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How do I keep it all inside, but not blow up on people?

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Last Updated: 04/16/2018 at 12:55pm
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professionalEmbrace58
March 28th, 2015 7:21pm
You shouldn't keep it all inside. If you feel something, you need to allow yourself to feel whatever it is that you feel. It's always healthier to talk out, or write down what you're feeling rather than keeping whatever it is that is troubling you or making you feel bad locked inside. You can take a walk, write down what you feel, focus on your breathing, practice what you would say, think about how you're feeling and how to deconstruct your thoughts. These can calm you down and allow your to control your possible feelings of frustration or anger.
dyed
January 15th, 2015 11:38pm
There's nothing your can do without unhealthily suppressing your emotions. You can find a person who you express yourself to, either it be a listener or a close friend.
Greatlistener87
August 1st, 2016 5:48am
The idea is not to bury it but to deal with it. With the correct time and space you can deal with whatever it is that you have inside so that you don't blow up because you have too much suppressed inside.
seabubbles16
April 16th, 2018 12:55pm
You can't. You have to talk to someone. It will make a difference because if you do 'blow up' then it will have consequences. Don't worry though you can talk to someone about things here, it will truly help!
DipityEnigma
April 16th, 2015 4:33pm
The worst thing you can do is keep it up all inside but you can come onto sites like this and just talk it out. Even start to write a diary if you don't already have one. When you're upset, write your feelings on a memo in your phone, on a piece of paper or talk to someone anonymously.
PrettyPeonies
August 3rd, 2015 12:42pm
I found that writing my thoughts and feelings down into a journal helped me to not blow up on people, as it was a kind of release/outlet, yet still keep it to myself, as the journal was/is for my eyes only.
lilymoo81
December 28th, 2015 11:50pm
When I am struggling to control strong emotions I will take a "time out" to write down my feelings. I keep a small notepad with me at all times. I will take a few moments and write out on paper exactly what I am feeling and then why I think I am feeling that way. Usually just having the chance to focus on writing instead of reacting helps to control the emotion. Later, when I have more time, I can re-read what I've written and reflect.
Youareberrybeautiful
November 8th, 2016 4:35am
I recommend counseling. One things for sure and that is keeping things inside is unhealthy it is one of the main reasons people blow up at each other. Find a way to express your feelings look for passion.
BlissfulSummer
February 14th, 2017 6:08pm
It is difficult to keep things bottled up inside and it effects not only us but also others around us so maybe one can keep a journal or diary where they can write it down , it sometimes makes people feel better.