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Why do I keep feeling so worthless and how can I stop feeling this way?

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Last Updated: 02/02/2021 at 8:04pm
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Anonymous
March 2nd, 2015 2:05pm
One of the things that has kept me from realizing my worth was comparing myself to other people in terms of lifestyle, appearance, and achievement. They say life is a race, but it's only a race with yourself. It's a race to get better, and it was never a race against other people. I realized that my worth is dependent on myself -- on how I am as a person and how close I am to achieving what I want. We all live different lives, so there's really nothing to compare.
Anonymous
September 12th, 2016 3:09pm
by boosting your self esteem which can be done by setting simple and smaller goals and achievement and make progress
caringCara11
March 3rd, 2015 6:50pm
Feelings of worthlessness are common in today's world and you have every right to feel this way. You are not crazy or pathetic because you feel this way. Here's an exercise that I think may help. If it doesn't work for you, there are many others you can try, just ask! Keep a journal of all the things you appreciate about yourself and your life. Each day, write as many things as you can that you feel thankful for, both about yourself and about the people around you and your environment. This will tune you into more positive energy and as you flip through the pages, you will see over time how much you are actually worth - and you are priceless! :)
Anonymous
April 11th, 2015 10:46am
1. Because you believe that you're worthless. 2. By ceasing to believe that you're worthless. Message me, I'll show you how. -BeliefEditor
rivs
April 15th, 2015 10:43pm
if you think you are not up to par than I don't think you know how good you truly are. best thing to do I would assume is to overcome what makes you feel worthless and prove yourself wrong so at the same time your not and your right. everyone has value im sure you do too
FrostyFireworks18
April 26th, 2015 2:50am
I think that you need to find something to be passionate about, which will build up some confidence and pride which you're lacking. It's very common to feel this way, and you took your first step into getting out of this just by recognizing that there is an issue. If it is like a 24/7 feeling than you may want to consider talking about this with a professional. Everyone has a purpose on this earth but some of us haven't found it yet, and it's never to late to find it.
Anonymous
May 21st, 2015 9:45am
Its individually what goes through a persons life to make them feel worthless but ill tell you that youre not worthless
WilliamChadwick
June 8th, 2015 12:01am
You may feel worthless because you don't realise the successes of your life. Its very easy to get caught up in the negatives of your personality, life choices and success, while overlooking your achievements. I found that getting pro-active in exercise and my school work raised my self worth. Confidence in myself brought me self worth and removed my self loathing. Id recommend running and/or cycling. As they get you out in the fresh air and leaves you mind to wander.
fromthesea
June 23rd, 2015 2:53pm
Talk to someone about this! Talking always helps. Choose someone you trust and tell them what you feel, they will try to help you. Remind yourself that you aren't worthless but that you are worth it and that you are great. It will be weird in the beginning but not after a while! Just do things you like and try to love yourself :)
Alisa112
July 20th, 2015 2:03am
I remember being a little girl, perhaps 9 or 10. I had tried on a new dress that my mother had brought for me for picture day at school. It was a pretty dress. Pink and black with sparkles on it. I felt like a princess. I walked into the room to show my dad how awesome I thought I looked. He looked at me as I twirled around. When I stopped I look at him awaiting praise. When he finally spoke he said "nice dress, but your kinda fat. Lose some of that baby weight." I carried those words with me into all of my teen years and most of my twenties. It made me feel worthless and ugly. Never pretty enough or slim enough. I used to look at my reflection in the mirror. On the outside, my body was curvy but fit from the exercises I used to do. But all I saw looking back at me was that fat little girl in the pink and black dress. As I grew up I learned to accept myself and love myself for me, flaws and all. I learned that even though I wasn't perfect I was still beautiful in my own way. With positive self talk and some therapy, I realized that the only person I needed to feel beautiful for was me. Though I have my moments where I avoid the mirror all together, I'm far from where I used to be. I'm not worthless. I am special and important and most of all beautiful. For whom you ask? For the most important person. Me. And do you know who is also important and beautiful. You.
JillieJillie
November 16th, 2015 8:23am
At some point in your life you stopped believing in Santa Claus.... Maybe someone told you he wasn't real. Something stopped you believing in him..... This would have occurred with you too. At some point someone told you that it wasn't ok to love yourself or believe in yourself and they probably were nasty enough to give you reasons why too. WELL! Either start believing in Santa again or believe in someone even more special.... you!
Sasha3
November 1st, 2016 12:57pm
We generally feel worthless because we plan a lot and do very little. Most of us have great plans for ourselves but when it comes to taking action, that's where we falter. We can stop feeling worthless by actually taking a step towards achieving our goals. No matter how small the step may be, the first step is the most vital one. It gives us a sense of achievement which will then be the motivating factor for our future steps. I faced this issue of feeling worthless recently and I tackled it well. I created an online spreadsheet and gave the link to my close friends. I then began to put in my monthly goals and daily tasks into it. I updated it regularly so that it can help me monitor my progress. The fact that my friend had the link made me work harder because I felt more responsible. I would like to end this by borrowing a quote from the Joker in batman. "Happiness is like gravity, All it takes is a little push in the right direction."
ElephantTiger1
May 3rd, 2017 5:45am
You are not worthless, remember that always. There is nothing that is worthless, everything has worth, everything has a purpose, everything has value. You can do amazing things, you have qualities that nobody else has you just need to be able to see the beauty in yourself; once you see your own beauty you will find your worth, you will know how special you really are, and you are special I know it
LimeCoke1999
February 2nd, 2021 8:04pm
Feeling worthless can stem from many different places. Finding the source of your sense of worthlessness is often a great first step. Talking to others about it, and finding those who understand what you are feeling can also have a tremendous impact on your struggle. Learning to value yourself is something that takes time, and active effort. It is not going to happen overnight, but with persist-ency, it is entirely possible. You have to wake up every day- telling yourself that you are worth it. You have to take care of yourself, as you would someone in need, to prove to yourself that you are worth the time and care. You have to stop yourself when you begin to criticize yourself and what you do. You are doing amazing things, every second of every day, without even realizing it... Realize it, and congratulate yourself. You are breathing, you are moving, you are trying, you are affecting those around you in a positive way. Me reminding you of these truths won't fix you, but telling yourself these truths, and eventually believing them, will make you see your self-worth.