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Why is my first thought each morning, how much I hate myself?

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Last Updated: 08/16/2021 at 6:42am
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Top Rated Answers
August 4th, 2015 1:16am
My guess is that you're going through some things that are very hard for you to deal with and that are overwhelming you. Your mind doesn't want to feel helpless, so it blames you, because if it's your fault then you must be able to make it stop.
April 25th, 2016 10:05pm
Id recommend writing down positive things in a notebook right next to your bed and every morning look at it, Its not fair of yourself to hate yourself, You have amazing traits just like everyone else does and shouldnt torture yourself like that :)
April 8th, 2015 5:36am
Sometimes when bad things happen we often blame ourselves which begins to suck the very life out of us causing low self worth ,love and eventually self hatred. when we continue to blame ourselves for all the bad things that happen and challenges we've had to face we wear ourselves down causing mental and emotional exhaustion.Some of us put ourselves down because of some flaw we may have such as feeling obese,awkward, or ugly which is a form of self rejection whilst others worry too much about how other people perceive them. Loving yourself is far more important than what others think of you. Not everyone is going to like, love or even accept you but that doesn't mean you are not worthy of love especially love for yourself!!!
June 30th, 2015 6:28pm
You feel tired in the morning, knowing a rush day is ahead. Just take a deep breath and keep your head up!
September 8th, 2015 8:26pm
Because you are letting it be. Each morning, tell yourself how wonderful you are even don't believe it. Eventually you will agree.
July 26th, 2016 1:50am
I think you've practiced too much negative self thought that you've began to believe that your thoughts are the truth as opposed to subjective opinion.
March 10th, 2015 6:01pm
The first thought is most of the time something you will always think about. So, if you're thinking about how much you hate yourself all the time, I believe that's what your first thought in the morning would be. I hope you can change the way you're thinking as I am sure you're a lovely person who deserves self-love!
March 10th, 2015 11:26pm
because you feel a lot going through your mind nobody hates you and you should NEVER hate yourself..
April 5th, 2015 3:35am
Because you haven't given yourself the chance to love yourself. Try going and doing things that make you happy, buy that dress you've wanted, or get the new album you've been wanting. After a while, you'll start to love yourself, bit by bit. It isn't easy but learning to love yourself is the biggest accomplishment there is. And I have faith that anyone can learn. Stay strong!
April 17th, 2015 1:55am
Its the thing you think about most and something your drawn to. Waking up is a constant reminder that you are awake and you are who you are. If you hate yourself you are just getting a reminder, like an alarm.
June 23rd, 2020 9:57pm
The thought might not even be coming from you, it could be what others are constantly feeding you. When it does occur look at yourself in a new light a positive light, imagine you’re someone you don’t hate and channel what being loved by you would feel like. Is that love warm? Is that love forgiving? Hopefully it’s both and many more benevolent things. Feel your love!💗 It’s special and whoever gets the honor to experience it should cherish it. So cherish it how anybody else receiving it should. It takes baby steps but one small step is better than none at all.
August 16th, 2021 6:42am
Sometimes we can focus on our flaws instead of the things that we find beautiful or that we are grateful for. While you may not think that you’re beautiful, many others will. Everyone has a different type of person they enjoy interacting with or admiring. I can assure you that your flaws is what makes you so wondrously unique and also will be what someone loves about you the most. Try and focus on what makes you love life. It may be music or it may be sunsets! Either way, it will let you find beauty in unconventional things. You’re just as amazing as the sunsets.
November 3rd, 2015 8:16am
I am bless and thankful to god cause still give chance to live in this world. really looking forward for exciting and awesome life. i never hate myself.
February 15th, 2016 1:23am
You may be thinking negatively at bedtime so before you sleep write down things you like about yourself
August 23rd, 2016 12:21am
It sounds like you are really struggling. I know it's hard. But don't stop fighting. You are not alone!
February 13th, 2017 1:19am
You worry too much about how you are. You don't have to be perfect. You hate parts of you that isn't worth hating.
January 9th, 2018 9:53pm
Every question that starts with "Why?" is very hard to be answered. We can't know all the reasons, but one of them could be that you haven't learnt to love yourself. But there is your chance to start learning it now.
February 6th, 2018 7:00am
You are being too hard on yourself. You first need to forgive yourself assuming there is even something to forgive in the first place. Realize that you are on this journey we learn from our hardships and weaknesses.
January 29th, 2019 2:57pm
Hating yourself can become a habit that you carry with you constantly. This can be a thought you overcome as you practice loving yourself, and learning how to change the pattern of your thoughts. I used to have the same thought each morning until I decided that I wanted to like me for a change, and started doing small things that improved my overall self esteem. I put positive notes all over my room and bathroom to remind me why I should love myself. I even had a small notebook and everyday I would write something new that I liked about myself, even if it was "I love that I enjoy croissants" Just so I could read over things I liked about me. Any negative thought and I had to wash it out with a positive one. You think about hating yourself first thing in the morning because that's all your mind thinks to do when it comes to yourself.
September 23rd, 2019 9:44am
I've lived most of my life with a parent telling me I couldn't do anything right, at some point I started believing it. It's not necessarily my first thought every day, but it does pop up at some point every day. Because of growing up in such a negative environment I've gotten into the habit of thinking negatively and ultimately sabotaging myself, confirming that I can't do anything right. I've often wanted to hate my parents for doing what they did, but I always go back to hating myself instead. No matter how much others tell me I'm doing well I just don't feel it
December 24th, 2019 5:18pm
Don't think of it as hate, rather as disappointment. All of us have our own expectations and goals set out for us, but when you sway away or do not meet them, we can be quite hard on ourselves. This goes back to how we were treated whenever we made mistakes or did not meet certain criteria. Ask yourself, how hard did you take those experiences emotionally? Were there any repletion of those feelings by yourself or anyone else? It's important to remember that we can't blame ourselves for how we were treated. The only thing you can control is how you treat yourself, and embrace the freedom and capability you have to love yourself.