind ourselves from the person.

Its not only the emotions that follow after breaking up, but the feeling of loneliness. This, ofcourse, is even worse when you are not the one that left.

Break ups hurt so much because you spent a chunk of your life where someone was your everything. Break ups suck for both parties depending on how bad the break up was and its not easy to start a life without someone who was such a large part of it.

Because you entrust everything to that one person... You feel safe and you let your guard down easily... And you lose a lot. I'm sorry for anyone that goes through a break up.

Because we give a little piece of ourselves to them. It is perfectly normal to feel hurt when you lose someone you love :)

When you have feelings for someone, losing them is like losing a part of yourself. Grieving the loss is an important part of healing before you can move on.

Breaking up hurts so much because you have made memories with a special person. You guys did a lot of things together that made you happy but now that's gone, your going to miss it. Its never going to be the same again and that's why it hurts so much and you realize that you have to move on.

Breaking up with someone hurts so much because you're used to them, sometimes you don't miss them but you miss being in that relationship and how it made you feel.

I think its because of how used to you've gotten with one another. Everything you've been through together; how you've picked up some of their habits. You confided with them for awhile so it hurts to let go

Addiction. When we fall in love, we emotionally invest in our partner. So when that person don't care about our valuable feelings it hurts. We get used to that person and at that time we think about that person only and we want him or her only. So that's why breaking up hurt so much. But we should move on and think that there's definitely someone waiting for you in future who will value your feelings.

Breakups hearts because we are moving on and leaving someone we have been with for a long time this is a big change in our life

because it feels like loosing a part of our life. We know that a person who was present in our life, will no longer be.

Breaking up hurts so much for some of us because we have open hearts in a relationship, which leaves us vulnerable. However, if we have closed hearts, then we are not able to love to the fullest. So, if you have a broken heart, at least you know that you loved to the fullest. "It's better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all."

It hurts because it's the equivalent of ripping away two hearts conjoined together in the name of love. All the laughs, tears, and love just goes away.

Because you're gonna break up with someone you have spent time and love being with. It's like a part of what you build was taken, when you broke up with someone, making all the rest fall too.

The reason why Breaking up hurts so much because we have been conditioned as children to seek out intimacy.

Because a part of you is gone. The way you use to live will never be same as it was with that person and that parts scares you. Also you want someone in life to be there for you and when they go you feel like you are going to be alone for eternity which is not true but it scares people.

Depends on the breakup, but it can be because you are not used to not having that person anymore in your life

Breaking up hurst so much because you made the person into your daily life scedual and then you have to change

breaking up can hurt so much because you may not internally be ready to lose that person. It makes you feel like everything that you have been building with this person it a waste.

Breaking up hurts a lot because you realized how much you loved that person and how much they meant to you. You felt safe, happy and secure when your with them and now it's hard to overcome that because love is a powerful thing. Everything just takes time.

Breaking up hurts so much because you remember all the good memories of you and your partner and you feel bad that you have to leave them

you never know why until it happens with you...lots of reasons but in the end it hurts...and nobody would love to talk about it and remember all the pain again

Losing someone always feels awful. Often, you are very close and actually very good friends. It is a good idea to seek help from family and friends when trying to move on after a break up.

Breaking up with another individual is devastating from the fact that you have to question your own decisions and life. It isn't so much about the other person, but the introspection that is a result. Simply, it also sucks cause being in love, is being in love Nothing more. Overcomplicating things will result in depression.

Breaking up with a loved one can be a traumatic experience. Research has shown. that even people in abusive relationships hurt the same when they break up as people in normal, healthy relationships do. The main reasons of the hurt is the attachment that we begin to have with the person. The longer the relationship, the more we grow used to the person. If you think of it, even if you bring a pet home no matter how small the animal, (cat, turtle, fish) if you stay with it long enough, you will be hurt if they go missing or die. Imagine the attachment that you have for something that doesn't even communicate to you. Now compare that to the attachment that you have with a person who you spent time with, shared so many life experiences with. It's obvious that the impact is higher and so is the amount of devastation. The best way to overcome the hurt is to acknowledge it. Do not be in denial that what you feel is stupid and that you will get over it if you avoid thinking of the person. Research has proven, that the best way to recuperate from a broken heart is to spend enough time grieving and then slowly moving on.

Because you were attracted to that certain person and they made you feel all happy and butterflies in your stomach and when you break up, all of that happiness goes and you can't imagine anyone else feeling that way because of them.

Because you were loving that person and you spent a lot of time with her.... I guess thats why......

Break ups hurt because they basically entail that your bond with someone you trusted and loved isn't going to be the same anymore. Often when we're in a relationship, the simple comfort of having someone to turn to goes a long way. A break up means that they may not be there for you in the same way anymore and it can trigger a feeling of loneliness. In such situations it is always good to reach out to someone and share your feelings so that the loneliness can be chased away, at least to some extent. It can feel tough and might be a slow process and that's normal. The important thing is to keep taking small steps to take care of yourself.