My anxiety is getting worse and depression won't let me live my life, how do I overcome this?

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Last Updated: 04/19/2018 at 7:37pm
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kaitykait
July 19th, 2016 6:34am
There's many things you can start by seeing a therapist and even working here on 7Cups, but it's important to start with this statement. Every morning when you wake up, look in your mirror and say, "My depression and anxiety is not who I am. My depression and anxiety is only temporary and I will overcome this. I will not let my depression and anxiety define me. I am allowed to feel sad and anxious, but I will not feel this way forever." If you say that to yourself three times a day for a week, you might already start seeing results!
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ruedabega13
April 19th, 2018 7:37pm
I would really suggest going to a psychologist or psychiatrist! It really helped lessen my debilitating depression and anxiety.

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ParasolGirl
August 5th, 2016 11:45pm
I've been dealing with depression for almost eight years, so I know how difficult it is to overcome. In general, taking a good combination of medications and finding a talk therapist whom I really connect with have been key to my feeling better, though it took me a long time to find the right medications and therapist. Having some idea of the root of your anxiety and meditation may help you find a therapist who is a good fit for you; many therapists have short biographies posted on Psychology Today, so that is a good place to start. If you can't or don't feel you want to seek professional help at this time, there are also things you can do to ease the negative feelings, such as practicing mindfulness and meditation. I initially thought meditation wasn't for me, but then I discovered the buddhify app, which has a great variety of meditations for different situations, and it's really starting to click for me. If you find that a certain meditation app or speaker isn't helping you, you can always try another one, because you are unique and what works for other people might not work for you. I also suggest making a list of comfort activities -- small, easy things you can do that may help you feel better in the moment, such as making a cup of tea or coloring in a coloring book. I also suggest eliminating social media as much as possible. I found that Facebook was actually worsening my depression, and I feel a lot better when I restrict myself from using it. Finally, joining a support group, either online or in real life, may help, because you hear a number of different perspectives and may have a greater chance of hearing something that works for you. Overcoming anxiety and depression is not easy, and for most people, there is no "magic bullet" that will fix it, but starting to take small steps, along with getting the proper support, will point you in the right direction. Best of luck to you.
RayofHope
April 23rd, 2018 7:07pm
Looking for answers on the internet...we've all been there. I just want you to know you don't have to figure this out on your own. I know this might not be something you want to discuss with your friends or family, but if you join this site you can get free, anonymous support from trained listeners and a huge support community. Nobody is here to judge.
Anonymous
July 21st, 2016 10:32pm
If certain emotions begain to take over your life you should seek medical help. We all have these emotions but when they get out of hand it can be dangerous
HazelGreenEyez
September 4th, 2016 10:16pm
Fill your schedule with things you like to do and social events with friends and family. This will help distract yourself from the negative thoughts and possible loneliness that are causing the depression and soothe your anxiety by doing something positive and even relaxing.
Anonymous
August 5th, 2016 2:04am
Have you considered a psychologist, or maybe even a psychiatrist. Some people need medication to reduce anxiety and depression, and that is perfectly okay. You can also eat a healthy diet, and exercise.
caringCaramel
August 24th, 2016 7:39pm
You are depressed ? Depression is a state of mind where you don't want to do anything and anxiety is a feeling of something with unknown outcome !! Best solution to of them at the same time - DO THE THINGS YOU *FEAR*.... The feeling of happiness you get when You do something you fear is very immense... This kills your anxiety and pulls you out of the depression..
Anonymous
July 30th, 2016 3:54am
You overcome your depression by first going to see an counselor and psychiatrist. You can get therapy and talk about what's on your mind and the psychiatrist can prescribe you medications. You can also take deep breaths, write in journals, listen to soft music, pray and meditate to help you with the process of healing.
Tiffany88
August 5th, 2016 1:54am
Visit with a therapist. Start making short term goals that you can accomplish. Whenever you accomplish what you've set out to do give yourself recognition. Set long term goals and work towards them at a realistic pace.
