I feel sad a lot, unmotivated, and I often can't stop crying for many hours. But I sleep and eat decently and I also can smile or laugh sometimes. Am I depressed or just sad?

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July 19th, 2016 12:33am

You don't have to have all of the symptoms of depression in order to be diagnosed with it. Feeling sad, lack of motivation, and crying are some of the major signs of depression. But many people have depression and are able to smile and laugh. It is important to check with your doctor if you are concerned you may have depression.

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July 29th, 2016 11:59am

If you're generally running on low-energy levels, cannot feel enthusiasm for tasks/hobbies that you would generally enjoy and can't remember the last time you were truly happy or content then you might have depression. You probably should to ask a professional who can know more about your everyday behavior about your symptoms to give you a better answer. I've heard about a term called 'walking depression' which has the symptoms you are portraying. Depression can come in any form and for any reason or length of time. You may have only have mild depression but you can and should treat it. Sites like these also help a lot in that respect.

October 28th, 2016 4:40am

Author and public speaker Andrew Solomon describes the differences between sadness and depression very accurately in my opinion. He talks of grief, sadness, and depression, and the differences between these three similar feelings. If you have suffered some catastrophic loss (the death of a loved one, the death of a pet, a breakup, moving to another town, etc.) and you feel deeply sad about it, that feeling is grief. If, after a few months, you are still saddened by your loss, but you can still function in normal day-to-day life and still feel happy at times, then you are typically not depressed, and your grief will ultimately resolve itself given enough time. On the other hand, if after a few months of your loss, you are overwhelmed by feelings of hopelessness, despair, and crippling sadness--so much so that it feels like a struggle just to get through your days--then you are probably experiencing depression that was triggered by your catastrophic loss. I really like this way of thinking that Andrew Solomon presents. It is totally normal to be sad, unmotivated, and alone sometimes. Even crying for long periods of time is normal--often this just means that you're a sensitive person with a big heart. But if such sadness is affecting you in such a way as to negatively impact all aspects of your life, then your sadness may be depression. I understand how hard it can be to distinguish the differences between sadness and depression. In everyday language, we tend to use the word "depressed" to describe both a boy that didn't get the toy he wanted on his birthday, and a girl moments before she takes her own life. Granted, these two feelings are related in a way, but they are related rather distantly. It's comparable to the difference between a house with an iron fence that occasionally gathers some rust that the owner has to polish away every now and then, and a house with an iron fence that is left to completely rust over the duration of many decades, such that the fence looks almost nothing like it once was.

July 21st, 2016 2:16am

I'd say you're depressed, but you shouldn't take an opinion from me, you should go to a doctor. Depression has different symptoms for everyone. Yours may be mild, but it still looks like it's there.

August 21st, 2016 7:09pm

Being depressed doesn't always mean that you can't feel good sometimes or have a heavy influence on sleeping and eating. These are just symptoms. You might eat more when you're depressed or not eat at all. You might sleep even more than you used to when you're depressed or you might turn into an insomniac. What your description is (sad, unmotivated and crying) can definitely be depression and probably is. Depression may or may not cause any change in your diet or sleeping habits. In fact. some people can be internally depressed while following their normal cycle everyday, so it's more of what happens on the inside than outside.

July 22nd, 2016 4:38am

You have either depression, or bipolar depression. If you need someone to talk to, send me a personalized request! I'd love to help you.

July 22nd, 2016 1:47pm

You can sleep and laugh you are happy just don't make your brain feel that you are sad thats what i see just try to feel the happiness it will come for you

July 23rd, 2016 2:04am

Depression comes in many forms and change from time to time - its difficult to say you are a depressed or sad without a professional's opinion. You can depressed and still feel joy at times. Everyone has their own unique experiences of depression

July 23rd, 2016 2:16pm

Depression isn't an all or nothing thing. It's common for depressed people to feel okay for certain periods. You can rate your mood on a scale of one to ten, with 10 being the best you've ever felt, and one being the worst you can imagine feeling. If you spend a significant amount of time around, say, 5, and your okay periods are less than 9, then it sounds like you're depressed. In any case, there's nothing wrong with seeing someone to get evaluated.

