I am struggling with codependency and depression. I cannot afford therapy. What can I do to get help?

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Last Updated: 08/19/2017 at 8:03pm
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dudekorpf
August 19th, 2016 6:47pm

talk to someone, maybe friends, family, partner and of course listeners on 7cups .. :)

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Anonymous
July 20th, 2016 1:13pm

There are 12 step programs available through Codependency Anonymous. Although an offering basket is passed, you do not have to pay if you cannot afford it. For depression, there are online support groups as well as Depression and Bipolar Support Alliance (DBSA) available at no cost to you.

TaranWanderer
April 12th, 2017 6:17pm

First, try having a look at the resources in your area. Many places offer free therapy for those who need it, and many schools/jobs have therapy services as well. There are also therapists who work on a sliding scale, so you pay what you can instead of their usual rate. Aside from that, there are online services like 7 Cups, including the self-help guides here. You could also look up methods to dealing with the things you're struggling with, as many people have gone through similar things and have shared what works for them online. Things like challenging negative thoughts, meditation, exercise, reality checking, guided thinking, and gradual exposure can help, and you can learn a lot about them online.

ThaliaRaven
July 17th, 2016 5:44pm

Reach for someone who can help you with this on 7 Cups. There are many people willing to talk to you for no money at all.

Anonymous
July 31st, 2016 7:45pm

We have therapists on this site that you can talk to! As well, as tons of listeners who can lend an ear.

Anonymous
October 26th, 2016 4:35pm

Thinl about why you are you depressed? Its hard to get out of depression. I know and I understand. Try spending time with people who are positive and try to participate in things that interest you.

neonstars1881
July 13th, 2016 6:53pm

You can listen to music, go on a walk, take a shower, talk to friends, watch funny cat videos. eTC You can get through it all.

Naturallyhappy00
July 15th, 2016 2:26am

What you can do is reach out to family and friends so that it's easier to talk to you need to have to pay for it or you can write all your emotions down so that they're out and you're not bottling them inside

Zillion0315
July 16th, 2016 7:41am

You can always seek help from a school guidance counselor or a trusted adult. Talking can help alot

Anonymous
July 17th, 2016 5:00pm

i will personally suggest you to talk to people around you and do meditate !! see what good you have in life rather than focusing about negative things..

Anonymous
July 20th, 2016 6:23am

Talk with others, friends, family, loved ones, seek help here on 7 cups, it helps when someone listens

insightfulDreamer97
July 20th, 2016 5:58pm

Very often, therapists will work with individuals when it comes to cost. If for some reason they cannot, they are most often able to refer you to community resources like support groups, or other even perhaps another therapist who is able to work with you on the cost. I have found that most therapists are genuinely caring people and are concerned about people and their mental health, and if they cannot personally help you, they can usually refer you to someone who can.

Brittneym101
July 23rd, 2016 2:46am

You can always look for free online therapy/chat sites such as 7 cups If you are struggling with codependency and depression and if you are unable to afford therapy or if you're comfortable talk to a friend, family member and/or someone that you can trust.

TranquilMoonlight
July 23rd, 2016 4:35pm

I've found support groups to be monumentally helpful. They're usually free to attend, and in certain cases they can be more beneficial than therapy. Being surrounded by people who can understand and relate to your struggles is, in and of itself, a self sustainable source of positivity. It would also help you to broaden your perspective as you learn of the challenges others have had to overcome and what they did in the face of adversity. I myself have made lasting friendships from support groups, with individuals I probably would have never interacted with otherwise.

gloriousFlower75
July 27th, 2016 7:10pm

it's best to go on therapudic sites like these, or talk to a close friend/relative. as for now, 7 cups is a great website to help others. And once you have enough money to afford therapy, we will generously do the best we can to help.

