I am struggling with codependency and depression. I cannot afford therapy. What can I do to get help?

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Last Updated: 02/22/2018 at 8:56am
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August 19th, 2016 6:47pm

talk to someone, maybe friends, family, partner and of course listeners on 7cups .. :)

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February 21st, 2018 4:56am

Looking for answers on the internet...we've all been there. I just want you to know you don't have to figure this out on your own. I know this might not be something you want to discuss with your friends or family, but if you join this site you can get free, anonymous support from trained listeners and a huge support community. Nobody is here to judge.

July 20th, 2016 1:13pm

There are 12 step programs available through Codependency Anonymous. Although an offering basket is passed, you do not have to pay if you cannot afford it. For depression, there are online support groups as well as Depression and Bipolar Support Alliance (DBSA) available at no cost to you.

April 12th, 2017 6:17pm

First, try having a look at the resources in your area. Many places offer free therapy for those who need it, and many schools/jobs have therapy services as well. There are also therapists who work on a sliding scale, so you pay what you can instead of their usual rate. Aside from that, there are online services like 7 Cups, including the self-help guides here. You could also look up methods to dealing with the things you're struggling with, as many people have gone through similar things and have shared what works for them online. Things like challenging negative thoughts, meditation, exercise, reality checking, guided thinking, and gradual exposure can help, and you can learn a lot about them online.

August 18th, 2017 5:37am

Been there. Ain't it fun? When I was struggling most, I started reading CBT books and recovery books like The Zen of Recovery. If you have a tablet or cellphone, you can get some good e-books for free or cheap that will help you to take control of your brain.

July 17th, 2016 5:44pm

Reach for someone who can help you with this on 7 Cups. There are many people willing to talk to you for no money at all.

July 31st, 2016 7:45pm

We have therapists on this site that you can talk to! As well, as tons of listeners who can lend an ear.

October 26th, 2016 4:35pm

Thinl about why you are you depressed? Its hard to get out of depression. I know and I understand. Try spending time with people who are positive and try to participate in things that interest you.

July 13th, 2016 6:53pm

You can listen to music, go on a walk, take a shower, talk to friends, watch funny cat videos. eTC You can get through it all.

July 15th, 2016 2:26am

What you can do is reach out to family and friends so that it's easier to talk to you need to have to pay for it or you can write all your emotions down so that they're out and you're not bottling them inside

July 16th, 2016 7:41am

You can always seek help from a school guidance counselor or a trusted adult. Talking can help alot

July 17th, 2016 5:00pm

i will personally suggest you to talk to people around you and do meditate !! see what good you have in life rather than focusing about negative things..

July 20th, 2016 6:23am

Talk with others, friends, family, loved ones, seek help here on 7 cups, it helps when someone listens

July 20th, 2016 5:58pm

Very often, therapists will work with individuals when it comes to cost. If for some reason they cannot, they are most often able to refer you to community resources like support groups, or other even perhaps another therapist who is able to work with you on the cost. I have found that most therapists are genuinely caring people and are concerned about people and their mental health, and if they cannot personally help you, they can usually refer you to someone who can.

July 23rd, 2016 2:46am

You can always look for free online therapy/chat sites such as 7 cups If you are struggling with codependency and depression and if you are unable to afford therapy or if you're comfortable talk to a friend, family member and/or someone that you can trust.

July 23rd, 2016 4:35pm

I've found support groups to be monumentally helpful. They're usually free to attend, and in certain cases they can be more beneficial than therapy. Being surrounded by people who can understand and relate to your struggles is, in and of itself, a self sustainable source of positivity. It would also help you to broaden your perspective as you learn of the challenges others have had to overcome and what they did in the face of adversity. I myself have made lasting friendships from support groups, with individuals I probably would have never interacted with otherwise.

July 27th, 2016 7:10pm

it's best to go on therapudic sites like these, or talk to a close friend/relative. as for now, 7 cups is a great website to help others. And once you have enough money to afford therapy, we will generously do the best we can to help.

July 28th, 2016 8:21am

If you are struggling with codependency and depression and you can't afford therapy then you can talk to friends and family or come here on 7 cups.

July 29th, 2016 1:06am

Consider speaking to your family doctor if you are insured. Consider some alternative options like a school counselor if you are in school. If you are insured, there may be therapists and/or social workers whose services are covered. In any case, talk to your doctor if possible and they may be able to help guide you to the care that you need without causing you financial hardship.

July 29th, 2016 7:04pm

Talking to an adult can help. A parent, teacher, social worker. Even reaching out for help is a huge step and can really go a long way. Also journaling or writing down your thoughts can really help!

August 3rd, 2016 12:51am

understand your situation and its not an easy one to be in. The question is should you avoid all uncomfortable situations that happen in your life? That being said,its your life. Your parents must take your feelings into consideration as well. As for those church hypocrites you need to stand strong in god.