July 24th, 2016 10:01pm

It's difficult to answer your question. I'm sorry you feel that way. The best person who can advise you is a GP or medical professional. If you need someone to talk to; please do not hesitate to speak to a listener in the meantime.

July 27th, 2016 4:19pm

Wether your depressed or sad usually has to do with how long you've been feeling this way. If your thinking you might be depressed, I urge you to go see your doctor, so that they can properly diagnose you.

July 31st, 2016 2:25pm

It really doesn't matter if you call it depression or not. What matters is if it is a problem in your life. Do you struggle most days? Is it imparing your everyday life? Than you have a problem. We can't diagnose you trough the computer but if it is imparing your everyday life and/or you have it most days and it's troubling you. Than you should seek help. What it's called doesn't really matter but depression isn't excluded

September 8th, 2016 6:33am

I cannot give a solid diagnosis, but you're sounding more sad than depressed. Although, you do sound like you get upset very easy and it may be worthwhile to go and see your local doctor.

July 21st, 2016 2:48am

well think of it like this depression is a genetic disorder and symptoms may appear at an stage in life. i used to have the same issues but they soon passed so maybe you are just sad.

July 24th, 2016 11:18pm

You are you, and that's okay. Labels are exhausting, so why place them upon yourself? As long as you're healthy and unharmed, you're okay. Setting positive goals is a great way to try and motivate yourself.

July 28th, 2016 3:14pm

Can be either. Depression manifests itself in many different forms and its symptoms may change by the individuals personality.

July 29th, 2016 7:36pm

Depression comes with all different symptoms, so it's important to go see a doctor for a true diagnosis. Taking quizzes online could maybe sway you into considering seeing a doctor but will not give you a full diagnosis.

July 30th, 2016 10:23am

i think you are just sad because if you would be depressed you couldnt laugh or smile and sleeping well or eat decently.

July 31st, 2016 11:17am

Depression is more of continual sadness, one which the person feels trapped. Depression is usually an extended diagnosis of a set period of weeks. Depression doesn't mean you will be deprived of sleep, nor does it mean you can't laugh. I hope this helps you, good luck.

July 31st, 2016 10:10pm

It depends. If you've been feeling this way for a long time (More than a week) and it isn't in result to a tragic event, you're depressed. If you are sad over a breakup. death, or other uncomfortable change, you're sad. Many depressed people can't seem to find out why they're sad. There's usually no reason...just a chemical imbalance in the brain. Depression is a disease, sadness is a feeling.

August 4th, 2016 6:13pm

Feeling sad so much of the time, unmotivated and crying for many hours continuously are characteristic of depression. Depressed people are not just sad all the time 24/7. Depending on your experience, you may still sleep, eat, smile and laugh.

August 4th, 2016 9:57pm

You can just be sad if you experienced a traumatic event. However, if its interfering with your everyday life, there might be a bit more than just sadness. It is always best to consult with a therapist.

August 5th, 2016 1:51am

There is a wide spectrum of depression. Perhaps you are depressed or perhaps it's the natural progression of feelings throughout your day based on the events that are occurring in your life. If you truly suspect depression ask to be accessed by your doctor. It is a neurological disorder.

August 5th, 2016 11:30pm

being depressed can be shown in different ways. what you're explaining is depression. feeling unmotivated basically gives it away and the crying for many hours. but you wont know. it depends on if you've been constantly feeling this way for 2 weeks or more or not

August 6th, 2016 9:34pm

It's neither depression or sadness. It's a peaceful truce between the heart and the soul that learn how to move forward by each other' assistance.

August 6th, 2016 9:55pm

It's hard to say without a doctor talking to you but you do have the symptoms, just because you laugh and smile doesn't mean it's not a possibility

August 7th, 2016 6:36am

Depression affects different people in different ways. Just because you sleep and eat well doesn't mean you can't have depression. A question you might want to ask yourself is if there is a particular cause you can identify as the cause of your sadness? You may also want to consider talking to a doctor or psychiatrist to be completely sure. If not there are plenty of screening tests that can help you can a better idea!