Anonymous
July 28th, 2016 8:21am

If you are struggling with codependency and depression and you can't afford therapy then you can talk to friends and family or come here on 7 cups.

softNutella25
July 29th, 2016 1:06am

Consider speaking to your family doctor if you are insured. Consider some alternative options like a school counselor if you are in school. If you are insured, there may be therapists and/or social workers whose services are covered. In any case, talk to your doctor if possible and they may be able to help guide you to the care that you need without causing you financial hardship.

Anonymous
July 29th, 2016 7:04pm

Talking to an adult can help. A parent, teacher, social worker. Even reaching out for help is a huge step and can really go a long way. Also journaling or writing down your thoughts can really help!

Anonymous
August 3rd, 2016 12:51am

understand your situation and its not an easy one to be in. The question is should you avoid all uncomfortable situations that happen in your life? That being said,its your life. Your parents must take your feelings into consideration as well. As for those church hypocrites you need to stand strong in god.

Anonymous
August 4th, 2016 12:03am

You can go talk to your school councelor and also we here can listen to you. Also maybe you can lend money from your parents etc?

hopefulHand19
August 4th, 2016 2:13pm

There are many things you can do to get help. This site for example, is great for people struggling with depression. There are many free support groups you can attend, In my area, my local mood disorder organization offers free support groups. Many of your friends and family, who you many never have even thought would be there for you, can be very supportive. There are also many phone lines you can dial,that will do everything they can to help you.

kerkyra
August 5th, 2016 9:46pm

If you are still in school, ask to speak to your school nurse/councillor. If not in school, maybe console with a trusted member of family or friend.

Anonymous
August 10th, 2016 3:45am

you can seek help on online forums or talk to friends and family or talk to me. we are a community willing to help each other.

JoeListener
August 11th, 2016 3:26am

Usually most localities have free or low-cost mental health services (such as clinics or public health offices). Also, many therapists offer sliding scales for low-income clients. Depression, for one, is a serious mental illness that should be treated by a professional, just as if you had a broken leg you would go to a medical doctor. If you still cannot afford treatment, try asking family, friends, church, or other social organizations for help. Once again, mental illness does not typically go away on its own and requires professional treatment to adequately address.

Grangs
August 14th, 2016 4:15am

Go onto this site and let us talk to you with regular appointments, or talk to a family member or friend about yourself.

livylove9731
August 17th, 2016 4:27pm

Well for starters, there are plenty of listeners on 7 cups, we're all here to help so why don't you give one of them a shout?

angelicaxx
August 18th, 2016 4:45pm

Try 7 cups or school counselling. (I personally reccommend school counselling over 7 cups since school counsellers are registered and professional so it would help you more.)

Anonymous
August 20th, 2016 1:15pm

Talk to someone who had gone through the same or a close friend. Sometimes friends could be the best therapist.

Angelwings63
August 26th, 2016 10:32am

There sites are here for this reason. To help those struggling to cope with life. Make use of all the resources here. Talk with the listeners. If this does not help you can search for free institutes which offer medical help for depression and see one of them.

EsmeRose
September 1st, 2016 6:33pm

You can always try support groups that are funded through things like the NHS or government etc. There are always chat lines such as 7 Cups of Tea and other online help lines that can help until you can financially afford professional help!

briana6876786
September 2nd, 2016 2:49am

you could try to find a depression hotline or maybe find a listener on here to talk to about your issues

sereneDreamer45
September 3rd, 2016 8:31am

I don't know where you live but many areas have voluntary run organizations such as pieta house. You don't need to pay. Look on the internet for free therapy in your area. If you ever want to talk to a therapist or a listener online, we are here and we do care about you.

AliceInWonderland1997
September 7th, 2016 1:34pm

Talk to friends or family and try to apeak to them. Tell them that you want them to just hear you out. Not to give you lectures on how you should feel bc it can make you feel worse. You can also talk to people, listeners here on 7cups! Many people are great to talk to and if one doesnt satisfy you or help you. You calways have the chance to find new listeners.

Jesse1285
September 8th, 2016 12:10pm

There are many resources out there. If you are can't afford traditional therapy, look into peer support groups run by organizations such as NAMI and the DBSA. Both offer support groups for those struggling with depression and other disorders. They may also have leads for low cost therapy services or other routes you can take.