August 4th, 2016 12:03am

You can go talk to your school councelor and also we here can listen to you. Also maybe you can lend money from your parents etc?

August 4th, 2016 2:13pm

There are many things you can do to get help. This site for example, is great for people struggling with depression. There are many free support groups you can attend, In my area, my local mood disorder organization offers free support groups. Many of your friends and family, who you many never have even thought would be there for you, can be very supportive. There are also many phone lines you can dial,that will do everything they can to help you.

August 5th, 2016 9:46pm

If you are still in school, ask to speak to your school nurse/councillor. If not in school, maybe console with a trusted member of family or friend.

August 10th, 2016 3:45am

you can seek help on online forums or talk to friends and family or talk to me. we are a community willing to help each other.

August 11th, 2016 3:26am

Usually most localities have free or low-cost mental health services (such as clinics or public health offices). Also, many therapists offer sliding scales for low-income clients. Depression, for one, is a serious mental illness that should be treated by a professional, just as if you had a broken leg you would go to a medical doctor. If you still cannot afford treatment, try asking family, friends, church, or other social organizations for help. Once again, mental illness does not typically go away on its own and requires professional treatment to adequately address.

August 14th, 2016 4:15am

Go onto this site and let us talk to you with regular appointments, or talk to a family member or friend about yourself.

August 17th, 2016 4:27pm

Well for starters, there are plenty of listeners on 7 cups, we're all here to help so why don't you give one of them a shout?

August 18th, 2016 4:45pm

Try 7 cups or school counselling. (I personally reccommend school counselling over 7 cups since school counsellers are registered and professional so it would help you more.)

August 20th, 2016 1:15pm

Talk to someone who had gone through the same or a close friend. Sometimes friends could be the best therapist.

August 26th, 2016 10:32am

There sites are here for this reason. To help those struggling to cope with life. Make use of all the resources here. Talk with the listeners. If this does not help you can search for free institutes which offer medical help for depression and see one of them.

September 1st, 2016 6:33pm

You can always try support groups that are funded through things like the NHS or government etc. There are always chat lines such as 7 Cups of Tea and other online help lines that can help until you can financially afford professional help!

September 2nd, 2016 2:49am

you could try to find a depression hotline or maybe find a listener on here to talk to about your issues

September 3rd, 2016 8:31am

I don't know where you live but many areas have voluntary run organizations such as pieta house. You don't need to pay. Look on the internet for free therapy in your area. If you ever want to talk to a therapist or a listener online, we are here and we do care about you.

September 7th, 2016 1:34pm

Talk to friends or family and try to apeak to them. Tell them that you want them to just hear you out. Not to give you lectures on how you should feel bc it can make you feel worse. You can also talk to people, listeners here on 7cups! Many people are great to talk to and if one doesnt satisfy you or help you. You calways have the chance to find new listeners.

September 8th, 2016 12:10pm

There are many resources out there. If you are can't afford traditional therapy, look into peer support groups run by organizations such as NAMI and the DBSA. Both offer support groups for those struggling with depression and other disorders. They may also have leads for low cost therapy services or other routes you can take.

September 11th, 2016 7:55am

Based on my experience, you can talk to those close to you, as well as get some hobbies. Working out really helps.

September 14th, 2016 10:56am

You're more than welcome to always speak to anyone here, about your depression and codependency. We have therapist on the site.

September 15th, 2016 12:56am

I feel your pain. I'm so sorry your struggling. I want to help you and provide support. This can be helpful. Also, we have great resources here, I can send you links for a guide on both codependency and depression and we can discuss it. I can bring in more listeners to our conversation to provide extra support for you. I want to be here for you and listen. I don't know exactly how you're feeling, but I know that it hurts. On a scale of 1 to 10, how bad would you say your struggling with depression?

September 18th, 2016 6:25pm

talk to someone, maybe friends, family, partner and of course listeners on 7cups .. :)

September 22nd, 2016 4:46pm

Go online there are many free sites and many people who would love to help people with mental illness and to support you through it all

September 24th, 2016 10:29am

You did the first step, realizing what you have, the next step is to seek for the root of this codependency, and then try to be independant in that area, wether is emotional, financial etc. Sometimes feeling economically independant will give you the confidence to feel free.

September 29th, 2016 6:14am

If I am struggling with codependency and depression and cannot afford therapy, I can get 3 free therapy sessions with the therapist on the cups

October 2nd, 2016 5:05am

Short answer is 7cups. A great site with patient active listeners where you can come anytime and talk about the problem you are facing. There are great resources on the site for your help. Apart from that you can talk to your friends who are caring and understand you very well. If there is no one, back to 7cups. We are eagerly waiting to listen to you.

