What kind of things help when you feel so low you can't even cope?

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Last Updated: 11/12/2018 at 9:52pm
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Anonymous
April 8th, 2015 11:46pm
I like to make a plan and be really kind to myself. I write down all the things that are causing me stress or to feel low etc. and I put the list away some where. Then I try to have a me day, I slowly do things for myself, get out of bed, eat, take a shower/bath, for me tidying helps clear my mind, do some relaxation. When I feel more calm I look at my list again - I make two more lists, things that are in my control and things that are out of my control. I will try to work at the things that are in my control and tell myself that what is going to happen with the rest is going to happen if I worry/think/stress about it or not. It doesn't solve everything but it helps make some things a lot more clear and I can cope a little better.
Anonymous
June 23rd, 2015 11:43pm
In my experience things that helped were using my support network -- and expressing how I was feeling. The worse thing I did was trying to hide away , it just magnifies the feelings and made me feel so alone.
heavenlySun21
May 24th, 2015 10:26pm
Exercise has been shown to rebalance dopamine and serotonin chemicals in the depressed brain much like anti depressants
Anonymous
May 28th, 2015 2:02pm
i look for options, talk with my therapist, try exercising, or even look for friends to vent to... there are so many options out there, search within yourself and the answers are there...
Anonymous
June 10th, 2015 7:36pm
Talk about your feelings. Look for that person who you can trust and will listen to you. It helps you to extract the bad things that you are holding within you it and gives a you great relief.
Larzy
September 1st, 2015 11:00pm
Spoiling yourself may help, Doing what you love.
lovelyLake94
December 15th, 2015 2:43am
Pets help me get through low times. When a cat purrs and when a dog licks your face. And playing with them.
Lirra
December 20th, 2016 11:49am
When I feel that way, I go to a place I feel safe, and cry it out. For me, I like to go to my linen cupboard, crawl in there and sit in the pitch black. I try to remove other stimuli so I can focus on my thoughts and my body. I allow myself to break down and sob. It helps me although I know it doesn't help everyone. I let my thoughts go to the worst places and think things I know aren't true. Then when I have finally got it all out, I go somewhere else, write out all my problems methodically, and come up with better ways to think about them. I cross out the things I know aren't true. I reword things I have made worse in my head. I figure out which problems are legitimate, and try to figure out what I need to do to work on them. After Im done, I am exhausted, but clear headed and calm.
Tayyibah
April 3rd, 2015 8:57am
Taking small steps and goals that are achievable, using resources that are already available to you or are easy to access. Rewarding yourself constantly after accomplishing small and big task such as going for a short walk, completing a house hold chore etc. other things that can help you to cope is to do positive activities that you enjoy such as cycling, swimming, ringing a friend or relative, listening to relaxing music, reading a book, watching a movie, talking to a listener on 7cups (we are always here to listen to you!)
Storm48
April 16th, 2015 12:10am
I find that it helps to take a moment to just relax and be in the moment. Take deep breaths and clear your mind. Ground yourself by thinking about where you are, how your surroundings smell, look, feel, feel every breath in your body and notice where the air goes. Sometimes, just taking a moment to "be" can really bring you to a better state.
Ksha97
August 4th, 2015 6:37am
I take a deep breath, in my head , I try adopting a positive attitude saying it all gonna be okay, it is just a matter of time, tomorrow gonna be another day , my time to rise and shine is near
Clobeans
August 4th, 2015 8:31pm
knowing that there are people there for us like us here at 7 Cups of Tea helps me know that there are other people feeling this way and a lovely network there to help us feel better
Anonymous
September 21st, 2015 12:19am
im listening good music, go with bike on the wood and feel the air from there, recharge my battery, or i start make a new recipe of food
Anonymous
September 28th, 2015 8:35am
Things that help to be honest, is working out. For when I'm full of frustration and anger, I definetely workout. For feeling low, I rant about it/post relatable quotes on an app called 'Vent'. :)
Theupsid3
November 30th, 2015 6:46am
When I feel low I work out or train for soccer. Most the time a gym is available but when it's not I just head to the soccer field and put in some hours.
MovingForward23
December 15th, 2015 4:24pm
Music is a big one for me- When I am feeling low I like to slowly bring myself into reality wiht some motivational music. When I feel ready to begin to move, I meditate!
sydxxchristie
December 28th, 2015 6:41pm
Laying in bed until it passes, watching Netflix or movies, drawing, writing, talking, being with others.
Anonymous
January 4th, 2016 11:03am
Doing something that you love or being around people (or a person) that you love or that love you :)
CaringBrit
February 1st, 2016 12:37am
what i find helps when i feel so low i cant cope is distractions so stuff like hobbies, listen to soothing music , mindfullness excercises , journalling , gaming
Irenicus
February 2nd, 2016 4:08am
Listen to your breathing. Breath slow and deep. Go for a walk and get fresh air, even when all you want to do is be closed off in doors away from the world.
TheLoreWriter
April 4th, 2016 1:19am
I've found that doing something I love and devoting everything I have into it can be if not relaxing, give me something to care about. If my entirety is focused on something I truly love (for me it's music), I can escape from the world for a bit and simply immerse myself in the experience. Doing that lets me let go of stress, anxiety, or simply not feel them for the moment, and it can be difference between struggling to cope and finding a moment of calm outside of the insanity that life can be.
mistymountaindreamer
July 19th, 2016 8:26am
going into Nature, staying with the breath, listening to inspiring speakers/teachers or music, connecting with your own needs, for example for rest, peace, ease
Anonymous
July 26th, 2016 9:23am
I think music is good. Volunteering of going out of your way to treat a stranger to a meal or even exercise.
emmaisnotonfire
October 17th, 2016 5:18am
Talking it out or just watching YouTube really help. Sometimes you just need a moment to yourself with some music to sort your thoughts out.
Narby
October 17th, 2016 6:41pm
Talking/staying with people that i like and help me even if things are hard no matter what happens..
Anonymous
January 28th, 2017 9:38pm
I feel like when I want to get my mind off things but still have something to do think of your interests. I like to color and draw while I listen to music or watch some Netflix sometimes. I believe that we all have a passion for something you just have to find it.
CalmLily
February 20th, 2017 4:02pm
I have several things that I do when I feel low. I practice things such as self care. Self care is basically doing things that make you feel good about yourself. It is individual to the person. It can be something as simple as watching a comedy or it can be a trip to the hair salon. Whatever it is, it is what you need to do in order to feel good about yourself. :)
Bubbleycatylistener
November 12th, 2018 9:52pm
When you're feeling low and can’t cope always turn to something or someone that will make you happy. it mightn’t always be a person such as family or a significant other. It could be a pet, a posession, a hobbie or sport for example. The worst thing you could do is stress about things. If i'm feeling low i usually listen to music, sometimes even sad music can make me feel better, although others may disagree and like to listen to happier music. In my opinion whatever takes your mind off whatever is making you feel low will help you cope better :) ❤️