GentleBlizzard
September 11th, 2016 7:55am

Based on my experience, you can talk to those close to you, as well as get some hobbies. Working out really helps.

BeautifulOutlaw
September 14th, 2016 10:56am

You're more than welcome to always speak to anyone here, about your depression and codependency. We have therapist on the site.

sheenaelisan
September 15th, 2016 12:56am

I feel your pain. I'm so sorry your struggling. I want to help you and provide support. This can be helpful. Also, we have great resources here, I can send you links for a guide on both codependency and depression and we can discuss it. I can bring in more listeners to our conversation to provide extra support for you. I want to be here for you and listen. I don't know exactly how you're feeling, but I know that it hurts. On a scale of 1 to 10, how bad would you say your struggling with depression?

Anonymous
September 18th, 2016 6:25pm

talk to someone, maybe friends, family, partner and of course listeners on 7cups .. :)

Anonymous
September 22nd, 2016 4:46pm

Go online there are many free sites and many people who would love to help people with mental illness and to support you through it all

healwithlove
September 24th, 2016 10:29am

You did the first step, realizing what you have, the next step is to seek for the root of this codependency, and then try to be independant in that area, wether is emotional, financial etc. Sometimes feeling economically independant will give you the confidence to feel free.

Anonymous
September 29th, 2016 6:14am

If I am struggling with codependency and depression and cannot afford therapy, I can get 3 free therapy sessions with the therapist on the cups

thelaughingbuddha
October 2nd, 2016 5:05am

Short answer is 7cups. A great site with patient active listeners where you can come anytime and talk about the problem you are facing. There are great resources on the site for your help. Apart from that you can talk to your friends who are caring and understand you very well. If there is no one, back to 7cups. We are eagerly waiting to listen to you.

KrisisKontrol
October 5th, 2016 11:24pm

Do some research on the internet, get books from the library, discuss issues with a trusted friend or family member.

Anonymous
October 9th, 2016 11:06pm

I think talking to friends or family could be helpful. Maybe try some guides on 7 cups or speak to a listener here.

staticfriend
October 11th, 2016 5:45pm

You can always share your feelings/thoughts with someone who you truly care about and love. That includes family, friends and loved ones but you can also use this website to talk to a listener if you feel that could help! Meditation and/or yoga are also a widely praised for having a very positive effect on your physical and mental health. There are many apps, books and videos that can teach you. Keeping a gratitude journal has also been said to have helped many people cope with depression and anxiety as well as practicing small acts of self-love by doing things that help your body and soul (e.g. reading positive books, taking hot baths, taking walks, talking to a friend, starting a blog, writing your thoughts, drawing, cooking, cleaning, listening to uplifting music or positive talks on youtube, sleeping, keeping a mood journal or a diary, and spending time on caring for yourself). It's important to remember that with or without therapy or even loved ones, your life will get better and all you have to do is just take days one by one and stick around for the amazing moments that are sure to come your way. And even if you feel alone, you are not. Everything in life is temporary, even hardships. You can win this battle because it's not the end! xx :)

coffeekitten14
October 14th, 2016 9:49pm

Talk to people here on 7cups. That's what we're here for :).

smiletolisten2u
October 19th, 2016 7:54pm

You could check out local support groups in your area that deal with life issues like " Celebrate Recovery "

MarcusFalls
October 21st, 2016 9:46am

A book called Boundaries really helped me understand how I was contributing to my own misery by not erecting and enforcing boundaries.

WorkInProgress11
October 21st, 2016 7:16pm

First off, it seems like you're in the right place if you've found 7 Cups! We're a community of people who want to listen to and support each other, so you could try a one-on-one chat or group chat. There are also therapists available if you feel like you need professional help.

HugoListens
October 21st, 2016 8:56pm

find someone who can just listen to your issues so you can get to the root of the problem. Identify the feeling first and then look for that feeling in past events. Usually the first time this issue arised is the time that marked your following similar experiences so you need to find it. The journey is a bit hurtfull but a lot of thing reveal you true strengths and weaknesses.