Sparklies
August 7th, 2016 11:38pm
Recovery can be a very slow and almost painful process, and it involves taking so many steps and making so many life changes. It would be wrong of me to say what you should do, but there's many resources and self-help guides on here and around the internet so that you can put together ways to help you cope and eventually get better :)
Anonymous
September 14th, 2016 3:24pm
everyday try and find ten positive things that you have noticed, or done yourself. this worked for me
Anonymous
July 26th, 2016 11:22pm
If it's that bad try talking to your doctor and get medication, or talk to a thearapist and get help from your own space. Whatever you do, it will be okay in the end. I promise
plantkissed
August 27th, 2016 3:57am
Depression and anxiety are really difficult to deal with and are things I continue to struggle with. I know that finding a therapist I trusted and could open up to really helped, and she was able to help me find a psychiatrist who evaluated me for meds. Those made it more manageable, but doing things I really enjoyed made me feel better as well, especially getting outdoors to do things like hike. I wish you the very best and hope this helps!
Anonymous
September 17th, 2016 5:28pm
Breath and relax. Do some meditation like yoga and push ourself to do outside activites like jogging or even just smilling at neighbour. It can rebuild our self esteem
TrendingUpwards
November 22nd, 2016 1:53am
I always find that breaking everything down into little steps is very important. Depression can be so overwhelming, and anxiety that sometimes we just shut down all together at the thought of having to 'live normally' give yourself time. Take baby steps. Start by getting in the shower, taking care of yourself a little more. Even if it just means putting moisturiser on, and having a good look at yourself in the mirror. Write something down every day that you are grateful for, try and go for a walk each day. When you feel bouts of anxiety, remember to breathe. I think the only way to start to overcome these two really difficult conditions is to have compassion towards yourself. Treat yourself like a friend, heal yourself. Beating yourself up about it will have the opposite affect. you don't have to love yourself yet, but have sympathy and care for yourself, thats the only way forward.
KittenLove
July 31st, 2016 6:43am
I take one day at a time while I try to take a hold of what that is causing me to feel that way, before I then take one step forward for each time I am able to move forwards.
ThatsCherry
September 10th, 2016 3:11pm
Talking to someone helps always. But also doing something with your friends / family or listening to music is nice.
healingPup26
October 14th, 2016 4:26pm
preofessional help. it wont work right away, and you need to find the right things that help you. start with family doctor or counselor, then go from there.
Nasrz8
September 16th, 2017 2:59pm
This happens because you allow your mind to have the energy to think negatively about everything that can cause your status. to overcome this, you should start distracting your mind into something you've never done before. like Traveling, exercising, learning new language/hobby.
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KindaKate88
April 7th, 2018 6:53pm
Well logic the rapper says that the mind controls the body, a change in mindset is helpful I believe. But he also said by accepting yourself you can learn to overcome or live with anxiety. Song is called anziety if your interested.
Anonymous
March 30th, 2018 4:58pm
See if you wanna overcome it... You should try getting into some self help stuff which might help you... Like reading self help books on emotional intelligence ....there are also many youtube channels like Actualized.org which might help... It's gonna be a long journey some days you also might feel like giving up but don't because at the end it's gonna be worth the struggle... Hope it helps you.... All The Best on your journey
scoobydoobydont
March 30th, 2018 4:17am
Learn how to tell the difference between healthy and unhealthy thoughts. Come up with a way to negate those unhealthy thoughts and turn them into neutral thoughts or better yet positive ones. I know it's hard but try your best to do three things everyday, for example cook a meal, do dishes, go to the grocery store. Small accomplishments are important. Happiness may not be in your reached but we can at least distract ourselves from sadness and try to feel like a person again.
debojyoti012
March 25th, 2018 5:45pm
Anxiety is a healthy and normal emotion that everyone feels from time to time. Anxiety can, however, manifest to a mental disorder that reduces your capacity to cope with these feelings of anxiety. When trying to overcome anxiety you should not try to eliminate your feelings of anxiety but should aim to develop your coping mechanisms when you do feel anxiety. Having the ability to cope with anxious thought is the key to overcoming anxiety.
