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How do I keep it all inside, but not blow up on people?

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Last Updated: 02/09/2021 at 6:13pm
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March 28th, 2015 7:21pm
You shouldn't keep it all inside. If you feel something, you need to allow yourself to feel whatever it is that you feel. It's always healthier to talk out, or write down what you're feeling rather than keeping whatever it is that is troubling you or making you feel bad locked inside. You can take a walk, write down what you feel, focus on your breathing, practice what you would say, think about how you're feeling and how to deconstruct your thoughts. These can calm you down and allow your to control your possible feelings of frustration or anger.
January 15th, 2015 11:38pm
There's nothing your can do without unhealthily suppressing your emotions. You can find a person who you express yourself to, either it be a listener or a close friend.
August 3rd, 2015 12:42pm
I found that writing my thoughts and feelings down into a journal helped me to not blow up on people, as it was a kind of release/outlet, yet still keep it to myself, as the journal was/is for my eyes only.
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August 1st, 2016 5:48am
The idea is not to bury it but to deal with it. With the correct time and space you can deal with whatever it is that you have inside so that you don't blow up because you have too much suppressed inside.
April 16th, 2018 12:55pm
You can't. You have to talk to someone. It will make a difference because if you do 'blow up' then it will have consequences. Don't worry though you can talk to someone about things here, it will truly help!
April 16th, 2015 4:33pm
The worst thing you can do is keep it up all inside but you can come onto sites like this and just talk it out. Even start to write a diary if you don't already have one. When you're upset, write your feelings on a memo in your phone, on a piece of paper or talk to someone anonymously.
December 28th, 2015 11:50pm
When I am struggling to control strong emotions I will take a "time out" to write down my feelings. I keep a small notepad with me at all times. I will take a few moments and write out on paper exactly what I am feeling and then why I think I am feeling that way. Usually just having the chance to focus on writing instead of reacting helps to control the emotion. Later, when I have more time, I can re-read what I've written and reflect.
November 8th, 2016 4:35am
I recommend counseling. One things for sure and that is keeping things inside is unhealthy it is one of the main reasons people blow up at each other. Find a way to express your feelings look for passion.
February 14th, 2017 6:08pm
It is difficult to keep things bottled up inside and it effects not only us but also others around us so maybe one can keep a journal or diary where they can write it down , it sometimes makes people feel better.
December 14th, 2020 5:37pm
Blow up not on people. You don't deserve to keep it all inside, that's unfair and unhealthy. You have to let it out in a good way, not on other people. This can be through screaming into a pillow, breaking something you don't need anymore, listening to loud music, scribbling aggressively, etc. Whatever it is, it gets out all your emotions. And it makes you feel calmer. Therefore you can live with not blowing up on people, but not bottling it up inside which will just make the urge to get it out on other people even stronger. :)
February 9th, 2021 6:13pm
I've learned from experience that holding things in doesn't make anything better. It actually makes things worse because when you choose to keep your emotions in eventually they come out in a worse way. Mind a way to think about how you feel and then calmly express yourself to whoever you need to. Lashing out can cause tension and even ruin a relationship. But you still need to get things off your chest. Bottling things up doesn't help anything. Try make a list and writing how you feel out then think of how to kindly tell others how you feel. :)