October 5th, 2016 11:24pm

Do some research on the internet, get books from the library, discuss issues with a trusted friend or family member.

October 9th, 2016 11:06pm

I think talking to friends or family could be helpful. Maybe try some guides on 7 cups or speak to a listener here.

October 11th, 2016 5:45pm

You can always share your feelings/thoughts with someone who you truly care about and love. That includes family, friends and loved ones but you can also use this website to talk to a listener if you feel that could help! Meditation and/or yoga are also a widely praised for having a very positive effect on your physical and mental health. There are many apps, books and videos that can teach you. Keeping a gratitude journal has also been said to have helped many people cope with depression and anxiety as well as practicing small acts of self-love by doing things that help your body and soul (e.g. reading positive books, taking hot baths, taking walks, talking to a friend, starting a blog, writing your thoughts, drawing, cooking, cleaning, listening to uplifting music or positive talks on youtube, sleeping, keeping a mood journal or a diary, and spending time on caring for yourself). It's important to remember that with or without therapy or even loved ones, your life will get better and all you have to do is just take days one by one and stick around for the amazing moments that are sure to come your way. And even if you feel alone, you are not. Everything in life is temporary, even hardships. You can win this battle because it's not the end! xx :)

October 14th, 2016 9:49pm

Talk to people here on 7cups. That's what we're here for :).

October 19th, 2016 7:54pm

You could check out local support groups in your area that deal with life issues like " Celebrate Recovery "

October 21st, 2016 9:46am

A book called Boundaries really helped me understand how I was contributing to my own misery by not erecting and enforcing boundaries.

October 21st, 2016 7:16pm

First off, it seems like you're in the right place if you've found 7 Cups! We're a community of people who want to listen to and support each other, so you could try a one-on-one chat or group chat. There are also therapists available if you feel like you need professional help.

October 21st, 2016 8:56pm

find someone who can just listen to your issues so you can get to the root of the problem. Identify the feeling first and then look for that feeling in past events. Usually the first time this issue arised is the time that marked your following similar experiences so you need to find it. The journey is a bit hurtfull but a lot of thing reveal you true strengths and weaknesses.

October 22nd, 2016 9:01am

You could seek online related material to help you for example psych forums or psych central and similar try out some tests and quizzes to understand your current emotional or mental state better, or alternatively seek sites where online counselling is available for free. 7 cups of tea is a great site to offer users such an opportunity :)

October 26th, 2016 3:13am

Speak to a trusted adult or come on 7 CUPS and speak to listeners or a trusted adult................

November 2nd, 2016 1:13pm

Talking to listeners on 7 cups can really help! You might feel more understanded and less alone. I really recommend it.

November 3rd, 2016 7:12pm

Chat sites such as this can be very helpful by giving you an ear to talk to, but you might want to investigate an online therapy service, or a free hotline to start with.

November 16th, 2016 7:37pm

Even just talking to someone can help. Not everything needs a full, professional therapy session. Try finding someone you trust, and just spend time talking to them whenever possible.

December 8th, 2016 2:24pm

Try to talk with someone on 7cupsoftea, maybe a conversation would be something that helps you.

December 25th, 2016 5:10am

Focus on completing small things by yourself, allow yourself to feel pride over getting out of bed. As depression may make you inactive and codependency mayou make it worse, I think this would help. Don't force yourself to jump into the most important task and try not to stress over it. Focus on what you can do and have done.

December 28th, 2016 5:53am

Honestly talking to listeners helps a bunch, people who have been through similar experiences in chatrooms, even talking with family members or friends if you're not comfortable talking to a stranger. You can get into some healthy distractions as well. There are tons of alternatives to therapy. We're here whenever you need us

February 15th, 2017 10:27am

Look for free or low cost mental health services seek support groups try getting involved in more community things and stay busy and try to keep learn more about yourself passions ect

Recent Answers
February 16th, 2018 12:12am

You can reach out to us here on 7Cups! There's alot of great communities you can find online, within facebook, or twitter, anything of the sort to find company and support where you need it best. Some low-income therapy centers will also do pro-bono cases upon request, so it never hurts to ask if that's an opportunity available to you. :)

February 8th, 2018 12:19pm

Well, I'd first look at free programs you have access to. This is perhaps more helpful for students as most institutions have free counselling. If you don't have access to a free counselling service, then I would suggest finding listeners on 7 cups, very distinguished, highly rated and reviewed listeners.

February 8th, 2018 9:21am

Seek for support groups from your local church or red cross or whatever you may have nearby, and most of the time they're free of charge. You'll get support and advices from there

February 7th, 2018 10:27pm

You can talk to listeners here on 7cups! They are a free resource and if you find somebody you click with, they can help you work through it.

February 7th, 2018 5:28pm

You can always talk it out with your parents and seven cups is free! There should be other ways you can get therapy without paying if you search it up online.