August 10th, 2016 1:57pm

Feeling overwhelmed with sadness and unmotivated also constant crying is definitely a sign of depression. People with depression still laugh, smile and even enjoy themselves for a small amount of times but unfortunately it will always fall back into the same patterns of sadness, crying and feeling unmotivated. I suggest you see your GP and sit down and have a 1 on 1 about the ways you are feeling. It's better to get it under control before it gets too hard to handle the situations. Take care.

August 12th, 2016 7:18am

Depends on how long this has been going on. If this has been going on for a couple weeks you may be depressed

August 12th, 2016 8:45am

It sounds more like hormones than depression or sadness.Hormones are present throughout life and are natural.

August 12th, 2016 2:33pm

You are probably sad over something you lost or some experience that hurted you better talk to someone who would listen carefully & try to help you later on you will go back to your normal life whenever it's resolved

August 17th, 2016 1:12am

you are mostly sad, there is a certain reason that makes you cry that way, you should just try to dig into the deep you to figure it out so you can solve it. Good luck.

August 19th, 2016 3:37pm

Honestly, I feel this way sometimes, you are not depressed just passing through a sad phase of something you keep recalling.

August 26th, 2016 9:59am

I think you are depressed but not in a serious level of depression. You still can cover it with smile and it just so cool :)

August 26th, 2016 3:51pm

It sounds like you may be depressed. Only you know for sure, of course. Seeking professional counseling could be very beneficial.

August 27th, 2016 8:23pm

Generally if you've been feeling like this for over a couple months its likely to be depression, crying for hours at a time does make me think you may need to speak to someone to talk through whats upsetting you.

August 31st, 2016 11:24am

I can't answer that exact considering in not a professional,I recommend you maybe get tested by a doctor to know for sure x

September 1st, 2016 6:35pm

This could very well be depression. As someone who has experienced depression, you learn to hide it from yourself and from others. Although you can smile and laugh, eat, sleep, these are all "in the moment" feelings. However you can overall be depressed. This can be hard to understand and explain but its best seen as depression as it is a continuous cycle.

September 1st, 2016 9:03pm

This is hard to tell. Seeing a psychiatrist and performing tests to determine whether you have depression is probably the safest route.

September 1st, 2016 10:24pm

It's often difficult to self-diagnose, which is why it's important to see a health professional if you feel you may be putting yourself or others at risk. Let's look at this question logically. Let's say that I assert that you are definitely not depressed. Would that change how you feel? No, it probably wouldn't stop you from feeling sad and unmotivated. However, what if I said you were? Would that change how you feel? No, it probably wouldn't either. Having a name to your feelings may provide temporary relief, but it is not something that will fix anything. For this reason, if you need help then I would suggest opening up to those who may be able to provide comfort. Friends and family may be one resource. A professional, however, will always be the most expert source.

September 7th, 2016 7:10pm

Many people suffer different levels of depression. Everybody goes through difficult times, it's important to remember how normal this is

September 8th, 2016 12:16pm

Depression can present in many ways and it will present differently for every person who develops it. The best course of action if you feel these things are impacting you is to see a professional who can help you come up with a plan to deal with these things, or refer you to someone who can help.

September 9th, 2016 9:12am

There are many different kinds of depression. It can come and go, you can feel perfectly normal a lot of the time. If you're feeling sad and unmotivated and this is a recurring feeling, you should seek help from a counselor or therapist. They'll help you figure out what's best for you.

September 10th, 2016 7:59am

try to do something new in your life.like help someone,talk to trusted someone , re plan your life.i think you have alot to do

September 14th, 2016 5:36am

Depression comes in many forms. Just because you're not sad 24/7 doesn't mean you're not depressed.

September 15th, 2016 10:19am

It depends. Depression is not limited to just decreased appetite or crying. If you feel 'empty' and lonely all the time. Also, if nothing is meaningful for you anymore, plus all this disturbs your daily functioning for 2 or more than 2 weeks then you should seek professional advice.

