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Is it normal for me to be silent when I get verbally abused?

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Last Updated: 04/27/2020 at 8:35am
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Dannus
April 25th, 2015 7:33pm
Often many will retaliate, however by being silent is a clever technique. This gives the verbal abuser no ammo to use, and the will often get bored. They will want a reaction, and by not giving this to them will help them to stop.
joyfulVision77
December 1st, 2015 9:11am
yes it is normal but it doesnt mean that it is right no body should have to go through the pain of feeling like they cant speak up about the abuse
HopieRemi
July 18th, 2016 9:10am
Yes. It is normal to be silent when you are getting verbally abused. Sometimes people are abused in any way don't say anything because they are afraid of what might happen if they were to speak up so they don't say anything.
Br33zyS3tz
August 31st, 2015 7:01pm
Being silent does not mean that you lack strength, that is for sure; sometimes silence brings peace sand safety, even in the most troubling of times, silence is sometimes a coping mechanism, dont fear silence. As well, verbal abuse is extremely troubling to endure, hence, silence may accompany this kind of behavior or treatment; of course its normal and even okay to be silent; its important to understand and acknowledge your voice, too; never forget that you are powerful and worthy of being treated appropriately.
BookChunky
April 27th, 2020 8:35am
It is absolutely not okay! You need to have confidence and belief in yourself as well as realize you do not deserve to be abused or treated in this way. You have to stand up for yourself in any bullying or abusive situation. If it's happening at school talk to a teacher or counselor and get some help. If it is happening at home talk to your parents or guardian. And if it gets really serious then talk to some authorities and get help to resolve the situation. It is not your fault as long as you don't engage with the abuser and stay safe!
avphrodite
April 13th, 2015 4:37pm
Some people do not say anything back when they are being targeted verbally by another. If someone you know is being mean to you and hurting your feelings, it's important that you speak up or tell someone so that the abuse will stop.
RayvenNightfall
July 27th, 2015 8:01am
Well i have autism so i dont react very well to loud noises. When your being yelled at it is normal for your body to go into fight and flight mode in which case you remain silent during the episode.
dreamNarwhal58
January 18th, 2016 6:40pm
I personally think being silent is the right thing to do, never ever answer back , never put yourself on their level, let them talk, let them say Bullshit about you or whatever cause silence is the key to be stronger, silence kills them. My only advice is stay strong and ignore everything. Nobody has the right to judge you.
SupportiveSockMonkey
April 24th, 2018 4:45pm
Yes, this could be due to stress, this could also be due to fear or shock of not wanting to make the situation worse. This is a difficult situation because you want to defend yourself but not want to make the situation worse.
OpenHearted865
June 6th, 2017 4:59am
Absolutely it is normal to be silent when you are being verbally abused. Being the victim of any type of abuse can strip you of your power, dignity, strength and ultimately your ability to speak. You may feel weak and unable to speak, and that's okay, but make sure that you aren't scared into not getting yourself help or out of the situation because you don't deserve to be abused.
RheanaHazel
April 24th, 2017 2:42pm
Absolutely :) Being verbally abused has many effects on how victims will express themselves. They have seen the power of words, and that may cause them to not want to speak. Abuse has also lead to introversion, and that causes a lack of expression in oneself. Your silence may not be 100% due to your abuse, however it is definitely a plausible symptom.
VerdictEndgameOver
September 5th, 2016 2:40am
Yes, it is. We have different ways of reacting when we get verbally abused. Some of us choose the more aggressive approach of retaliation. Others choose the less aggressive approach of remaining silent. Either way is okay, as long as we know that what the other party is saying does not define us.
Anonymous
June 9th, 2015 11:13pm
It's normal because it's a defense mechanism. You feel that if you don't say anything, the abuse won't last as long.
Anonymous
June 14th, 2016 12:38pm
Yes and no. The only person that will be able to tell you if it is ok is you. Are you comfortable being quiet when you are being verbally abused?
Littlemisssuzy0
April 19th, 2016 6:08pm
Yes, in a way it is because you are being abused in a verbal way. That can frighten you, make you feel embarrassed and insecure. But you don't need to feel ashamed of it, you should think about talking to a professional, to help you more than I can in this situation.
BatWings89
December 1st, 2015 10:30pm
Being verbally abused is tough. People react very differently and being silent is a normal reaction. It can help to know where this silence comes from - apathy, fear, anger, indifference. That can help you change matters if you want to. Also I would recommend talking to a third person about it, so you're not alone with those negative words.
blazingwolf
November 27th, 2015 1:10am
Yes because you are smart. You check what are the good outcome of being chaotic, versus the outcome of being calm. So to answer your question you are smart. One thing, though, defend yourself, explain or else they wont respect you at all, and they will continue. So just explain yourself, a simple, clear explanation. If they wont respect you, say ""you dont talk to me like that, please"".
Anonymous
November 17th, 2015 3:56am
Of course! Majority of victims stay quiet, and this is the abuser's goal. Do not allow people to use their words to hurt you. Physical harm may break your bones, but words scar the soul.
Park2015
October 27th, 2015 7:18am
Yes. Being abused take a toll on the human brain. Everyone reacts differently. Staying silent is normal but make sure to go to the cops and speak up at some point.
Anonymous
June 24th, 2015 7:33pm
Of course it is normal to be silent when verbally abused. Different people have different responses such as anger, before physical or become silent. It's the body's natural way of dealing with trauma.
Anonymous
August 17th, 2015 3:03am
Yes. But some people stand up for themselves and be strong, brave and courageous to be able to defend themselves