February 4th, 2018 3:02am

Group therapy is another great option that may be more affordable for you. Consider self-help books. Reading daily affirmations. Practicing mindfulness techniques.

February 3rd, 2018 9:56pm

when you can't afford therapy there's always some helpful people to help you go through your struggling such as these nice people in 7 cups

February 2nd, 2018 1:34pm

If you are still in school i'm sure that there are many counselors there that can help you out. Just find one that you are comfortable with. In the meantime, try opening up to a friend or family member that you trust.

January 26th, 2018 10:44pm

Come to our site and talk with one of our listeners! Practicing proper coping mechanisms and focusing on research and bettering yourself can also help. Keep in mind that it will get better.

January 24th, 2018 2:46am

you can talk to various listeners here on 7 cups, and even get a long-term listener who will do more for you than just a short conversation. also, 7 cups offers therapy with real therapists that, if i'm not mistaken, you can get a 30 day free trial on. best of luck to you!

January 24th, 2018 12:25am

You can talk to some of our listeners that deal with depression here on 7 cups or you can join a group that experiences depression

January 3rd, 2018 3:18pm

Talk to any of the listeners on 7 cups! We are all here for you! We are all reliable and truthful :)

December 23rd, 2017 2:02am

Try some coping skills, i use deep breathing, yoga, writing, music, Talking to someone also really does help.

December 17th, 2017 12:04am

You can always reach out to your loved ones to talk about what's bothering you. It's very helpful to have someone who can listen to you. Additionally, here at 7 cups you can find many listeners whom are willing to hear you out, and walk you through it one step at a time.

December 14th, 2017 10:21pm

First thing is the support from your loved ones, family and friends. Look for your local support groups they don't charge. Your always welcomed here on 7cups to speak with any of the listeners. I have also learned that the first three sessions on 7cups are free then its $150.00 Monthly. Sometimes your local Department of Social Services (DSS) or Social Security Administration (SSA) Office can always help you get you in contact with services that are affordable for you and can fir your budget!

December 14th, 2017 1:47pm

That happens in many cases a person cannot afford therapy. But there are many organizations around the world which help depression patients free of cost. Based on your geographical location you can find them. You can also talk to listeners here. They are free of cost. You can go for reading. There are tons of books available for depression self help and codependency. I'm sure you can help yourself by all that.

December 14th, 2017 1:00am

Read about it, there are a lot of resources here on 7 cups and online in general. You can also talk to Listeners here or friends or connect with people who have been through this before.

December 5th, 2017 3:38am

the best help is the support and love of the people around you and you can always talk to us here on this site. I, personally would listen to you anytime you want.

November 24th, 2017 2:19am

Consult your doctor and see about medication or maybe speak to someone else going through the same things

November 16th, 2017 1:50pm

Come to 7cups to at least talk to a free therapist here. And maybe listeners in between therapy. Call any depression centres available to you and seek help through free centres and websites.

November 16th, 2017 6:57am

You can call a helpline, speak to someone near you or close to you or speak to me for assistance. i am here for you.

November 15th, 2017 6:30pm

First of all recognizing you need help is an important step and 7 Cups is a great(!) free way to get some.

November 15th, 2017 5:23am

Try to talk to a friend, talk to someone on here that you click with and are able to talk long-term instead of just in one sitting.

November 10th, 2017 6:38pm

Meditate and go for self therapy ..nobody could help a person better that himself..be strong and try to cheer yourself up..see what'd positive about your life and be thankful for that and decide that you won't live life in a messy condition further

September 1st, 2017 4:19pm

7 cups have volunteer trained listeners that can listen to your situation and give you some comfort.

August 30th, 2017 2:17pm

You can contact local codependency centers which sometimes offer free therapy (at least in my country) or crisis centers. You can also try negotiating with your insurance provider and see if they can pay for you. Otherwise, you may try online/email therapy that is cheaper than real-life one. There is also a chance some of your friends could be a therapist so you could ask them to support you.

August 19th, 2017 8:03pm

talk to your friends or family and tell them you need help or support in your time of need to be able to get better

August 19th, 2017 10:57am

Try the calming mindful exercises here on 7cups or self-help guides. Try to talk to your parents. friends or even a listener here to get support.

August 11th, 2017 9:22pm

You have done a positive thing by coming onto the site . We are all here to help . You are not alone. Here at 7cups of tea are some fantastic supportive people who are here for you

August 11th, 2017 6:36pm

Find your passion. Your vice, if you will. Often external life cannot bate the hellfire inside of us, because external life, as nice as it is, offers emptiness. Money and materials and alcohol and drugs never help. What I'm saying is, look inside yourself. Find your vice, be it writing or singing or painting or reading or knitting. Find something that when you perform it, it eases the pain. It is not as good as therapy, but four years later, and I'm still standing.