September 17th, 2016 10:13pm

If you feel sad, it goes away after a day or two and you feel like your normal self again. If you're depressed, the feeling of sadness continues for weeks or even months and it can be accompanied by low self-esteem and energy, difficulty remembering or concentrating on things and suicidal thoughts to name a few

September 23rd, 2016 5:22pm

It is great that you have identified the behavior. It might be a good idea to step back and try identifying anything that might be making you feel this way. Maybe you are stressed because of school or work. Maybe something hasn't been working out the way you wanted it to. If you can't pinpoint anything that is making you feel this way, maybe talk to someone (7cups listeners) and that can help clear things up.

September 28th, 2016 8:35pm

depression feels like empty and numbness, not feeling like doing things you love to do, wanting to sleep all day, wanting to harm your body feeliing worthless

September 30th, 2016 7:46pm

You are sad. You need to pamper yourself. Love yourself. Take care of yourself. Do things that make you happy.

October 1st, 2016 3:34pm

Think of depression like an unwanted visitor. It is not always there, when it's not there you can still manage to laugh along and smile to other people like you're perfectly fine but when it comes to visit you, that is where everything seems to break down.

October 1st, 2016 9:54pm

You may be feeling sad and low at this time, from my own experience - during bouts of depression, the person can't find one thing to smile about and feels nothing to look forward to.

October 7th, 2016 7:09am

You might have a mild case of depression but mild does not mean less serious. Contact a doctor and seek help. It wont make you weird or less amazing. Over half the population deals with depression.

October 7th, 2016 5:24pm

It could be bipolar depression. I've struggled with this for quite awhile. It gets easier and you can get through it

October 7th, 2016 5:37pm

it is probably both. It could be like times in my life when this happens and I am just low or depressed and at other times I am able to see some hope.

October 7th, 2016 7:52pm

You should seek trained professionals for help on this subject, however in my own opinion, a lot of these signs seem to show as symptoms of depression.

October 8th, 2016 11:12pm

You may just be going through a bout of sadness, or you may have a serious problem. Just because you can smile or laugh sometimes does not make your problem invalid. Also just because you sleep and eat does not make it invalid. If you need any support do not hesitate to contact me

October 11th, 2016 1:40pm

No one can diagnose you as depressed other than a doctor. However, apathy, lack of motivation, and extended periods of sadness can be indicators of depression. I recommend going to see a doctor if this lasts longer than two weeks to get a professional opinion and hopefully some help.

October 12th, 2016 5:18pm

its hard to know if you're clinically depressed without an official diagnosis. it could be depression; just because you smile and are happy sometimes doesn't mean you don't have depression.

October 16th, 2016 10:48pm

Depression isn't necessarily a constant thing so it's entirely possible you are depressed. Everyone depression looks different. I'd recommend you consider seeing a therapist or psychiatrist to figure out if you need help

Recent Answers
September 14th, 2017 4:39am

You may be in a bit of a middle ground of sadness and depression. This case sounds more like sadness because of the fact that there is more crying involved. Some people who are depressed feel like they cant cry.

August 19th, 2017 5:04pm

If you think you may be depressed it would be best to see a professional about it as I am not trained to make that diagnosis. However, feeling sad, unmotivated and crying a lot are signs of depression, and someone with depression can still smile, laugh, sleep and eat. It affects everyone differently and people cope in different ways. If in doubt, it is best to speak to someone about it! :)

August 19th, 2017 11:02am

Consider to see a professional that can determine if you are depressed or not and advice a good treatment.

August 10th, 2017 4:00pm

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August 5th, 2017 1:09am

The fact that these feelings do affect your life and cause you distress is enough to cause concern, even if you can still do some things normally. You can still have good days and happy feelings even while depressed. What makes depression significant is that your negative feelings become overwhelming, whereas sadness is a passing emotion.

July 21st, 2017 8:24pm

I'm not a specialist so I can't diagnose much, however it could be the beginning of it. Everyone has a different experience with depression. Physical symptoms are just a part of it but emotional symptoms count for a lot too. If you think it's impacting your daily life then get evaluated by a psychologist ASAP. It's better to treat the problem before it gets worse, that applies to ALL illnesses and especially mental illnesses. Some other things you can do is try taking a break, focusing on improving your diet and exercise, working on things that you enjoy or used to enjoy. Travelling or spending time with friends. Goodluck and I hope you feel better!