PsYchologica90
October 22nd, 2016 9:01am

You could seek online related material to help you for example psych forums or psych central and similar try out some tests and quizzes to understand your current emotional or mental state better, or alternatively seek sites where online counselling is available for free. 7 cups of tea is a great site to offer users such an opportunity :)

Anonymous
October 26th, 2016 3:13am

Speak to a trusted adult or come on 7 CUPS and speak to listeners or a trusted adult................

xPeacefulAngel
November 2nd, 2016 1:13pm

Talking to listeners on 7 cups can really help! You might feel more understanded and less alone. I really recommend it.

Butterfly121
November 3rd, 2016 7:12pm

Chat sites such as this can be very helpful by giving you an ear to talk to, but you might want to investigate an online therapy service, or a free hotline to start with.

Anonymous
November 16th, 2016 7:37pm

Even just talking to someone can help. Not everything needs a full, professional therapy session. Try finding someone you trust, and just spend time talking to them whenever possible.

originalbraveheart63
December 8th, 2016 2:24pm

Try to talk with someone on 7cupsoftea, maybe a conversation would be something that helps you.

Anonymous
December 25th, 2016 5:10am

Focus on completing small things by yourself, allow yourself to feel pride over getting out of bed. As depression may make you inactive and codependency mayou make it worse, I think this would help. Don't force yourself to jump into the most important task and try not to stress over it. Focus on what you can do and have done.

heartsNcupcakes
December 28th, 2016 5:53am

Honestly talking to listeners helps a bunch, people who have been through similar experiences in chatrooms, even talking with family members or friends if you're not comfortable talking to a stranger. You can get into some healthy distractions as well. There are tons of alternatives to therapy. We're here whenever you need us

politeLove83
February 15th, 2017 10:27am

Look for free or low cost mental health services seek support groups try getting involved in more community things and stay busy and try to keep learn more about yourself passions ect

klarathealien
March 5th, 2017 2:00pm

You can talk about it to your friends or family or anyone else you trust. Or try out 7cups where people will listen to you and try to help.

Recent Answers
Anonymous
August 19th, 2017 8:03pm

talk to your friends or family and tell them you need help or support in your time of need to be able to get better

Kevan
August 19th, 2017 10:57am

Try the calming mindful exercises here on 7cups or self-help guides. Try to talk to your parents. friends or even a listener here to get support.

AjanMalic
August 18th, 2017 5:37am

Been there. Ain't it fun? When I was struggling most, I started reading CBT books and recovery books like The Zen of Recovery. If you have a tablet or cellphone, you can get some good e-books for free or cheap that will help you to take control of your brain.

tjb28
August 11th, 2017 9:22pm

You have done a positive thing by coming onto the site . We are all here to help . You are not alone. Here at 7cups of tea are some fantastic supportive people who are here for you

capucinec
August 11th, 2017 6:36pm

Find your passion. Your vice, if you will. Often external life cannot bate the hellfire inside of us, because external life, as nice as it is, offers emptiness. Money and materials and alcohol and drugs never help. What I'm saying is, look inside yourself. Find your vice, be it writing or singing or painting or reading or knitting. Find something that when you perform it, it eases the pain. It is not as good as therapy, but four years later, and I'm still standing.

Anonymous
August 6th, 2017 5:34pm

Talking to people & finding tips online. It is important to talk to people about your struggles so they can help you.

Hound
August 6th, 2017 4:17am

Exercise and good diet, CBT workbooks, having a sense of routine (getting dressed, going outside, getting sunshine.) Having a strong support system, people who listen without judgment. Online forums for people with depression can help if you lack offline support. All easier said than done, but take it as you will.