Kaceface
March 24th, 2018 12:45am
Anxiety and depression are two very difficult illnesses to overcome. You are an amazing and strong human being and you have the power to overcome situations just as well as anyone else. You can begin to tackle it by exercising safe ways to express yourself. Begin to use your favorite interests as an outlet, and perhaps try journaling or saying out loud to yourself how you feel. This is completely normal to feel a roadblock by depression and anxiety. However, do not let it consume you entirely. Take a deep breath, get outside of the house, and do the great, healthy things that make you feel alive so that you can stand strongly knowing you're still making it. Stay strong!
ThinkingTiger
March 8th, 2018 3:03pm
You can fight the depression, either by applying positive pressure on yourself, in form of excersize, meditation, change of scenery, creative outlets or anything that makes you happy. The anxiety cannot be fought in a traditional way, as its like sinking in quicksand, here you need to meditate, expose yourself to the anxiety and learn to deal with it. You can also try to locate the root of the depression or anxiety, and deal with that direct on, though if the root is something thats not present, or something thats undealwithable, you have to tackle it differently.
Engineeringhappiness
March 8th, 2018 10:57am
focus on what makes you happy. you can do this! i believe in you! talk to someone and seek help. we are here to help.
ItsMichelle
March 4th, 2018 4:40am
If you're anxiety is getting worse and depression is holding you back at the same time, you can look for a friend or family member who can support you through this and provide necessary resources if you are in need of it and doing breathing excerises can ease your anxiety a bit too.
Anonymous
February 12th, 2018 6:55pm
I hope you are in a position where you can get help from a professional and maybe a small group of supportive friends and family. It's hard to give the right answers when you don't know the person specific situation but that is okay you don't have to say. I have been going through the same thing and I can't afford to see a therapist, I do have my faith which help sometimes but I must admit its not a remedy yet. I think venting always help me, write down all your anxieties and fears and what may be going on in your life that may lead to your depression or made it worst.
MeganL91
February 7th, 2018 9:08pm
It would be a good idea to speak to a professional therapist or doctor if you have not already. With proper psychotherapy (and possibly medication as well), you should be able to live a fulfilling and happy life.
PosiPotato
February 4th, 2018 12:33am
Step by step. 7 cups can help. Share your feelings with a trusting loved one (friend, teacher, mentor, family member, etc). Have you ever considered therapy?
neonJas7172
December 17th, 2017 7:07am
I'm sorry to hear that you are dealing with anxiety and depression. I can relate. It's best to seek professional help with overcoming and managing these things. I am here to empathize and listen though!
ifyouknowtocountcountwithme
December 6th, 2017 2:11pm
I would recommend to reach for help. I know this can be hard. But if you feel hopeless and demotivated I think it's the best to do. In this cases sounds like you are in a crisis.
Anonymous
November 29th, 2017 3:56pm
Depression and anxiety can be such a difficult hurdle in life for many people; it's draining! Unfortunately, there is no magic we can do to cure anxiety or depression in one day. The best we can do is find things that we can do for self-care. (ie. art, music, exercise, meditation, making sure you take care of your hygiene.) Taking the time to recognize when you're feeling anxious and/or depressed is a step in the right direction, and using your coping skills when you feel this way is very brave.
Anonymous
November 25th, 2017 5:37am
Anxiety and depression can be really exhausting at times. There are always listeners on 7 cups, as well as professionals to reach out to. Do not be afraid to ask for help!
Anonymous
November 22nd, 2017 4:19pm
You need to talk to a professional. You need help and you deserve to feel happy and worthy. Getting help will ensure that you are getting the best treatment.
