Is it my fault I am being bullied?

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Last Updated: 08/14/2018 at 10:48pm
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Anonymous
March 21st, 2016 8:40pm
You are bullied because the people want to bully you to feel superior. You are not the reason why people chose to pick on you.
StayStrongNeverLoseHope
March 28th, 2016 9:10pm
No, it's never your fault if others decide to bully you. The only reason why people pick on others is because they think it looks cool and it makes them feel better, probably because they've had someone pick on them too in the past. But it's not cool and it's not fair on the person getting bullied and you don't deserve any of it, and I really do hope you manage to report it and get it dealt with so that it stops!
brightOcean69
April 25th, 2016 8:31pm
it is never your fault you are been bullied as most bullies have their own stuff and can't deal with it so they bully others
dancingLight63
June 13th, 2016 5:35pm
It's not your fault that you are bullied. I have been in the same position and it's not your fault. Usually the bully has a personal issue that they are trying to deal with and projecting them onto others.
magnanimousStrawberry75
June 20th, 2016 7:04am
No it is most certainly not your fault. People bully because they themselves have been bullied by someone and/or they feel insecure about something in their life. Nothing you do is causing you to be bullied and no-one should feel that way.
PaleRose12
July 11th, 2016 9:08pm
Nope nope nope nope nope nope nope It is never ever your fault for getting bullied you cant control what is happening to you i hope you stop getting bullied
HopieRemi
July 12th, 2016 6:27am
No. It is not your fault that you are bullied. No one deserves to be mistreated in any form or fashion. Normally the person who bullies you has an unhappy life and they take joy out of hurting you in the way that they do. Usually a bully isn't getting attention at home and so when they bully you, then enjoy the fact that you give them the attention they want. But it is not your fault.
Timmong
July 18th, 2016 11:52am
Bullying is almost never ever the fault of the person who is being bullied. No matter what a person does it still isn't a reason to bully them. This doesn't mean that the bully's are actively evil though, they might consider it to just be teasing, don't see the harm that it does or use it as a method to vent their own frustrations. This does not mean that you should just accept that you are being bullied, but it means that you should try and sit down with your bullies and talk to them about how it hurts you. Make sure to have a third party like a teacher to watch over the conversation and make sure it goes well if you feel uncomfortable with it being one on one.
Anonymous
August 9th, 2016 9:38am
Not at all. It's the fault of the people who bully you. They like the superiority they get by making you feel small to them. It's absolutely not your fault.
Angelsupporter9
October 10th, 2016 2:45pm
No it isn't. It's not your fault. Bullies bully people because they themselves have been bullied and they want others to feel how they've felt or they're too insecure of something you're self concious about or they're jealous of something you have or something you are and they're not and they don't have it. Bullies usually pick random people to pick on, so do not blame yourself for getting bullied
LoveAndPeaceOnThePlanetEarth
October 17th, 2016 3:32am
It's never your fault if you're being bullied, even if you're being told that. It's always the bullier, or the bulliers parents or someone else who's causing the bullying to happen's fault
cherishedJet13
April 18th, 2017 11:17am
No it is never your fault for being bullied. You are the victim and you should never be blamed because you didn't ask to be bullied, people are just insecure and jealous which is why bullies tend to bully others. But never ever think it is your fault.
Anonymous
June 6th, 2017 10:22pm
It is never your fault. This does not mean "always play victim" by any means. If someone is picking on you for something you have no control over or cannot change, then it is just the bully being a mean person. But it is never the victims fault.
hopefulWriting46
June 27th, 2017 8:03am
Never. People just are afraid so the tend to give there anger to people. Don't ever think your the problem.
Anonymous
July 9th, 2018 4:38pm
It is the person who started it and it is not your fault if you have done nothing wrong and you should tell your family to help.
Bookloverxoxo
August 14th, 2018 10:48pm
It is never the victims fault that something happened to them. People can be cruel and they want to put you down in order to boost themselves up. Blaming yourself will only lower your own confidence, which is exactly what the bully wants to happen. Believe in yourself and your worth, and don't ever let anyone bring you down