ZeteticElench
August 2nd, 2017 12:07pm

You could ask a friend or compassionate member of family for advice and support. It is worth exploring if there are free self help group meetups for sufferer of those, also looking for advice in the world wide web can have great value. Do not oversee also counseler of the spiritual nature, like priest and other representatives of religion. Even if you are not believer yourself, the practicioners will listen to your sorrows and often offer support and advice.

Anonymous
July 10th, 2017 3:59am

Therapy, while an important assessment, can become very expensive and unaffordable. Have you considered any self-help books (or workbooks) that are related to codependency and depression? Perhaps, you can check them out from the library or buy them off the Internet for cheap. I'm not too familiar with very many codependency-related books, but if you look at the psychology section of most bookstores, you will most likely see relevant resources that can help you work through those concerns. There are also some books for those who are dealing with depression, such as Feel Good which I'd highly recommend if you're experiencing excessive self-criticism and you're trying to develop your self-esteem.

Sanar
June 29th, 2017 10:52pm

There are several free services online and locally in your area. If you are in school, your institution will most likely offer counseling services for free. Your workplace may have a free counseling or therapy department, too. Beyond that, there are several depression hotlines that you can research and call toll free. If none of these interest you, perhaps reaching out to a trusted family member or friend may be a good option.

compassionateSea52
June 23rd, 2017 5:23pm

Talk to someone here. There are many people who have overcome these issues and will understand your struggle. There are a diverse range of resources available also including forums and information written by people just like you.

oncewasastruggler
June 11th, 2017 8:39am

Try talking to some of our listeners here on 7cups! (I am one aswell!) we are always here to help you when you need us. xx

Anonymous
May 18th, 2017 7:47am

Therapies can be quite expensive sometimes and not everyone can afford them, in such situations one can reach out to trusted person as counselor, who you trust and are sure that person will not judge you and if you think you'll be judged you should message someone anonymously using platform like this. And also from my personal experience reading self-help books and listening to motivation speeches can be quite helpful.

Anonymous
May 14th, 2017 2:23am

Seek for self-peace. Go online, see what you love to do, adventures or just talking with others. Learn about depression and codependency and try to solve it without hurting yourself in the process

anomalicious
April 29th, 2017 1:36am

Options such as support groups, which are often very inexpensive or even free, as well as a pro-bono therapist may be good options. It would be best to research your general area and see if there were inexpensive options for treatment. Another option is reading self-help books and watching documentaries, which I've greatly found to help certain people, whereas others may not benefit from it as much.

Anonymous
April 21st, 2017 8:46am

The first step should be confiding your codependency and depression with people you trust. Getting support from your loved ones and being able to be vulnerable towards them leads to stronger social connections, and stronger bonds with people aids with alleviating codependency and depression in the long run.

AngelTherese
April 12th, 2017 3:09pm

Get support. Talk to people. Open your heart to people you trust even if it is hard. It helps to feel supported. There is this quote I love, "I don't need you to save me. I need you to hold my hand while I save myself." I don't believe you are helpless but I am not discrediting your codependency and depression, I just believe that you can overcome it---you just need support. Healing happens when the positive experiences and stimuli outweigh the negatives. If you are feeling what you are feeling, you need to re-balance your life by introducing positive mental, emotional, spiritual, and physical experiences in your life. That's why people get so overwhelmingly happy when they travel: they get out of the negative loop they're in. Get yourself out of the negative loop by making positive memories in your life. Here's some guide questions: I feel most fulfilled whenever I _________. What came out? Message me or any listener to help you with this!

JHakuro
April 12th, 2017 3:56am

There are a lot of ways to get help for free. Many, if not all colleges, offer free therapy to students and alumni as well as hospitals being able to provide therapy to individuals that may not have the money to do so.

peacefulkat
April 5th, 2017 4:30am

You can start getting help by talking to people here on 7 Cups, you can try to do things you enjoy, getting out more and trying new things. You could try writing little notes to yourself and writing positive quotes to help you.

Anonymous
March 11th, 2017 5:14am

A non profit organization may help. Look for someone to share your problem, might be teacher or colleague. Get enough sleep. Take days off when you aren't ready