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Why can't my family get along well like other families?

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Last Updated: 09/27/2021 at 3:41am
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December 28th, 2015 7:14pm
My family doesn't get along well either and over time I have realized that it has to do with the fact that we are nothing alike. I've also noticed that I'm the only one that cares.
March 14th, 2015 12:17pm
Not completely sure on what exactly happens with your family, but trust me when I say that no family will get along 24/7. You're with those people for a very long time! You know how to make them upset, irritate them, what to do and what not to do, etc. It's normal to fight with your family, all families will have drama and conflict.
January 18th, 2016 4:06pm
First of all - what families? There is almost in every family some issues just hidden. Do not look at them from outside thinking they are perfect, because they not. We came here with intensive idea of family but it changes through years. If they do not get along, they do not have to. Let it go.
April 3rd, 2015 9:52pm
Every family has their own issues. Few things just take time to get better. Everything will be fine.
February 27th, 2015 4:00am
Each family is like a snowflake, unique. Ones family's strong-point is ones weakness. I know you feel alone, but I promise you're not.
September 12th, 2016 1:06pm
I don't believe we can ever truly know what goes on inside other families. Family members may present a public face and their private self might be very different. What are your thoughts on how to improve your relationship with your family members?
March 15th, 2015 3:36am
Its perfectly natural to have problems within your family i promise you no family is perfect
May 8th, 2017 8:25pm
When I grew up my family was really dysfunctional so I always thought I was the odd one out. That is how I saw it growing up. Then I realized it was normal for parents to ve divorced
February 25th, 2015 8:35pm
all families are different, no one is perfect, and no one is the same. its hard to say why not everyone gets along.. maybe talking might help?
February 2nd, 2016 2:49pm
It could be because your family members are going through a hard time, or is built on unhappy marriage. Neither of them are usually one person's fault.
May 30th, 2016 6:59pm
any family can have problems but because you are a family just find what the problems are and fix it
December 29th, 2015 9:09pm
Each family is different, and not all families get along.
April 11th, 2016 9:31am
Every family has their stories. Doesn't mean just because they look like a happy bunch in front of people in their home they do not face their own problems. Family are a lot of heads in 1 body u will have different opinions and all and the reason why u argue is because u care for one another.
September 10th, 2015 9:37pm
Everyone is different. Just like all families are different. No one is the same. Which is why this is not a one answer fits all. All families will go through some difficult times here and there. And for the most part that is normal for anyone. If you feel that your family is going through something that is interfering with your everyday life or family life, perhaps you can speak with a person you trust about how you feel. Perhaps you can speak with your own family about how you feel. You dont know what a difference it might make until you try. If you family is able, or needs to, perhaps speaking to a family counselor or therapist can help.
June 28th, 2016 5:29pm
Not all families are as perfect as they seem.despite the fact how great they look every family has their fights
February 29th, 2016 8:07pm
every family have their arguments, they just keep it personal so you're not supposed to know about their own arguments so even when they don't get along you think that they do
February 2nd, 2016 4:14pm
Each family is different and each has their own problems. You don't know what those other families don't choose to show you. You shouldn't compare your family to another, because each is unique!
August 7th, 2018 9:18am
Every family has its own uniqueness, the best thing to enjoy family is by thanking God every single day. Also every family has its own challenges. Have a faith that your family will be a great family and say it day and night. You will prosper and great.
June 28th, 2018 4:16pm
It depends on everyone's personalities and if there optimistic or a pessimist. Don't worry though, no one has a perfect family. Some fight and quarrel, others yell and embarass. It is a pretty normal thing. I jut want to let you know that your not alone and don't have to suffer. Okay?
September 27th, 2021 3:41am
I think many families experience struggles and difficulty getting along with each other. I have found that people often only discuss and post on social media the highlights of life and the good experiences and interaction they have. Personally, I have felt overwhelmed by drama going on in my family and just wanted to curl up or run away from the arguments and disagreements. However, when I spoke to friends of my family they sometimes mentioned that my family appeared so picturesque. This just goes to show that often the perfection you perceive in other people’s families is just that a perception, and it not actually reality. You are not alone and families can be really tough to deal with, but there are many others going through what you are going through.
August 3rd, 2020 3:45pm
I don't know, this is a question I'm asking to myself about my family too. Well, I think that a perfect family doesn't exist: what you see, it's what other family decide to show to you. It's no the truth, or maybe it's part of a bigger picture you don't know. In every family there are problems, fights, incomprehension with parents and sons and daughters, moment of anger... But, you see this only in your family because a lot of people want to keep secret and private their problems. Do you show exactly how your family is to other people or keep some things private because you don't want to talk about? Just relax, the perfect family doesn't exist, give to yours a chance!