I'm being bullied at work, what should I do?

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RememberYouAreNotAlone
January 25th, 2016 4:53pm
Yes. I know it can get really hard and sometimes you think that if you don't tell anyone it will just go away or that if you tell someone they will think you're weak, but truth is that if you tell someone you are one of the strongest people I know. In my personal experience, I was bullied without telling anyone for 4 years, once i told someone she couldn't do anything to stop the bullying but she did help me get through some really hard times just by being there and listening to me and comforting me when i would break down and talking to me when i needed a friend. So yes, do tell someone you trust, not only will they make you feel less alone but they will also share some of the burden. Remember to always keep fighting.
Anonymous
March 7th, 2016 4:43am
Yes! Always! It is very important that you talk to someone about what is troubling you. This way not only are you able to get it off your chest, but you are also able to ask for advice on how to deal with it. Bullying is not something that a person should have to deal with, however unfortunately it is there. But there are also things that can be done and talking to someone is one of them.
Anonymous
April 5th, 2016 1:42am
yes love, tell a parent and friend a teacher. anyone who can help. no one deserves that not even you. tell someone and they can help you. lots of love XOXO
Anonymous
May 2nd, 2016 9:56pm
Yes! Go to your social worker at school, he can help you the most, I would also request the principal gets involved so that way it can be dealt with, i have been bullied since i was in 7th grade, and it didn't stop until i went and asked for help from teachers and staff.
Anonymous
May 15th, 2016 9:11am
Talk with someone about it and reach for help. If it's getting worse, maybe you can change your job.
RobertCol
May 15th, 2016 4:23pm
Well, try to find witnesses and tell your employer about the people who bully you. I had the same situation and it helped.
Anonymous
May 18th, 2016 3:54am
You need to confront the person and let them know how you feel then let the manager know whats going on
LovelyDreamer99
May 18th, 2016 12:59pm
You should try to communicate with the bully and if that doesn't help then you should talk to another adult
Anonymous
May 18th, 2016 2:31pm
Just ignore them if at all possible, if not, tell your boss. People are stupid and they will not stop until they have to, so give them a reason to stop :)
Nellie33
May 19th, 2016 4:03pm
Go with confidence and never let their words bother you! We all are known by our work so that's what important is 😊
maddybear01
May 19th, 2016 11:49pm
You really don't have to deal with it if you don't want to. Perhaps talk to some sort of supervisor/manager/HR. Your mental health and happiness are important in the workplace, and it's unfortunate that you're being treated in this way.
runningshoe
May 20th, 2016 3:34am
Document everything, time, date, what happened and context. Then tell someone like a superior. Make sure you follow the employee guidelines for your workplace. If you need to seek outside help
hopefulParadise62
May 20th, 2016 4:35pm
Address the person who is doing it, show them you are not afraid, and are tired of their crap. If they do not respect you and stop, then the next thing to do is tell your employer.
Link22
May 20th, 2016 9:34pm
Maybe try talking to your boss. Or someone who can fix this situation. If not. Talk to a loved one or a friend about how you feel. It is not acceptable for people to be bullying you at your job. And if all else fails. Get yourself out of the toxic environment. And when you do. Honestly explain to your boss why you decided to leave.
WestWind92
May 21st, 2016 4:41am
All bullies are the same. Be it at work, college, school or home. They are people who prey on the fears and insecurities of people around them. But deep down are themselves cowards. They never try to take on someone who they know wouldn't back down. They avoid confrontations where they aren't sure they would come out top. So my advice is not to back down. Even if you aren't naturally aggressive, you can do subtle things that might be helpful. I've seen people growing a beard to change people's perception about them. Similarly you can give out other subtle signals that you're not an easy target. Hope it makes sense. Ty.
hreedi007
May 21st, 2016 10:37am
Avoid the members that are bullying you. If that doesn't work out, simply ignore them or inform higher authority regarding the matter.
Anonymous
May 22nd, 2016 8:30am
You will be bullied more if you responded to bullied, all they want is to see you down so you have to rise up and by your progressing work they'll stop bothering you, the more you with respond to the bullying the more they will tease you
Anonymous
May 22nd, 2016 7:28pm
If it's one of your peers, bring it up with them in a professional manner. If they're a jerk about it, go to human resources and tell them about your problem.
fandomfanatic367
May 24th, 2016 2:57pm
If I was being bullied, I'd stand up for myself and then let my boss know what's going on so he can talk to the worker who's doing the bullying
StayGorgeous08
May 25th, 2016 10:50pm
Make sure to be nice, and please do not be rude back to them. If they're disrespectful, it's their problem, not yours.
Indie
May 27th, 2016 2:24am
Just remember that people who bully others are hurting themselves. Try to overcome the hurt they cause and get down to the root of the problem. Be overly kind to them, because the world needs more kind people, especially kind in the face of bullying. Pray for those who persecute you!
brightPink57
May 27th, 2016 5:22pm
Quitting is not a good answer, I would recommend telling your boss or confronting the bully as an adult.
GuardianLoveAngel
May 27th, 2016 5:49pm
Report it to a manager. Bullying isn't something that should be condoned anywhere and if it is then you should report it to the police as it is an offense, and it's an offense for a manager to not do anything about bullying/harassment.
EyeRain56
May 29th, 2016 1:45am
You might find it helpful to talk to your supervisor. If your supervisor is unhelpful, talk to Human Resources.
iamconundrum
May 29th, 2016 7:57am
Try to stay focused at your work, and make it seem as if you're not bothered so the person goes away. However if they don't you must realize this is serious offence. Tell someone you know can take action, not someone who can try to make it harder for you.
Anonymous
June 1st, 2016 11:14pm
You should talk to a person who is bullying you and ask why he is doing that. He is probably feeling bad and bullying others makes him feel better.
saddandelion22
June 2nd, 2016 3:05am
Definitely tell a co-worker, a friend or anyone about it. Bullying is serious and has to be stopped.
SimplyRose1234
June 2nd, 2016 6:13am
first, try to ignoreer it. i know its hard, but jut try it. if it doesnt work, try to ask them why they are bullying you and if that doesnt work, talk to your boss
Anonymous
June 2nd, 2016 1:01pm
Tell you boss, if you haven't told anyone. You need to tell someone, family, friends. But your boss is the only one who can do something about it
Anonymous
June 2nd, 2016 11:19pm
Bullying is never acceptable, whether it is at work, at school, or anywhere else. Period. Talk to someone about what is happening; your manager, your boss, or even corporate office. Quite often companies have an anonymous number you can call and speak to someone who is impartial to the company (meaning the number you call is an anonymous line staff by people who so not work for the company) and you can voice your concerns there. A more direct way of handling the situation is to speak directly with your manager or boss and inform them on what is happening.