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Is it my fault I am being bullied?

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Last Updated: 06/08/2021 at 9:21pm
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February 8th, 2016 3:40am
no it is not your fault your being bullied at all you havent done any wrong in any way or caused it to happen
March 21st, 2016 8:40pm
You are bullied because the people want to bully you to feel superior. You are not the reason why people chose to pick on you.
March 28th, 2016 9:10pm
No, it's never your fault if others decide to bully you. The only reason why people pick on others is because they think it looks cool and it makes them feel better, probably because they've had someone pick on them too in the past. But it's not cool and it's not fair on the person getting bullied and you don't deserve any of it, and I really do hope you manage to report it and get it dealt with so that it stops!
April 25th, 2016 8:31pm
it is never your fault you are been bullied as most bullies have their own stuff and can't deal with it so they bully others
June 13th, 2016 5:35pm
It's not your fault that you are bullied. I have been in the same position and it's not your fault. Usually the bully has a personal issue that they are trying to deal with and projecting them onto others.
June 20th, 2016 7:04am
No it is most certainly not your fault. People bully because they themselves have been bullied by someone and/or they feel insecure about something in their life. Nothing you do is causing you to be bullied and no-one should feel that way.
July 11th, 2016 9:08pm
Nope nope nope nope nope nope nope It is never ever your fault for getting bullied you cant control what is happening to you i hope you stop getting bullied
July 12th, 2016 6:27am
No. It is not your fault that you are bullied. No one deserves to be mistreated in any form or fashion. Normally the person who bullies you has an unhappy life and they take joy out of hurting you in the way that they do. Usually a bully isn't getting attention at home and so when they bully you, then enjoy the fact that you give them the attention they want. But it is not your fault.
July 18th, 2016 11:52am
Bullying is almost never ever the fault of the person who is being bullied. No matter what a person does it still isn't a reason to bully them. This doesn't mean that the bully's are actively evil though, they might consider it to just be teasing, don't see the harm that it does or use it as a method to vent their own frustrations. This does not mean that you should just accept that you are being bullied, but it means that you should try and sit down with your bullies and talk to them about how it hurts you. Make sure to have a third party like a teacher to watch over the conversation and make sure it goes well if you feel uncomfortable with it being one on one.
August 9th, 2016 9:38am
Not at all. It's the fault of the people who bully you. They like the superiority they get by making you feel small to them. It's absolutely not your fault.
October 10th, 2016 2:45pm
No it isn't. It's not your fault. Bullies bully people because they themselves have been bullied and they want others to feel how they've felt or they're too insecure of something you're self concious about or they're jealous of something you have or something you are and they're not and they don't have it. Bullies usually pick random people to pick on, so do not blame yourself for getting bullied
October 17th, 2016 3:32am
It's never your fault if you're being bullied, even if you're being told that. It's always the bullier, or the bulliers parents or someone else who's causing the bullying to happen's fault
April 18th, 2017 11:17am
No it is never your fault for being bullied. You are the victim and you should never be blamed because you didn't ask to be bullied, people are just insecure and jealous which is why bullies tend to bully others. But never ever think it is your fault.
June 6th, 2017 10:22pm
It is never your fault. This does not mean "always play victim" by any means. If someone is picking on you for something you have no control over or cannot change, then it is just the bully being a mean person. But it is never the victims fault.
June 27th, 2017 8:03am
Never. People just are afraid so the tend to give there anger to people. Don't ever think your the problem.
July 9th, 2018 4:38pm
It is the person who started it and it is not your fault if you have done nothing wrong and you should tell your family to help.
August 14th, 2018 10:48pm
It is never the victims fault that something happened to them. People can be cruel and they want to put you down in order to boost themselves up. Blaming yourself will only lower your own confidence, which is exactly what the bully wants to happen. Believe in yourself and your worth, and don't ever let anyone bring you down
July 2nd, 2020 9:53pm
No it is not your fault. Bullies like to make people,feel like it is your fault,but it is there fault. So please do not feel like it is your fault. If you have been bullied, and need support please reach out to a listener here at 7cups. They can offer support and suggestions on how not,to feel that way. If you are being bullied by someone it is ok to tell someone, you trust, like a friend or a teacher or your Pastor. I am disabled and I have been bullied. It was not a fun thing to go through. It made me stronger and wiser. It is never your fault your the victim.
June 8th, 2021 9:21pm
Nothing is ever just one persons fault. People bully to satisfy themselves. The only way it could be your fault is if you are bullying them back. If you are a bully getting bullied then that is why which that technically would be your fault. But no, anyone who is getting bullied, it’s not their fault. The bully is obviously just really bored or has their own insecurities and them picking on you for what they have makes them happy. How does that make them happy? Well no one picked on them for that insecurity so they feel that they are better in some way which really makes no sense. Be smart, don’t be a bully.