June 14th, 2017 8:52am

I can not diagnose you, but if you are concerned about your emotional wellbeing you can always seek out a licensed psychologist or psychiatrist who can provide a diagnosis.

May 24th, 2017 7:21am

Depression affects everyone differently. Not everyone gets all the symptoms. In fact you often found the people that are depressed are the ones that do smile and laugh. Whenever I first realised what I was feeling was depression I was sleeping all the time as opposed to not sleeping. Perhaps go to a GP and discuss how you're feeling and see if they can give you a dignosis

May 15th, 2017 11:23am

You are showing some of the major symptoms of depression and people who are depressed often do smile and laugh but do not mean it fully. I have gone through what you have and it is really aggravating not knowing what you're dealing with. I think the best thing to do would be to get diagnosed by your doctor

May 13th, 2017 10:55pm

It sounds like you are depressed to me. Sometimes people with depression don't feel all the symptoms of depression, just some..which is why you are sleeping and eating but struggling in other areas. I would strongly suggest seeking professional help if you are feeling so down that you cry for long periods of time and are always sad. Help is out there.

May 12th, 2017 4:21pm

I don't think depression is just a label you can put whenever you feel down. Depression can be a constant feeling of emptiness but it can also hit at the most random times, like when you're with friends and you're halfway through a laugh and you just stop. Depression is personal for everybody and can be experienced differently for anybody.

May 5th, 2017 11:58pm

You are depressed. Depression is more than just sadness. It feels like you have this horrible weight on your chest and your mind is racing. You just want to cry for no exact reason. I have depression, and I know what it feels like. Even if we don't all have the same symptoms or thoughts while we are depressed, it still is horrible for all of us. I hope you get better soon, love.

April 28th, 2017 6:11pm

You seem to have symptoms of depression. Depression doesn't mean you cannot laugh or smile. It's a state of being and often prohibits your ability to motivate yourself independently. What may be causing you to cry or feel sad? Reflecting on what may be causing this sadness by writing your feelings in a journal or speaking to a professional or friend may help you come to terms with your emotions and move forward from there.

April 23rd, 2017 7:26pm

It's likely that you are just sad. But the terms is not the issue here. If you're feeling sad and unmotivated, we need to look into ourselves and understand why that is. Understanding the reasons is the first step towards fixing a problem. Sometimes it's an event or a person that makes you sad, other times it's a compilation of many situations that happen in the past. Now that you have a slight idea of why you're feeling the way you did, we need to look into what we can do to improve or get rid of your negative feelings/thoughts. It can be direct actions to fix the problems or it can simply be ways to self-care such as yoga, meditation, shopping, hanging out with friends, music therapy, etc. Whatever it is finding someone you can trust and is supportive to talk about it is really helpful in my case.

April 21st, 2017 5:27pm

Depression comes in all shapes and forms. If this feeling has lasted more than 2 years it is almost safe to say it could be depression. Also it would be good to take into account things that might possibly occured in your life leading up to you feeling this way. For your best interest, if you think you possibly have depression, I would get a test done to be sure of it.

April 9th, 2017 3:40pm

It is best to see a doctor if these moods are concerning you. As we are not doctors, there is no way for us to determine whether it is merely sadness, or depression, ensure you let someone you trust know about how you are feeling as well in case youd like someone to go with you to the doctors appointment, remember you are not alone

March 29th, 2017 1:34pm

This generally depends on how consistent those feelings are. Do you feel this most of the time? How intensely? According to the psychiatrist, who gave me my medication, even if I eat and sleep decently and can be happy sometimes, the underlying emotion is still sadness, and I still dragged myself through the day. I was diagnosed with depression. However, as I've said before, whether you're depressed or feeling sad, it doesn't matter. Either way, you should help yourself and get support from friends and family. If this works out, but you go back to being unmotivated and sad, you should probably seek professional help.