Anonymous
November 19th, 2017 12:36am
think, doesn't matter how many times you fuss over something, or cry, or watch funny videos to make yourself feel better for the moment, the time doesn't stop for you. things that get me carried on in life is, do i want to continue feeling this way, while time passes by? or feel better and spend time with others.
latticinio
November 16th, 2017 3:42pm
I suggest talking to someone like a therapist or counselor to help you. There's just so much we can do until we feel it's time for you to speak to a trained professional.
loveyourself11
November 10th, 2017 7:22pm
Make sure to develop new techniques to help you overcome your anxiety. Remember deep breathing and to stay positive.
life30
November 10th, 2017 6:36pm
Firstly you need to open up your mind regarding depression n all... That its also like a fever ...for that medical help is required .but you also have to support yourself..and your loved ones play an important role in it..and everybody face such situation for at least once in life..so its ok...we just need help..and everything will be back to normal
Calmseas76
October 27th, 2017 10:36am
I have found that depression and anxiety are most manageable with therapy, medications, strong social support and light exercise. Walking gives me energy, a boost in mood and distraction from the mental chatter or rumination. We really need sunlight. We are not meant to be indoors and sedentary all the time. Healthy food, such as fresh fruits, vegetables and proteins, are important. Depression is an inflammatory disease, so eating lots of sugars and carbohydrates worsens inflammation and leads to unstable blood sugar, which affects mood. I also feel sluggish when I eat fatty fast food. For me, social support is critical. I need people to talk to for support and I need enjoyable activities. Medication helps with sleep and mood regulation and therapy helps with developing coping skills. Therapy also helps with identifying feelings, issues and cognitive distortions. It’s like retraining the brain how to think! Anyway, these are the things that help me, and things I have found to be most helpful to others too.
Anonymous
October 21st, 2017 7:19pm
Have you tried some alternative medicine? Such as ayurvedic or any other eastern one? Have you considered acupunture? Or binaural beats? I encourage you to do some research on these and eat a healthy (organic when possible) diet and exercise. Did you lnow exercise can reduce depression sometimes to a great extent? And last but not least, support is sometimes more helpful than any medicine!:)
Anonymous
October 19th, 2017 1:51pm
It is a little hard to say, but I have found going outside all. the. time. helps tremendously. Not where there are people, mind you, but anywhere with trees and a good amount of space. Anxiety gives me the feeling of being crowded/smothered, so going where there is space to roam helps me. Depression's a tad more difficult for me. Going outside during the night seems to help, moving around in general helps. Maybe try writing out the good things that have happened, even if they're tiny, tiny things, like seeing a puppy, eating a favorite meal, noticing a teensy flower. To paraphrase, look for the good, and accept the bad
Anonymous
October 14th, 2017 10:30pm
Whenever I feel depressed, I take time to take care of myself. It is ok to feel depressed, now and then. Let yourself feel it. But after feeling it for a little bit, be sure to reinforce, in your mind, anything that you have to feel thankful for. Gratitude for the big and little things in life are key to helping you get through depression. Anxiety is a different animal. It is best to not let yourself dwell in anxiety for any length of time. The attitude of gratitude can help with anxiety, too, but I have found it more helpful to talk to somebody to most effectively squash this feeling before it snowballs. Talking things over with somebody is never a mistake.
hearthugger47
September 24th, 2017 11:18am
Talk about it, I know it is really hard, but there are people out there that will listen to you. You can also ask a friend, brother or sister to just sit, stand or walk next to you, that can also help, somebody just being there for you
Anonymous
September 1st, 2017 7:16am
Have you tried consulting a professional regarding the difficult times you're facing on your own now?
Ruek
August 10th, 2017 9:23am
I think the best thing is to seek professional help. There are so many great therapists and counselors who will help you go through this challenging time. Best of luck.
Anonymous
July 20th, 2017 2:02pm
Manage your anxiety, manage your life! Anxiety often takes away the enjoyment of life (much like depression does.) Anxious feelings prevent us from living in the moment and is physically uncomfortable. It takes away our enjoyment of hobbies, exercise, even breathing can be affected by anxiety and it can make us miserable. This can be treated with medication, relaxing mental practices, yoga, or anything that seems to help reduce anxiety. Depression can also be treated in a similar way.
Anonymous
June 23rd, 2017 1:56pm
Something that helped me was finding something I really enjoyed doing, such as playing music or journaling, and I did that whenever I felt myself start to become overwhelmed. While doing these activities, I would end up not thinking about my depression. I find that focusing on a task that involves using your brain during the entire process helps me.