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For as long as I can remember, when I get angry I feel the need to break things. I've tried things like screaming, kicking my legs in the air, punching pillows and punching bags, etc. What do I do?

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Last Updated: 04/14/2020 at 2:21am
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Top Rated Answers
insightfulSong46
March 26th, 2018 12:45pm
You should try to do some yoga or other stuff to make your mind calm. Calmness of your mind is pretty necessary..
LessonsLearned85
October 7th, 2019 11:34pm
I had the same problem for a long time. When I remember it first starting, I would punch whatever wall was around. After a while it would become only pillows. I got to the point where I not only didn't want to damage my home, or someone else's, but it became somewhat embarrassing. That's when I started looking for a better way to relieve the stress. I would punch pillows and things that wouldn't hurt me or something else. After a while listening to music would become my stress and anger reliever. Along with drives and walks. Just getting away from the situation and breathing helped me a lot.
BlueHope909
December 23rd, 2019 1:02am
You need to expel pent energy. Firstly thanks for venting it out safely, not on others. Imagine an action seq & act/ mime it in drama. Meaning think of something you are angry about put it into your imagination, work out on it till you solve it or break it down in your fantasy world. Dance with yourself, imagine yourself against Tyson in heavyweight boxing or MMA. Fight your opponent of your creation. Once vented out safely, list down what are you angry about? How legally and logically to resolve that issue. Use your emotional content to power through to your solution
ShootingStar30
April 14th, 2020 2:21am
Hi, I understand that anger can put you into a frustrating situation and you body constantly wants to kick it out in some or the other way. But in the process of relieving yourself from anger by taking up activities that will ultimately harm you can do further damage and might not be the most helpful thing. Sometimes, talking out loud about the thing that bothers you so much to a friend or a family member or someone who you trust can help you deal with it better and can lead to a positive outcome. I hope this helps.