Is skinny always considered a compliment?

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July 24th, 2016 12:01am
No, skinny is not always considered a compliment, and fat isn't always considered an insult. This is because it's just weight, and weight doesn't define you, and as long as you're healthy, I feel you can be whatever weight you want. You can wear whatever you want, and you an eat whatever you want. Just as long as you're happy, and healthy, then it's all good.
July 24th, 2016 4:59pm
Not always. For someone with an eating disorder, this can be triggering and even distressing sometimes.
July 9th, 2016 4:00pm
Not in my mind. I think that there's a level of too skinny where you just look like a skeleton with skin. It's a lose-lose situation because you can't be too fat or too thin. But if you're healthy, I think that should be the goal. no matter the number on the scale.
July 14th, 2016 9:14pm
Nothing is ALWAYS used as a compliment. It usually depends what context it is in or the intent behind it. Someone could say, "She's really skinny, she's so cute!" Or they may say, "She's really skinny, I think it's gross." It ALL depends. And at the same time it may not be used as an insult OR a compliment, they may just be describing appearance In my personal opinion someone could be a size 0 and have a terrible personality and look like a hobo. And someone who is 200+ pounds may be extremely sweet and have an amazing fashion taste AND vise-versa. Weight should not define someone. It may be used as a compliment, insult, or just a descriptor. It's all about context.
February 1st, 2018 1:59am
For the majority of us, yes! There is a massive pressure on society (especially females) to be and look skinny; and skinny right now is a praise and the in thing - where as being 'fat' is the total opposite. It hasn't always been this way though - for a long time skinny was unattractive and 'curvy' was the in thing. Quick history lesson: it actually comes back to the much older days where if a person was 'fatter' they were beautiful because they had more food to survive, and therefore healthier. I think in a way we're trying to change these sorts of compliments; people can be any size and still beautiful and worthy.
April 13th, 2018 3:09am
No, sometimes it may end up being taken harshly and hurt someone's feelings. Try complimenting personalities over looks.
July 1st, 2018 1:56pm
In todays society, 'skinny' can be insulting as it can be related to not eating enough, ect.... I wouldnt say 'skinny' is the best way to compliment someone....
July 14th, 2016 1:28am
Skinny isn't always considered a compliment in my opinion. It can be used in a condescending manner.
July 24th, 2016 7:56am
Not really its more of a way to express ones opinions some people like it some people dont. But it's just an opinion
July 24th, 2016 10:26pm
Not always. Some people don't like skinny people. Just like some people don't like big people. Some love them both. There is always going to be someone out there that doesn't like the way you like whether skinny, big, short or tall , but that's a part of life. Only your opinion matters when it comes to your appearance.
July 25th, 2016 1:43am
It depends on the context and I think it depends how that person tells you this. But how our society is, in general I think yes, it's a compliment.
July 30th, 2016 2:32am
I don't think skinny should be a compliment or insult, skinny just describes your weight. But what is skinny? Skinny can be unhealthy or very healthy. Even if its unhealthy skinny, if somebody is telling you that you're extremely skinny it could be because they care about your health.
July 31st, 2016 2:00pm
Not always, it depends on what the person that says it Likes, sometimes it's unhealthy and sometimes is a healthy to try to be skinny.
July 31st, 2016 2:17pm
No, not at all. Sometimes people address other people as skinny in a bad way, as if they're too skinny, have no curves etc. Skinny isn't always a good thing, and curvy/fat isn't a bad thing unless it's unhealthy :)
July 31st, 2016 3:35pm
It depends on the intentions of the person giving the comments! Usually, It is, but sometimes it can be used in a bad way.
August 2nd, 2016 2:38am
Being told that you are skinny can be very triggering for someone who has been in recovery from an eating disorder. It can remind them of how they once felt and could trigger a slip depending on where they are in their recovery process. Others who are still in the thralls of their eating disorder strive to be known as skinny. It really depends on the individual person.
August 3rd, 2016 3:48pm
Your weight is your weight. If you're skinny, you're beautiful. If you're average, you're beautiful. If you're fat, you're beautiful. You're weight isn't necessarily a compliment. Some people make fun of those who are skinny.
August 4th, 2016 4:19am
Not necessarily. Society and culture have attached a lot of extra meaning to the word skinny. It is hugely based on context, but it would be nice to step away from commenting on people's bodies.
August 5th, 2016 2:03am
No. People can be quite mean, any word used concerning your weight can be derogatory. The only thing you can be is yourself.
August 5th, 2016 3:59am
In my opinion, no. While yes, skinny is the beauty ideal for women in our society, not everyone will consider it a compliment. Not everyone is skinny by choice, it can be due to illness (mental or physical). In that case, telling that person how skinny they are could be offensive (if the illness is physical) or triggering (in the case of anorexia).
August 6th, 2016 1:25am
Not always. Skinny can be used to condescendingly say "you need to eat more", or "you are a walking skeleton". If you are healthy with a good diet and regular exercise you can assume they mean it as a compliment
August 8th, 2016 12:50am
No. To many people it may seem like it, but some people may not want to be seen as skinny. They want to be "normal". Or they maybe just don't want to be labeled by society's standards. While many people want to lose weight, others want to gain weight. Skinny is not always a compliment.
August 10th, 2016 1:28pm
Being "skinny" is not always a compliment. Sometimes being "too skinny" can be dangerous and unhealthy so it is good to try to find a balance.
August 20th, 2016 12:32am
That depends on two things: - How do you feel about being called skinny - The context skinny was used in.
August 20th, 2016 11:15am
No. Sometimes it means that people are really worried about you. You can deffinetly be too skinny.
August 25th, 2016 12:53am
If you personally like to be skinny than it is considered a compliment. But some don't like to be called skinny, so I think that case it may not be taken as a compliment.
August 25th, 2016 12:30pm
It depends on both the person giving the complement and the person receiving it. Many times we desire the opposite of others vision of healthy weight.
September 1st, 2016 5:05am
No. There are many types of body that are appreciated. And many types of body shape that people would like to be.
September 3rd, 2016 4:20am
Skinny is a quality. Just like fat is. Or blond hair is, Or brown eyes. It is what it is. Unfortunately, someone might have an idea that one quality is better than others. The important thing is that you can appreciate your body and mind for what they are, and work towards being the best you - WHATEVER that is. If you feel you are uncomfortable overweight, that's fine, you can eat differently, exercise etc. So long as you are doing it for your well-being and not for the satisfaction of others. Because no matter what you look like, someone out there is gonna love it. So it's best that you love you, however that is. ;)
September 4th, 2016 6:15pm
Our society sadly values one body type over others. However, not all comments on a person being skinny are always positive. It is important to develop a strong feeling of self worth regardless of your body type, because unfortunately people will always comment on other people's bodies whether skinny or not.