I have experience working in University College counseling centers, and am passionate about working with young adults. My work with clients is collaborative and supportive.
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April 8th, 2015 11:46pm
I like to make a plan and be really kind to myself. I write down all the things that are causing me stress or to feel low etc. and I put the list away some where. Then I try to have a me day, I slowly do things for myself, get out of bed, eat, take a shower/bath, for me tidying helps clear my mind, do some relaxation. When I feel more calm I look at my list again - I make two more lists, things that are in my control and things that are out of my control. I will try to work at the things that are in my control and tell myself that what is going to happen with the rest is going to happen if I worry/think/stress about it or not. It doesn't solve everything but it helps make some things a lot more clear and I can cope a little better.
In my experience things that helped were using my support network -- and expressing how I was feeling. The worse thing I did was trying to hide away , it just magnifies the feelings and made me feel so alone.
Taking small steps and goals that are achievable, using resources that are already available to you or are easy to access. Rewarding yourself constantly after accomplishing small and big task such as going for a short walk, completing a house hold chore etc. other things that can help you to cope is to do positive activities that you enjoy such as cycling, swimming, ringing a friend or relative, listening to relaxing music, reading a book, watching a movie, talking to a listener on 7cups (we are always here to listen to you!)
I find that it helps to take a moment to just relax and be in the moment. Take deep breaths and clear your mind. Ground yourself by thinking about where you are, how your surroundings smell, look, feel, feel every breath in your body and notice where the air goes. Sometimes, just taking a moment to "be" can really bring you to a better state.
I've found that doing something I love and devoting everything I have into it can be if not relaxing, give me something to care about. If my entirety is focused on something I truly love (for me it's music), I can escape from the world for a bit and simply immerse myself in the experience. Doing that lets me let go of stress, anxiety, or simply not feel them for the moment, and it can be difference between struggling to cope and finding a moment of calm outside of the insanity that life can be.
When I feel that way, I go to a place I feel safe, and cry it out. For me, I like to go to my linen cupboard, crawl in there and sit in the pitch black. I try to remove other stimuli so I can focus on my thoughts and my body. I allow myself to break down and sob. It helps me although I know it doesn't help everyone. I let my thoughts go to the worst places and think things I know aren't true. Then when I have finally got it all out, I go somewhere else, write out all my problems methodically, and come up with better ways to think about them. I cross out the things I know aren't true. I reword things I have made worse in my head. I figure out which problems are legitimate, and try to figure out what I need to do to work on them. After Im done, I am exhausted, but clear headed and calm.
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January 28th, 2017 9:38pm
I feel like when I want to get my mind off things but still have something to do think of your interests. I like to color and draw while I listen to music or watch some Netflix sometimes. I believe that we all have a passion for something you just have to find it.
I have several things that I do when I feel low. I practice things such as self care. Self care is basically doing things that make you feel good about yourself. It is individual to the person. It can be something as simple as watching a comedy or it can be a trip to the hair salon. Whatever it is, it is what you need to do in order to feel good about yourself. :)
When you're feeling low and can’t cope always turn to something or someone that will make you happy. it mightn’t always be a person such as family or a significant other. It could be a pet, a posession, a hobbie or sport for example. The worst thing you could do is stress about things. If i'm feeling low i usually listen to music, sometimes even sad music can make me feel better, although others may disagree and like to listen to happier music. In my opinion whatever takes your mind off whatever is making you feel low will help you cope better :) ❤️