How do you deal with depression after a breakup?
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I deal with it, but putting my mind in other places and distracting myself from the negative emotions. I just think to myself how i will find someone better for me, and i try to have fun
Firstly, realize that the relationship is over, and work your way from there. If it was a devastating break- up, it might prove that ending it was the right thing to do. Secondly, after being loved by someone else, learn to love yourself even more. Focus on yourself for a bit, seek support in friends, and remember that there is someone much better out there waiting for you :)
Anonymous
July 8th, 2015 5:14pm
In order to deal with depression after a breakup, I usually talk it out with my mom because I feel very comfortable with her. Talking issues out helps you cope with the situation and remember its okay to cry.
Anonymous
July 8th, 2015 1:34pm
I know it is kinda hard, but you can listen happy music or find a hobby to waste your time and forget about her/him. It totally works
After my relationship ended, I cried and ranted to anyone who would listen. By talking to other people, I figured out how I really felt about the situation and I got the annoyance out of my system.
Anonymous
July 8th, 2015 1:06am
I deal with depression by going to the gym to blow of some steam and hang out with my friends and have a better outlook in life.
Anonymous
July 5th, 2015 11:45pm
Try and comfort yourself as much as possible. Or keep your beloved in close contact, in case you need affection in dark times. Try and do things you enjoy, get fresh air and clear your head.
take time to love your self again before you love anyone else agin pamper your self show self love!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Focus on you. It's natural to be hurt after a breakup, but the way I like to see things is that it was a learning experience. Maybe it didn't end how you had hoped it would, but it happened for a reason. Cherish the good times, and take what you learned to become an even more awesome you!
i broke up 2 years ago, the depression doesnt last continuously, it comes in pieces, meaning you feel it less and less strongly each day and you dont feel it every second of the day, ul only feel that way in the first few weeks. The best way to get over it is to keep a goal, and believe that one day things will get better and believe that a miracle will happen one day. try and occupy your mind and dont end up alone, when your mind is not busy, it tends to overthink. Go out with friends and family :) dont give up :)
I CRY, and CRY some more then, I get dressed up and take lots of selfies because I refuse to let him know that he has hurt me that bad to put me in depression mode!
After a break up, I turn my focus to myself. How can I make myself happy? What does make me happy? And I remember that the relationship with myself is the most important one.
Anonymous
July 4th, 2015 11:44pm
Talk to friends or family or a counselor. Be honest with what you're feeling. Don't be afraid to ask for help!
In my personal experience, break-ups are hard whether it is a romantic relationship or friendship. To cope with the depression that follows after a break up:
1. Tell myself that these feelings will pass over time
2. Look at all of the good times I had in the past with this individual
3. Ask myself, what were the “red flags†in the relationship that I have could been ignoring?
4. What will I do differently the next time?
5. Self-care, looking at all of the positive aspects of myself
6. I do something positive for someone else, someone always needs love
7. Prayer and meditation, the mind needs a moment to be clear
These are all the things that have helped me to move forward from a break-up.
Anonymous
July 4th, 2015 4:34pm
Go out. Do new things. Challenge your mind into other things rather than being locked up in your room with tons of chocolate.
I talk to my closest friends, do other stuff except just thinking biased thoughts about all the great times I had with the ex. (Had it been so great we would have still been together) Instead I activate and meet new people, do sports and then after a few weeks or months I go back and figure out what I can learn about myself from this experience.
You need to realize that it's going to take time, and understand the emotions you're feeling. Hide everything that is difficult to see right now, and try to keep your mine off it- enjoy spending time with the people that are still in your life. You need to accept that the relationship is over.
Anonymous
July 4th, 2015 12:05am
It hurts. I won't lie and say it doesn't. However, the relationship has now ended. You can either wallow in the sadness or trudge on stubbornly and show that a breakup doesn't define you no matter how severe it is. Which will you decide?
Anonymous
July 3rd, 2015 8:31pm
You try your best. You try to accept the feelings that come along with a breakup even though you don't want to. Don't ignore them or try to make them go away by doing impulsive things.. You accept that you're upset because of this. Talk to friends, write down how you feel, try to do the best you can.
Anonymous
July 3rd, 2015 1:45pm
Just get over him! Get into the dating scene. Throw his gifts away. Get involved in a new activity.
keep yourself busy and try to go out with friends and family at least 3 times a week but always stay busy
I spend as much time as I can with close friends who are supportive and caring. I try to keep a consistent routine, but I also take a little time throughout each day to feel what I'm feeling. When it begins to feel overwhelming, I reach out to a friend for their support.
In my experience, I try to take care of myself. This is a time in which I focus on me only. After a breakup, one might feel lost and hopeless, because a person who meant so much in our lives is no longer in it. But this is an opportunity to take from the experience and study the parts from this relationship that made me grow as a person. I also talk to close friends and write down my feelings. When everything is bottled up inside and holding us down, one cannot move forward.
When I had first left my last relationships it felt as though I no longer had a purpose. I simply didn't want to move from my bed. The first day, I didn't. The next day I got up, showered, did laundry, and lounged in a clean bed with clean pajamas and hot cocoa. For the rest of the long weekend, I practiced self care and made my physical self better, like nails and hair, while waiting for my mind and emotions to take a hint.
Breakups are hard, but that's why we have friends and family. They may not always agree with our decisions, but they're always there when you need a shoulder to cry on. If not that, you'll always have 7 cups!
In my experience I deal with it by keeping myself busy and do the things I love, surround myself with my friends. Although it was really hard for me since I really loved the person and that I'm really attached to him before, everything I do reminds me of him.
Remember the good times had with my ex. Recognize my emotions and accept them. Also I like to stay physically active and social to prevent from isolation.
Take care of yourself. Really! You'll be feeling pretty vulnerable, so take care of yourself. Comfort yourself, and do whatever you need to do to feel better. (in a healthy and positive way of course)
Dealing with depression after a breakup can be very hard at first, but the good news is that with time it becomes really easy. Right now, it may be the focus of your mind throughout the day. In time it will definitely be something you think less and less of. Right after a break up, I would talk about it... a lot. Don't let thoughts sit inside your head. After talking, do something you like to do, or something that makes you happy, or really anything that gets your mind off it. You'll be okay, it'll just take time.
Bottling it up, is one of the worst things you can do! :D Talk about it to someone, tell them everything, how you feel and how it's affected you... being able to talk to someone can help a whole lot!
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