March 15th, 2017 2:35pm

It depends on how long you've been feeling this way. If it has been for more than 2 weeks, you may be depressed. Just because you have normal eating and sleeping habits doesn't mean you're not depressed. Go see a doctor if you are very concerned, medication and professional therapy can help with the sadness and motivation.

March 8th, 2017 2:30pm

There are a lot of factors to consider. But imo, when this feeling of being unmotivated and sad goes on for more than weeks or even months, to the point where it destroys your life, it definitely warrant a serious consideration for treatment (be it by medication or changing in lifestyle or counselling)

March 7th, 2017 1:43pm

Being sad and depressed are two different things. You know yourself better than anyone else. You are your own expert. You don't need someone to diagnose you with something to be sure that's what you are. I'm not saying that's what you're looking for just kind of thinking aloud. Anyway, sleeping and eating fine is good at least. Try and notice of those habits start to change such as: being able to fall asleep, but not stay asleep, oversleeping too much, eating habits changing, eating very little during the day and self-gorging in the evening, as well as eating disorders. Just keep an eye on your habits and your physical representation and actions. How much work do you do voluntarily? How much thinking about random things do you do? You are the only one that can determine if you are depressed or not.

February 24th, 2017 7:56pm

You might be depressed. Depression isn't always constant. You might want to talk to a therapist about how you feel.

February 23rd, 2017 4:29am

That is a difficult question because depression is different for everyone. For me I shut down and was very withdrawn for many months, and still have draw backs to this day. This may be depression, lack of interest in things that used to bring you joy and constant down feelings are signs of depression. Try something new, see if that brings feeling and joy back into your life.

February 19th, 2017 11:22pm

Feeling sad can be a common emotion. However feeling sad a lot of the time can mean something is troubling you. Signs of depression show sadness also loss of appetite. However feeling sad and crying for hours can also be a symptom. I used to cry for hours and I was very unsure of whether I had to depression or I was just sad. There is a lot of information you can find online to see. If you are feeling worthless or sucicidal the chances are you are suffering from a form of depression. If you are, see a doctor or your GP as soon as possible to give you specific advice.

December 25th, 2016 11:06pm

Any depressed person can sleep and eat decently and smile and laugh. Just because someone is depressed doesn't mean they cannot do these things and many more things normally. The symptoms you are describing are symptoms of depression and you should definitely see a health care provider if you are concerned. They can help you figure out this answer. Good luck!

December 16th, 2016 5:51pm

I think you're just sad. I sometimes feel that way too when various things in life aren't going my way. I get stuck in a state of mind that makes me see things negatively. Try to focus on what is going right and know that your perspective can change.

December 9th, 2016 4:03am

Even depressed people can still feel positive emotions. It just doesn't seem to last. Or provide the comfort it used to. Only a professional can really diagnose depression, but you know what your normal is, and if this is it, it might be time to get some help.

December 2nd, 2016 9:43am

Sadness is periodic. That means you usually are happy and respond in sadness only in situations that provoke a reaction like that. Depression is the overhanging sadness that is always above you. You can sometimes look out from that shadow (laughing smiling), but the shadow is still there.

November 12th, 2016 1:29am

Sometimes sadness and lack of motivation can come from other causes. For instance sadness can be situational, and if you address the situation the best you can, or disengage from harmful situations, the sadness will be lessened (although slowly). Sometimes we need to find things we love - volunteering, hobbies, reading, journalling, or just walking with music in or enjoying a cup of tea to motivate us. Having a void of things we enjoy can cause us to feel at a loss. But if sadness and lack of motivation are chronic, and you're in a reasonably healthy environment and try to engage, than yes - this sounds like depression and therapy, workbooks, talking to social supports, medication, or talk therapy may be useful. Book an appointment with you doctor!

November 4th, 2016 3:32pm

You sound like you are depressed, try talking to friends/family/your doctor/your therapist, you will get better, good luck!

November 4th, 2016 1:57am

Well, there are lots of different types of depression. One is dysthymia. Dysthymia is a milder form of depression, it lasts usually around two years, and fluctuates. Don't be worried even if it is depression-- depression can be beat with support, love, and a listening ear.